So this girl Constance McMillen wanted to take a girl to prom, and wear a tux, and the principal was like hell to the no, and then the ACLU got involved, and then the school just decided it would be better to cancel prom altogether. Why are they so afraid of how cute girls look in menswear? No but srsly.
We have a feeling, even though we are old, that some girls are bringing girls to homecoming/prom/fancy-wear day dances these days. Amirite? Are you one of those girls/boys? Well let’s celebrate those photos everyone is so f*cking afraid of! VISIBILITY, LADIES!
Send us your prom photos!
1. Email your photo to autostraddle [at] gmail [dot] com.
2. We won’t publish your name [unless you give us permission] but…
3. If you can, we’d love to know when & where the photo was taken — city/state & year of the event.
4. We’ll start putting up the gallery this evening and keep building it as we get submissions. [You can see it here in this post, or on its own page.]
5. If absolutely necessary we can smiley-face over your ex-girlfriend if she’s really crazy or a famous tennis player.
6. Everyone who sends in a photo will be entered to win a $25 Amazon.com Gift Certificate, we’ll draw a name at random on Sunday and announce it in the Sunday Funday.
7. When you’re done with that, check out LezGetReal, where the ladies are putting a full-court-press on Ellen (yah, that ELLEN!) to organize a prom in Mississippi so this girl can freakin’ go!
And let’s hope that come springtime, we’ll be able to add Constance McMillan and her ladyfriend to the gallery.
Tell everyone! Tweet this, put it on your facebook, — we wanna see a bajillion cute gay faces ready to embark upon the most overrated night of their lives — fight the lesbian shaming.



196 responses to “Hey Lesbians, Did You Take a Girl to the Dance/Prom? We Want Your Photos! (Now, WITH GALLERY!)”
Omg this is so perfect, my gf wore a tux, I’m submitting now.
Any girl that did has my total and complete respect. YOU ARE GODS.
Didn’t go with my girlfriend- but my prom photo is me and 7 other girls- i’m so submitting that (even if just for the bragging rights!)
Does it count if the dance was winter formal? If so I have the perfect picture.
yes! we’ll accept any formal / fancy event that you attended in high school!
oh man I wish! My senior year I asked my girlfriend to prom. I told my besties that I invited her, and subsequently shunned.
Salt in the wound? My gf cheated on me with a boy after that.
I have photos of me and my gay bf, and maybe some group photos of gay prom. Does that count?
I went to prom with a gay guy. Of course, neither of us knew we were gay back then.
I feel like i did too, but he was also a budding young republican politician-to-be.
So you went to prom with Rod from Avenue Q?
dittoooo
oh, I am also in this boat.
have good journey you see me soon!
Same here!
I went to a homecoming with a gay boy. We were both ‘straight’ then too… and sort of dating, although I suspected that *he* was gay at the time.
Me too! He was out to my group of friends, though, if not to the whole school; I was still in denial.
The second time I went to prom, I went with my gay bf and we had matching hair. It was pretty much the best date ever.
Same-sies. Went to prom with my lesbian best friend.
Are you serious? I get a default “surprise, Taylor” gif! Someone please tell me how to change my picture immediately!
I went to my Junior Prom with a gay dude and I skipped by Senior Ball to go out on the town with two of my best girlfriends. I hade no clue at the time that there was a reason I was avoiding straight guys, but it all became clear a few short years later!
I just sent my photo in!
I was prom Princess
Eryn! I can’t wait to see.
Frantically searching for pics…ahhh!
Yeah, so I went with a chick, but (unfortunately) we ended up being nothing more than friends. We both wore dresses, which was mostly forced on to us by our mothers…but we did look fantastic together…
Are you Mel with the awesome hat in the photos?
hee – no that doofus is me…& i’m lucky my girlfriend still loves me after I made stupid faces like that in all the photos, professional included
Dude I wish that was me! That hat is awesome!!!
I did indeed take a girl to prom. Picture has now been submitted.
