Love Is Not a Lie, It Can’t Be
“It turns out I’ve been right all along: love is bigger than all that.”
queer friendships
You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
S L I C K: Come Inside
I should’ve masturbated in the shower. I need to be pushed against a wall. She smells like the ocean.
What Can Black Queer People Learn From the Lost Queer Joy of the Civil Rights Movement?
More than anything, this year, I wish black queer and trans people JOY. Martin Luther King didn’t fight that damn hard for us not to have a quality of life that comes with celebrating our joy and humanity first.
You Need Help: You’re In Love With Your Best Friend
“I want to be supportive and happy for her about this new relationship, but instead I have found myself feeling jealous and bitter. It has become increasingly painful for me to see her relationship progress.”
Reimagining Intimacy: Queer People on Touch and Closeness Outside Romance and Sex
We don’t ever grow out of our need for touch, though as we mature, that kind of intimacy tends to only be expressed sexually. But sexual intimacy isn’t the only type of intimacy there is.
Friendships Are Work, and It’s Worth It: Loving Your Friends Like You Love Your Dates
I want to talk about loving and investing in friendship with the same fervor many of us have been taught to treat romantic relationships only.
For Your Consideration: Introduction to Women’s Studies
I didn’t know then that Devon would become one of those women in my life who’s there for good, who I could not text for months and then suddenly dive right back in with. One of those friends who would show up, who would stay.
How to Make Adult Friends
“One thing most people don’t remember when approaching these kinds of situations is that the other person is likely terrified and nervous as well, worried about vulnerability and compatibility and wanting something too much.”
Also.Also.Also: Making Queer Friends as an Adult and Other Stories from Your Week
Snails, guns, Gilda Radner, babies inside the senate, Chavela Vargas, white women fucking shit up in a bad way, gay bars, Big Freedia, Janelle Monáe, clear backpacks and tampons, and so much more!
You Need Help: What To Do About the Jerk in Your Friend Group
What’s a compassionate queer to do when an insecure friend starts to make the whole group miserable?
You Need Help: You Don’t Agree With Your Best Friend’s Advice
I think she’s being the most supportive—and she’s exactly what you want in a best friend, because she’s in your corner and she’s supporting you as a whole person. She’s giving you some solid advice here—this is a bad idea. It is. Darling, this is a terrible idea.
The Speakeasy Presents the Magic of These Revolutionary QTPOC Friendships
Our QTPOC besties are vital to our existence so we wanted to create a list filled with our stories to celebrate just how magical they are.
How to Tell Who Your Real True Friends Are
“Go to your pantry and determine which shelf or space in the pantry is the dullest or darkest, ideally both. Remove everything from that space one item at a time. Put the cake mix in the farthest place back in that space.”