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How to Move During a Pandemic

Moving during a pandemic is hard, but you can do it and we’re here to tell you how! We love you! Be safe!! WEAR A MASK!!!!!

By Ari| August 20, 2020 | 14 Comments
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Society + Culture

How to Take Care of Each Other: Community Care In Times Of Crisis

“When we’ve all broken past the fear of being burdens on others, when we as communities learn how to ask for and give help and support, we’ll be able to take care of each other.”

By Abeni Jones| June 8, 2020 | 17 Comments
Advice

Do the Damn Thing, Part 2: Focus, Boundaries and Single-Tasking

You’ve crafted some longterm goals and set some realistic expectations. Now you’re ready to tackle the most important part of doing the thing: actually doing the thing.

By Heather Hogan| December 28, 2018 | 5 Comments
Advice

Do the Damn Thing, Part One: Setting Goals and Realistic Expectations

January is a time for resolutions, but I’m going to give you something better than that: A pre-New Year three-week lesson on figuring out what the heck you want to do and actually doing it.

By Heather Hogan| December 21, 2018 | 7 Comments
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9 Tips for Surviving Grad School With Mind and Body Intact

It’s easy to get caught up in how difficult grad school is, and to use that difficulty as an excuse to slack off on taking care of yourself, but the skills you build now will follow you into your career. It’s more important than ever to really make time and space for YOU, and I don’t just mean bubble baths.

By Ari| September 5, 2018 | 40 Comments
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Muscle Up: How to Get Bigger and Stronger, One Deadlift at a Time

Get bigger and stronger with this guide to putting on muscle mass.

By Katrina| June 21, 2018 | 38 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Hogtie

Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!

By cee| May 31, 2018 | 3 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Leg Tie

Here’s how to do a basic shibari leg tie for beginners!

By cee| May 24, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Basic Chest Harness

Here’s how to make a basic shibari chest harness!

By cee| May 17, 2018 | 6 Comments
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How to Make a Sexy Leather Wallet (and Learn Basic Leatherworking Skills!)

Sew up an A-Camp craft right in your own home!

By Katie| May 15, 2018 | 3 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Single- and Double-Column Ties

Single-column and double-column ties are the foundation for more complicated shibari ties, and they’re also fun on their own! Here’s how to get started.

By cee| May 10, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage

Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.

By cee| May 3, 2018 | 6 Comments
First Person

How to Make a Meme: A Tutorial With Instagram Lesbian Superstar @xenaworrierprincess

Maddy Court, the creator behind Instagram lesbian meme sensation @xenaworrierprincess, teaches us how to make a meme and shares her own meme origin story.

By Maddy| April 30, 2018 | 27 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How To Eat Ass

Everyone has an ass. Here’s how to eat one.

By Carolyn Yates| March 13, 2018 | 9 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

This Queer House, Vol 10: New Year, Newly Organized Queer House

It’s okay if your end result isn’t completely bare and minimal and perfect; the most important thing is feeling in control of the spaces you create.

By Jenna| January 25, 2018 | 9 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

This Queer House, Vol 9: End of Year Mailbag

This month, we tackle reader-submitted questions and run through a step-by-step tutorial for rewiring a lamp.

By Jenna| December 28, 2017 | 8 Comments
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First Person

How To Thrive As A Sober Queer During The Holigays

About eight months sober at that point, I had two thoughts scream through my mind at nearly the same time – first, “Oh hell yeah, all the whiskey at my fingertips” quickly followed by, “Oh hell no, this is cruel.”

By Molly Priddy| December 7, 2017 | 32 Comments
Home

No Tree, No Problem: Bring Holiday Cheer To Your Treeless Pad

No tree? Me neither! Here’s some ideas to inject sparkle and holiday spirit into your living quarters anyway!

By KaeLyn| November 30, 2017 | 24 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

This Queer House, Vol 8: Baby, It’s Cold Outside

In this month’s This Queer House, I’ll show you how to get your home ready for winter by keeping the warm air in and the cold air out with a DIY draft stopper, as well as a few other helpful tips.

By Jenna| November 21, 2017 | 10 Comments
Food and Drink

Let’s Decant With This Decanter, It’ll Be So Fancy

How to clean your decanter. Why you might use a decanter. Which decanters you should expressly not use.

By A.E. Osworth| November 16, 2017 | 8 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

Make Your Own Chapstick and Lipstick For Every Pocket

Depending on the day, you may be feeling more lipstick or chapstick, and with this simple recipe, you can make both!

By Katie| November 9, 2017 | 4 Comments
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