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+ At the Hairpin, Lindsay King-Miller answers questions about infatuation versus romance, how there is no one true act that defines lesbian sex, whether it’s to bring your girlfriend to a wedding and playing games versus rejection when someone hasn’t texted you back:

“Of course, your heart and your imagination are more than willing to concoct scenarios that explain why she hasn’t returned your message—maybe she’s really into you but she wants to make you chase her, maybe her phone was hacked, maybe she was abducted by aliens. The thing is, people who “play hard to get” make terrible girlfriends, because they require a constant push and pull of rejection and reassurance, and even if you do end up dating you’ll never really be sure where you stand.

And more importantly, most people who are into you don’t make you chase them. Usually the person described as “playing hard to get” isn’t playing, she really is hard to get—because she’s not interested. “

Andre Shakti and Sailor via crash pad series

+ Everyone is always so fascinated by how much sex everyone is or isn’t having and why. By “everyone” I am speaking based on “me” and “answers/questions from people who answered the Lesbian Sex Survey” and “based on the perceived popularity of articles discussing the same.” But this is so true: “Here is the real truth about sex frequency: The right amount for you is somewhere between none and some, depending”:

“because how much sex you should be having and with whom is not just about how much you want to have it. There’s also how much you can get it, how often, and layers of messages about when it’s OK to have it and with whom. Demographics—culture, gender, sexual orientation and religion all factor in on some level or another, to say nothing of actual sex drive. And then there’s body image, body shame, general shame, specific shame, your general confidence about your sexual abilities and sexual enticement factor.

And we haven’t even mentioned what’s going on with your junk yet, aesthetically or otherwise. These are all things that can influence, spur, or inhibit our sex drive, sexual desire, and place in a sexual landscape—and it can all turn on a dime too, depending on age, circumstances, mood. It’s a wonder we ever pull it off, all this boning.”

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+ Here is one way of thinking about sub space.

+ The best way to have sex when your partner is a lot taller or shorter than you is to broaden your definition of what sex is in the first place.

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+ Masturbate today.

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen wrote about packing with the soft Pierre Packer as a cis woman. She also reviewed the Form 5 from Jimmy Jane, which is terrible.

figleaves via the lingerie addict

+ It’s pretty easy to not be a jerk about watching porn, actually:

“If porn, then, can be best understood as “fantasy created by professionals” — not as a form of sex trafficking, not as an educational resource, and not as some gratis favor to the internet — then those who watch it can best be understood as consumers. It’s still taboo, though, to identify as such. People who pay for porn, who support the professionals behind it, are still stereotyped as People Who Need To Watch Porn — and even worse, people who aren’t savvy enough to get it for free. But, as with anything else in a market, if we don’t support what we like, it’s going to disappear.”

Sperohh photographed by Dontez Akins

+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: “6 Special Ideas About What Lesbian Sex Is, 1900-1953“:

“When young girls are thrown together in a college setting they manifest an increasing affection by the usual tokens. They kiss each other fondly on every occasion. They embrace each other with mutual satisfaction. It is most natural, in the interchange of visits, for them to sleep together. They learn the pleasure of direct contact, and in the course of their fondling they resort to cunni-linguistic practices … after this the normal sex act fails to satisfy [them].”

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