A reader requested a roundtable where Autostraddle’s fat staff talk about how fatness, diet culture, and body positivity, relate to our queerness, identity, and gender. We aim to please, so here we are!
It’s LGBTQ History Month, and not a moment too soon! It’s absolutely necessary at this moment in time to remember some of the icons of our collective queer past who have overcome all kinds of adversity to change the world and our individual lives.
Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.
“As a kid, a lack of role models made me believe people like me just didn’t grow up — or at the very least, didn’t grow up to be happy and open. But now I see that being bisexual actually allowed me to form my own version of what happiness and the future look like.”
Raise your hand if you will buy all the school supplies whether or not you’re actually in school at the moment.
Just some of the many ways we ruin our lives after a breakup.
“I never went into it planning to be a monster, and I think that actually always made it worse.”
In tribute to Lena Waithe, a few Autostraddle staffers got together to share the moment when they decided to cut their hair short.
“I think I’m willing to do this because I’m constantly aware that death awaits us all and I’m more inclined to want to heighten an experience if I can.”
“My armor was a smile, Santana’s was an insult. And bless her for it.”
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
*Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don’t!) and why.
“I like to think I’ve put my talking-back skills to great use as an adult who enjoys proving points and getting the last word and being right.”
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
“The thing is, if the people in your life respect you, they’ll give you the space to figure out where you’re comfortable. It’s YOUR name. You’re the person who has deal with it every second of your life.”
“I felt connected to her on a deep level — she is the only girl I’ve written an entire zine about — but wasn’t ready to really engage with it.”
“A bold lip is my femme secret to instant confidence. I could be wearing day-old sweatpants and bed head and a red lip makes me feel READY TO BE SEEN.”
“I had two stuffed animal bear friends as a child. Pretty tight crew, I know, but two bears was enough as I also had an imaginary friend who was an adult woman that I had to entertain. I was only one child!”
Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?
Here’s how we handle TV that lets us down, the shows we think successfully turned it around, and our ultimate dealbreakers.