You may be wondering, do I really have to communicate directly about EVERYTHING? In short… yes! Well okay, in slightly longer: almost always yes.
A lot has been written about first dates — but what about the second date? The third? Beyond?
“Ok, I said I would never date a Sagittarius, and I am currently dating a Sagittarius and I… fucking love it.”
“I wouldn’t want to judge based on that limited experience. I will say while emotionally neither experience was positive, the sex was really, really good.”
We wanted to learn all there was to learn about each other, as crushes do — but the distance meant we actually did!
“I’ve dated several Leos and they were all very mean to me!!!!”
A relatable icon for adult dating is Real Women Have Curves’ Ana García bringing index cards of conversation topics to her first date.
I’m not saying this summer will necessarily be a Summer of Breakups again — although it’s true there are two eclipses in Cancer season this year, yikes — but if you do find yourself suddenly among our number, I and many others are here to tell you that some semblance of a love life does exist on the other side of breakups, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Someone has gotta make the first move, or you’re gonna spend the rest of your life hyper-aware of the fact that two centimeters of your outer thighs are touching as you sit next to each other rigidly on the sofa watching Masterchef Junior.
I don’t know if I’m about to get murdered or married or literally never hear from her again. And I don’t really care??
Rumor has it you and your ex have found yourself potentially back in your feelings and might be considering dating again. Okay! Interesting! You do you, babe! I’m sure you’re fielding a whole lot of questions and judgements right now, depending on the situation, and probably could use some light guidance without judgement.
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
What is it you are unlearning? What are the narratives about yourself that you are unraveling from your heart like so much tangled yarn? And can you be gentle through the unraveling?
Coffee and drinks are easy, but why stick to what’s easy? Get creative, but not so elaborate that your date thinks you’re madly in love with them and about to propose.
In defense of daytime dates: they rule.
“Honestly I love myself, and I think I’m super hot.”
Are you lonely? Horny? Stop being a muggle and act like the witch that you are. Have sex with a candle to summon your perfect partner.
A brief investigation into the particular phenomenon within same-sex relationships of same-name relationships. Are you okay with being Megan to her Meghan? Why??? I am listening.
Crushes are wild and often irrational, but I’m a Capricorn so I’d like to make them slightly more logical. Here’s how you can do that, too.
Whereas we are conditioned to expect a First Date, followed by landmarks like Carefully Crafted First Instagram Post as a Couple and Attending Family Event in Neutral-Toned Sweater, a gay relationship may look more like Be Codependent Best Friends for Three Years Before Realizing You’re In Love Without Ever Going on a Date, followed by Emotionally Turbulent Road Trip to Visit Your Ex’s Rural Co-Op Together.