I went to prom with a girl but we weren;t dating or gay so that prob doesn;t count. But she was the prettiest girl there!
I am looking forward to this. I had a dream that autostraddle had a yearbook and everyone submitted photos for the superlatives. .
I do think the whole situation is just absurd and I am sorry that it is happening to that girl and consequently to the study body having to pay for the close mindedness of a few.
ALEX MAKE AN AUTOSTRADDLE YEARBOOK GRAPHIC (in all of that spare time you have)!
I was too cool to go to prom or anything like that. Everyone always told me that I’d look back and regret not going. I’ve been laughing in their faces… until now.
this.
i wanted to go to prom with a girl! but she was all, let’s go as friends, so we both brought dates, and then had all sorts of pre-lesbian drama on the dance floor while our (male) dates watched from their seats. but that probably doesn’t count…
oh god, those pictures are so old, i’ll have to dig out a scanner to submit! hah
Took a boy, but years later hooked up with a girl from our table. I really wish someone would throw a prom for people out of hs who didn’t get it right the first time.
DITTO
Right?
i went to queer prom in college. does that count?
Sure why the hell not! Bring it!
Can I submit a group photo of gay prom, or a photo of me and my gay opposite-sex date and my high school’s prom?
i say yes!
Just an idea, in the spirit of homo-together humanity, but I betcha we could double this gallery and show the haters a thing or two if the boys were invited to play (i.e.: send some emails out to the folks who run like-minded blogs and websites for the guys – afterelton, etc.).
Girls in tuxes, girls in dresses, boys in tuxes, boys in dresses, and any combo therein…should prove the point.
My 2 cents.
i like everything about that idea except for the part where we have to email a bunch of websites… i’d say the response rate of one website to another website’s request/suggestion for this or that project they are doing is probs like 5%? that’s why we didn’t do that the first time around. but i dunno, if they all posted about it that would be pretty amazing, i wonder if they would…
I guess I made an assumption that there was more communication between you and the people who ran those sites, Riese…more like when you mention knowing the folks who run the lesbian blogs (re: when you were talking about the Lezzie awards).
“Cold calling” might not be fruitful, but you never know.
Know what? That came out wrong…
Didn’t mean to sound like a jerk.
Sorry
I went to a somewhat “alternative” school that was really cool with the gay, and I took a girl to prom. Picture submitted!
sadly i didn’t make it to prom, my friend and i sat on the steps of her house got really drunk and passed out in our dresses smh
my date was gonna be a boy anyway…so it worked out perfectly lol
BY THE WAY I LOVEEEEEEEEE THIS IDEAS GUYS!
My school was soooooo okay with being gay that a lot of gay people went in opposite-sex couples for funsies. Also it was boarding school, so we got taken to the place in school busses and then afterwards all went bowling. I went with my boyfriend obviously. Junior year went with my gay best friend. Seems like A LOT OF US WENT WITH GAY BOYS. Interesting.
We totally went to the same high school.
man im jealous of these prom photos lol someone should def do a nyc lesbian prom for those of us that didn’t go or those that went with boys!
This are the most adorable and awesome photos I have EVER seen
Ugh this makes me soooo jealous.. my prom is coming up..I really want to ask this girl but i Dont have the GUTS to do it. Plus im already stuck going with a guy because I dint want to date him i told himid be his date…NOT FAIR!
I am part of the gay-boy date collective, as well. I wanted to go with a girl, but I was too scared to ask her at the time.
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everyone in these pictures = BEAUTIFUL. i feel so warm and fuzzy now!
oh my god I’M ON AUTOSTRADDLE (err, my picture is, anyways). This is so cool, you guys.
Now that my vanity is out of the way, everyone in these pictures are beyond adorable. Seeing picture of happy gay girls all dressed up is the perfect way to end my day.
Haha I pretty much feel the same way.
you have the cutest smile in that picture!!
lol thanks
Whatup allie above me!
I’m on here too hollaaaaa!
Holla! Way to spell Allie the awesome way!
(totally kidding, people who spell it ali or ally or alli who hate me now)
I mean, it’s the only way to spell it, right?
