“It turns out I’ve been right all along: love is bigger than all that.”
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
I should’ve masturbated in the shower. I need to be pushed against a wall. She smells like the ocean.
More than anything, this year, I wish black queer and trans people JOY. Martin Luther King didn’t fight that damn hard for us not to have a quality of life that comes with celebrating our joy and humanity first.
“I want to be supportive and happy for her about this new relationship, but instead I have found myself feeling jealous and bitter. It has become increasingly painful for me to see her relationship progress.”
We don’t ever grow out of our need for touch, though as we mature, that kind of intimacy tends to only be expressed sexually. But sexual intimacy isn’t the only type of intimacy there is.
I want to talk about loving and investing in friendship with the same fervor many of us have been taught to treat romantic relationships only.
I didn’t know then that Devon would become one of those women in my life who’s there for good, who I could not text for months and then suddenly dive right back in with. One of those friends who would show up, who would stay.
“One thing most people don’t remember when approaching these kinds of situations is that the other person is likely terrified and nervous as well, worried about vulnerability and compatibility and wanting something too much.”
Snails, guns, Gilda Radner, babies inside the senate, Chavela Vargas, white women fucking shit up in a bad way, gay bars, Big Freedia, Janelle Monáe, clear backpacks and tampons, and so much more!
What’s a compassionate queer to do when an insecure friend starts to make the whole group miserable?
I think she’s being the most supportive—and she’s exactly what you want in a best friend, because she’s in your corner and she’s supporting you as a whole person. She’s giving you some solid advice here—this is a bad idea. It is. Darling, this is a terrible idea.
Our QTPOC besties are vital to our existence so we wanted to create a list filled with our stories to celebrate just how magical they are.
“Go to your pantry and determine which shelf or space in the pantry is the dullest or darkest, ideally both. Remove everything from that space one item at a time. Put the cake mix in the farthest place back in that space.”