“Whose sperm is this?” she asked me once. Maybe it was the first time. “It’s mine,” I said. I didn’t know what else to say. I had paid for it. No one else was coming to get it.
“Sometimes, when you’re in the business of parenting, you have to phone a friend for a bit of perspective and advice. Sometimes, you have to phone more than one.”
Did you once kill a wasp with your bare hands so it wouldn’t sting your daughter? Did you raise a thriving family in a homophobic community? Was there some seemingly insignificant moment that was anything but which made you realize that you were unstoppable in your own unique way? We want to hear about it!
She didn’t say “I have suspected this for years and I still love you.” It went more like a Scared Straight kind of thing but instead of scaring me about drugs and a life of crime, she wanted to scare me straight, straight. “Just Say No to Lesbianism” straight.
Aimi and Victoria Leggett wanted to have their son baptized into the Church of England but were rejected by the local vicar. Thankfully, the rest of the Church of England also thinks this is ridiculous.
“As a lesbian mom, it was especially hard to fight the urge to do the “right” thing, however slippery a concept that was, because I was representing a community, not just myself, I thought.”
From politics to high school graduation, we’re moving on up.
I want us to all take a moment to let this sink: according to the largest study on same-sex parents and their children ever conducted, the kids are not only okay, but in some ways more well-adjusted than the children in heterosexual-parented families.
Happy Mother’s Day, queermos!
The American Academy of Pediatrics has released a lengthy report based on 30 years of researching explaining why banning same-sex marriage “for the children” doesn’t make any sense.
Sometimes the gulf between my own experience and “typical” parents is the same as that between parents and non-parents. And yet, on a fundamental level it’s also the same joy and the same challenge that we all face.
“She (or he) is roughly the size of an avocado.”
Zines for gender-neutral kids, unschooling kids, kids and their parents, and totally Wild Children. BAM.
Focusing on the number or gender of individuals raising children distracts us from the reality that patriarchal power structures and unequal social institutions are what really make things disadvantageous for children.
A new study shows that boys raised by lesbians are properly gender socialized. Um, yay?
“This study cannot answer political questions about same-sex relationships and their legal legitimacy.”
Jamie’s Team Pick: What to expect when you’re expecting, and identify as a butch dyke.