Possibly your trauma history is being triggered out of context in this relationship – but maybe it’s not. YOU are the expert, no matter what your trauma history is.
“I just know it would end badly and I’m already stressed about it because of all the processing that would inevitably have to happen!”
If you, like me, have incredibly niche neuroses and intensive caretaker concerns that include providing your hook-up a breakfast to remember (or at least sustain themselves), these five quick, low-maintenance, dietary-specification-inclusive recipes are for you.
Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.
Let’s rebrand fall as Sex With Friends Season rather than Cuffing Season, yeah?
“There were a lot of snacks!”
Pop culture makes it easy to believe that having feelings for someone means you need to act on it. We explore why it can actually be healthy to have feelings for people without being attached to a specific outcome, or needing to tell them, and have you can process it on your own.
The best tops. Sorry not sorry.
A lot has been written about first dates — but what about the second date? The third? Beyond?
“Ok, I said I would never date a Sagittarius, and I am currently dating a Sagittarius and I… fucking love it.”
“I wouldn’t want to judge based on that limited experience. I will say while emotionally neither experience was positive, the sex was really, really good.”
We wanted to learn all there was to learn about each other, as crushes do — but the distance meant we actually did!
“I’ve dated several Leos and they were all very mean to me!!!!”
I’m not saying this summer will necessarily be a Summer of Breakups again — although it’s true there are two eclipses in Cancer season this year, yikes — but if you do find yourself suddenly among our number, I and many others are here to tell you that some semblance of a love life does exist on the other side of breakups, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Someone has gotta make the first move, or you’re gonna spend the rest of your life hyper-aware of the fact that two centimeters of your outer thighs are touching as you sit next to each other rigidly on the sofa watching Masterchef Junior.
I don’t know if I’m about to get murdered or married or literally never hear from her again. And I don’t really care??
Rumor has it you and your ex have found yourself potentially back in your feelings and might be considering dating again. Okay! Interesting! You do you, babe! I’m sure you’re fielding a whole lot of questions and judgements right now, depending on the situation, and probably could use some light guidance without judgement.
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
What is it you are unlearning? What are the narratives about yourself that you are unraveling from your heart like so much tangled yarn? And can you be gentle through the unraveling?
Coffee and drinks are easy, but why stick to what’s easy? Get creative, but not so elaborate that your date thinks you’re madly in love with them and about to propose.
In defense of daytime dates: they rule.