[you guys]this is all so very confusing
too many Allies!
Last year I went to prom in a big group. :/ I wish I had a cute date like all of you lovely ladies! Shoot. I got asked if I wanted to wear a tux for senior portraits though, but I declined.
Yeah, those pics give me a serious case of the warm and fuzzies. I’m gonna go snuggle up to something warm and lesbian riiiiiight now.
I would like to purpose a collage of these photos be put on billboards throughout the county of Itawamba. I am sure it would not be hard to find donors for this!
aww how adorable!!
We didn’t have a concept of prom in school in Malaysia (moral panic over teenagers being sexual + Western culture panic) so I didn’t have my first “prom”ish experience till college ball. Which is where I met my guy. Though a few minutes earlier and I might have got the courage to ask a female friend out ahahaha.
eee squee. I feel like coming up to all of you and pinning corsages and pinching your cheeks like a proud mum.
this is super win.
AWWW our readers are so cute.
p.s. i spy someone who should be dragging her delinquent girlfriend to philadelphia so that we can all wreck havoc together stat!
Looking at the photos made me unexpectedly tear up a wee bit.
So my vision was a little blurred when I mis-read ‘dragging’ as ‘shagging’ as I flicked down through the comments.
lauuuuuuuuuraaaa wooley i was in your hood at like 3 in the a.m. yesterday en route back to d.c. as far as i’m concerned, it’s your fault we haven’t seen each other yet.
/mhm
This is so lovely! we weren’t even allowed to go stag at my school! *cough*catholic school.
How long are you going to take submissions? I really want to submit but our prom is March 27.
actually i figure that we could keep taking submissions forever? we also have another page where the gallery is, like we do with all our galleries. i mean the contest will end this weekend but we can keep taking photos!
Aww, I wanna win a contest for bein adorable. That’s okay though. I’ll totes submit later
so cute! so cute! so cute! be older…and single…and live around me!!!!!!!!
My g/f submitted a pic with her ex…ohhhh so cute-i went to prom with a boy :/
haha mine, too, but whatevs, we got em now right?
i went to prom stag, despite actually having had a girlfriend at the time, but it was just really something i ended up feeling too cool/lame for anyway.
I went to prom with my best friend who went to an all boy school. i love him to death but if u go to a school with only one sex u can basically only dance with ur date cuz otherwise ur hitting on someone’s boy or girl friend. haha
mine too!
buttttt i don’t know if i would’ve even had the idea to put together this gallery if i hadn’t known that my g/f took her girlfriend to prom in high school in 2003 and surely she couldn’t be the only one. so there ya go, magical exes.
Everyone is so cute! I just watched the Telephone video! I have a lot of things to say about it! Hi!
Also I went to prom with my best guy friend. It would have been sooo not okay for a same sex couple to go. Seriously, a couple of years before, my school was going to refuse to sell tickets to an interracial couple. Ridiculous.
I had a boyfriend throughout high school, so all my dance photos are of me and him.
My girlfriend went to some other chick’s prom as her date, but she doesn’t have any pics! DAMMIT
These photos should give every girl that’s too afraid to ask the girl of her dreams to prom some confidence.
I only went to my junior prom and I ended going with my best guy friend (straight, unfortunately) only because I was mad at my girlfriend at the time. Very stupid reason, I know, and now I don’t have any cute pictures to show for it.
Yeah the next Autostraddle party should maybe be prom-themed for all of us poor who never had a chance.
*poor girls
Not “poor” like Kelly Kapowski, who had to have “Zack and Kelly’s Prom” outside the real prom because her dad didn’t have enough money to buy her a dress.
every one of these photos are adorable!
This photo gallery is definitely inspiring a Mean Girls moment:
“I mean, I think everybody looks like royalty tonight.”
Awesome.
Aww the photos are lovely! Well done to all involved.
I SEE MY FRIEND. That makes me smile. These are awesome pictures!
