Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
“My biggest relationship fear is that my desire to not be controlled means that I’ll be alone forever and never receive any feeling of comfort or security. Yikes! Typing that out was fun.”
We released a list of books to read at the end of March for those interested in getting started with polyamory and non-monogamy. These resources go beyond books to blogs, podcasts, movies… so here are eight podcast episodes to get you started on polyamory and non-monogamy during this lockdown!
Sweetly enough, it’s possible to have a shocking number of cute ass dates on Animal Crossing. I’m lucky to be quarantined with my girlfriend, but we’re running low on date opportunities.
Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
“Should I initiate a conversation with them about our relationship to see if they want more than a friendship? I’m afraid of embarrassing myself/making it awkward/losing the friendship.”
“She admired my tits like only someone else on estrogen could and then she grabbed them harder than anyone had before.”
Sleepovers are overrated.
Breakups are so often garbage and hard, and managing the social media that surrounds it is just another gross layer that makes them even more garbage and even harder.
It’s so easy to take a “no” personal and use it as justification to question your worth. However, there are a number of ways to intervene before this happens, and they’re all relatively simple.
Dating is an adventure for the daring and intrepid, often requiring resources like self-awareness, a group chat, clean jeans, and therapy. Sometimes it requires even more concrete things to throw into our bags before we leave the house!
Commit to your life, babe. Start today.
“We can still be together while I talk shit about your fucking cat.”
For those who believe in it, astrology can be a powerful tool for introspection and self-knowledge — or you can use it to talk shit about your ex and obsess over your crush. Journey with us as we do both, and then head to the comments to live your truth.
“As a Scorpio that has dated other Scorpios, I can state definitively that we are excellent at sex and secrets and not always great at other parts of relationships.”
The best Pisces I know are true empaths and sparks of light who I would trust with my deepest traumas, and the worst Pisces I know are chronic gaslighting sad bois.
“I think there’s an idea out there that love just HAPPENS to you and it’s magic and not something you have to nurture to ensure it grows and thrives. That’s… a lie.”
We’ve been there and done that and some of us have even been able to go to therapy about it, and here’s our hard-earned advice about the most important keys to queer dating and relationships.
A hot take: processing literally everything all the time is not only *not good*, it is actually *bad*!
“I’m not saying Aquariuses are the easiest sign to date, but why would anyone want easy?”