“I hadn’t yet come to terms with being a lesbian, so I also spent a lot of time making excuses not to have sex.”
The first month of the year doesn’t have to be about making big changes, but for a lot of people, it is. In that spirit, here’s the Autostraddle team sharing with you the things they’ve changed in their lives that has meant the biggest improvement.
Tomorrow is a brand new year! Here are the words we’re thinking about when we think about 2019. Tell us the words you’re claiming in the new year! Tell us what you’re doing for New Year’s Eve! Tell us all your hopes and dreams! Tell us everything! We love you! Happy New Year!
“My style icon is Nancy Meyers’ interpretation of a middle-aged white woman after she’s decided to pull herself together sometime in the second act. Wow that is… I feel very called out by own self.”
“Amazingly, neither the training bra nor my actual boobs magically solved my very typical and very sad self-image issues.”
“My favorite thing in the world is when people ask if it’s a mood ring so I can say yes.”
We’ve packed and unpacked these items through several apartments, hung them up with care, and regularly touch the sleeves contemplatively although today could be the day. Reader, it’s not going to be the day! The day is not coming. Yet we can’t let go of these garments. Why not!
“I was going to do a story about trans women arming themselves? And all the edits we got back were like, ‘Can your characters look directly at the reader and quote trans murder statistics from last year?'”
“I’d actually never even seen a woman in a blazer before. Like a men’s cut blazer. It really was like Fun Home. Inside I really did feel like I KNOW YOU!”
“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”
“The way you can bring together Jews from all walks of life to share a holiday together over a meal made with love and a table filled with candles, wine and challah, and we can join together in song and laughter and interruption and feel quickly like family because, well, we are.”
“Ultimately, though, no one really wins, because to have won you’ve had to scream ‘peel’ on repeat until everyone hates you.”
These are the things that are gone from our lives now but we still think about and miss all the time.
A reader requested a roundtable where Autostraddle’s fat staff talk about how fatness, diet culture, and body positivity, relate to our queerness, identity, and gender. We aim to please, so here we are!
It’s LGBTQ History Month, and not a moment too soon! It’s absolutely necessary at this moment in time to remember some of the icons of our collective queer past who have overcome all kinds of adversity to change the world and our individual lives.
Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.
“As a kid, a lack of role models made me believe people like me just didn’t grow up — or at the very least, didn’t grow up to be happy and open. But now I see that being bisexual actually allowed me to form my own version of what happiness and the future look like.”
Raise your hand if you will buy all the school supplies whether or not you’re actually in school at the moment.
Just some of the many ways we ruin our lives after a breakup.
“I never went into it planning to be a monster, and I think that actually always made it worse.”