I went to about three balls at highschool. First two I went with male friends of mine, leaver’s ball I went by myself! And got to awkwardly dance with my Dad and shake the bishop’s hand. Yay catholic girls school!
Oh my god, this gallery is adorable explosion. It’s making my heart swell. You guys are so cute — thanks for sending and keep ‘em coming!
these pictures are making me so happy! I went to prom with a gay guy…this makes me want to dig through my mom’s photo albums to find the pic…hold please
We didn’t have a prom or any fancy ball. Coupling is not exactly encouraged (conservative asexual Buddhist much?) but I would’ve asked a girl out or went with a really close guy friend (who’s now queer too).
i have to scan mine in – from 1993! luckily, by then, any embarrassing hair cuts were in the past. i was particularly proud in my tux and tails, though, because although my date was straight, she was the cutest cheerleader in the school, and she turned down all her other offers to the prom and told all the football players she was going with me! this is one of the nicer memories i have of high school.
ROCKETDYKE!
this makes me smile. mad congrats to all the self-aware and willing to be out high school (or college for some) people. some of us needed to be hit over the head later in life to come to our senses.
though I can join the “brought a guy who later revealed himself to be gay” club. he may or may not have been aware he was gay at the time–I don’t know.
OMG OMG OMG
Bethlehem, PA!
(I’m from there!)
What school were you guys at?
UM ME TOO!
well, sorta. right nearby.
seriously what school.
i went to salisbury which was teensy tiny and in atown.
Stalkers, GO!
Lehigh Valley REPRESENT.
OMG
I’m from south bethlehem! we only have fountain hill between us!
it’s a pretty big hill. but shs is like, right there. I actually live in ny now but was just home this past weekend! what do you think of SANDS.OMG.
i am leaving for bethlehem in t-minus an hour and a half!
SANDS SUCK BALLS!
We both went to the Lehigh Valley Charter High School for the Performing Arts on Broad Street, Bethlehem. it was pretty homosexual.
wow, that is definitely not a picture of me.
ohhh LVPA.
One year both the King and Prince were gay, so we had…three prom queens.
thanks for that!
it’s adorable!
all of you are adorable!!!
this is so awesomely cute guys
i never went to prom…i kidnapped my ex gf drove down to key west [from miami] and spend the weekend down there [lol down there, get it ...its a pun!]
it was fun but now i kinda regret it cause that whole relationship was effed up by her ex bf….but whatever, i digress
OMG Monica’s 80s prom photo is the best thing ever!
What a beautiful gallery. These pictures warm my heart so much that it’s melting. <3
I just submitted mine. woooo
Alex and her blue eyeshadow FTW
THIS.
Wow. You ladies have my utmost respect. If I could do things all over again, this is how I would have done it – out and looking fabulous.
Seriously, you are all amazing and brave little gaysoldiers (is that legal yet?) for the cause of love/highschool.
I’m very proud of each and every one of you! I feel like your mom.
Bye honey!
also,
STOP IT GUYS CUTESPLOSION
waaaaah everyone is so cute! YOU ARE ALL SO FREAKIN’ CUTE.
would you just LOOK at how freakin’ cute you all are?!
<3
I love them all. So cute. Monica from 1985! How cool are (were) you! Your girlfriend looks(ed)like a Quinn!!!!!!!!!!
The adorableness of this gallery totally un-Grinchifies my cold, cold heart.
Beautiful pics, people! Y’all give me hope.
My ex submitted a photo of us from her prom, which I went to as a female in a tux. I went to a wedding at my church immediately before her prom in that tux and the next week was asked to no longer be a prominent member in the church. Everyone deserves a prom!
This is the coolest post ever. The pictures are great. You girls rock.
what about the couple – Alex & Gabi – who went together BOTH YEARS.
omggg <3
Ah I know! I <3 them so so much!
LOOK HOW PERFECTLY COORDINATED THEY ARE. so adorable.
Gosh, I don’t have any pics (and /technically/ didn’t go with this girl), but one of my girl-friends who is openly gay wore me on her arm the entire evening. We had a blast!