Long ago, when trying to flirt with another girl looked kind of like a Sarah Waters novel but without the ghosts and tragedy, we communicated interest through loaded symbols, like giving violets to crushes. Today, we have emoji instead.
As with so many things in life, the trick to successfully doing this is a combination of confidence, openness, and a willingness to fail or get rejected sometimes — and maybe, if you’re up for it, being the picture of a great butt you want to see in the world.
Your favorite queer Instagram dating account has changed its name to be more inclusive, is creating an app just for you, and is hosting a party in NYC to kickoff its crowdfunding efforts Wednesday night, June 13! Read our interview with creator Kelly Rakowski for all the hot details!
Here’s how to fly your consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, consensually open relationship or whatever else flag in your dating profile so you get the best possible interactions from it.
We asked Kelly Rakowski of Herstory Personals for some of the tips and tricks she’s gleaned about writing a good personals ad from playing matchmaker to the queer lonely hearts Instagram crowd, and she was happy to oblige.
Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
Literally why not.
Take a look at these five new super queer-friendly dating apps and download the one that most floats your boat.
How to love or fuck each astrological sign, every idea you ever wanted to hear about Tinder, dueling opinions on queer sex as resistance, homoerotic lingerie ads and more.
14 opening lines that will have you burning up Tinder (with queer pop culture references!).
In my opinion, a good Tinder profile is more important than good hygiene.
An homage to all the unique ways queer women have marked themselves and dog-whistled each other throughout the decades, the witch bitch switches and the techno hippie hyperdykes from the queer classifieds of the 80s, only this time it’ll be instant and without the anonymity.
“First comes Twitter, then comes Snapchat, then comes texting nudes to a complete and total stranger.” Patty-cake to that one, kiddos.
Honestly, while I’m open to diversity in the women that I date, I have found that usually out of 50 quick matches on OKC I might get three black lesbians.
“Satisfactory social responses are often more obvious to nonautistic individuals. My behavior can be misinterpreted as ludicrous excuses or just being a jerk, when I’m simply lacking social knowledge.”
Elisha Lim’s zine “Favourite Dating Tales” features not only illustrations, comics and pictures that convey just about every part of the dating experience, but also has some of the most beautiful looking art I’ve ever seen.
Kristen’s Team Pick: Use a lorem ipsum generator to fill out your dating profile for when you’re too distracted by all of the potential boob dates to remember how to write in English.
This not-so-dating app helps you find your community and maybe even a girlfriend.
Vanessa’s Team Pick: Time Out New York magazine thinks you should date Gabby and obviously we wholeheartedly agree.
There’s less than a month to wrangle a NYE date! Make sure your craft the perfect dating pic lest you stay Single Forever and die alone, etc, etc.
