“I think I’m willing to do this because I’m constantly aware that death awaits us all and I’m more inclined to want to heighten an experience if I can.”
“My armor was a smile, Santana’s was an insult. And bless her for it.”
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
*Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don’t!) and why.
“I like to think I’ve put my talking-back skills to great use as an adult who enjoys proving points and getting the last word and being right.”
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
“The thing is, if the people in your life respect you, they’ll give you the space to figure out where you’re comfortable. It’s YOUR name. You’re the person who has deal with it every second of your life.”
“I felt connected to her on a deep level — she is the only girl I’ve written an entire zine about — but wasn’t ready to really engage with it.”
“A bold lip is my femme secret to instant confidence. I could be wearing day-old sweatpants and bed head and a red lip makes me feel READY TO BE SEEN.”
“I had two stuffed animal bear friends as a child. Pretty tight crew, I know, but two bears was enough as I also had an imaginary friend who was an adult woman that I had to entertain. I was only one child!”
Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?
Here’s how we handle TV that lets us down, the shows we think successfully turned it around, and our ultimate dealbreakers.
“Sipping coffee in their sunny drenched kitchen was the first time I really saw myself. I could imagine it. I could see how I could be gay and still… be me.”
“I feel like this camp everyone really got to be their best, most honest and weirdest selves — for instance, and bear with me, when Sam and Riese and I created an intense trivia experience centered entirely around cults, true crime and murder and not only did people show up but many of the questions were TOO EASY FOR THEM.”
It’s not perfect, and last week’s episode on Kat’s identity really missed the mark, but there’s a lot to love about this queer, feminist show.
Here are the queer lady ships that made us/destroyed us; what are yours?
From the ostensibly refined collections like coins and stamps to the esoteric like taxidermy, there’s a wide world of stuff to gather out there! That said, most of us just own very specific types of books, but we thought you’d be into that too.
“Look, I’m sorry! Every year the concept of pride sounds great in theory and then when it actually rolls around, it’s like New Years Eve on acid.”
It’s truly magical when you can find a novel with lesbian or bisexual or queer characters that speaks to you and tells a damn good story.
What did we first take to the streets about?