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Music

Prince Is Dead, We Must Find Our Eyeliner And Keep Dancing

“Prince — the musician, the icon, the gender-bending dreamboat — taught me that the best and only thing I can be is exactly whatever I am. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else as long as it keeps me alive and sparkling.”

By Adrian| April 21, 2016 | 28 Comments
Music

What St. Vincent Has Been Telling Us All Along: Gender in Juxtaposition

Quotes from a new Rolling Stone cover story just make explicit the themes she’s been shredding about for years.

By Cara| June 23, 2014 | 25 Comments
Fashion/Style Visual Art

Most Important Ugly: I Believe Makeup Is Magic

“Over the next few weeks, I’m gonna guide you through portraits and their stories, and how to get the looks if you so desire. If anyone would get these photos, it’d be you babes, right? My queer family. These are all pictures of us. They always were.”

By Arabelle Sicardi| June 23, 2014 | 30 Comments
Fashion/Style

Holiday Party Fashion Shoot: Lady Vengeance Style

“I’m going to talk to you about my favorite things of the moment: looking terrifying (but also festive! Holiday appropriate!) and suits. Also: short hair. I feel like we all may have these things in common, maybe?”

By Arabelle Sicardi| December 20, 2013 | 16 Comments
Gender

Quit Calling Elliott Sailors A Male Model—She’s More Interesting Than That

So why can’t anyone seem to talk about her the right way?

By Cara| October 31, 2013 | 25 Comments
Society + Culture

Fat Queer Tells All: On Fatness and Gender Flatness

“The truth is if I do find someone while I am out tonight, I want them to know that I am not good at being a girl, that there are other things about me beyond my precarious femininity that I value more, and that if things work out, I will expect them to value.”

By Allie Shyer| May 6, 2013 | 63 Comments
Visual Art

Artist Spotlight: Ria Brodell’s “Butch Heroes”

Taking the Catholic prayer card where it has never gone before.

By Cara| February 26, 2013 | 25 Comments
Fashion/Style

He Said/We Said Takes a Field Trip To the Art Gallery

Forget marble statues and artsy films. Our models are living, breathing masterpieces of style.

By dapperq| February 11, 2013 | 18 Comments
The Scene

You Should Go: Queer & Utter Bedlam Werks Those Pecs

There will be art. And go-go dancing. And queer literature. And a pamphlet about the common misconceptions about being genderqueer. It’s going to be magical.

By Vanessa| January 28, 2013 | 9 Comments
First Person

Butch Please: Butch Buys A Drink

“If I wear my heart on my sleeve – and I do these days, much to the shock and dismay of a butch gone prematurely tender – then the sleeve itself is my masculinity.”

By Kate| November 16, 2012 | 123 Comments
Geekery

From Sailor Moon to Yaoi Fangirls: Gender and Sexuality at Otakon 2012

How is sexism perpetuated in anime and manga? What is the role of women in geek culture? Just some of the interesting topics covered by my visit to the East Coast’s largest anime convention.

By Rose| August 17, 2012 | 37 Comments
News + Politics

Chevi Rabbit is Attacked for Being Gay but Won’t Stop Being Fabulous

“…yes, this was a terrible hate crime and attack! But I will not let that change who I am! I will continue to wear makeup and live a fabulous gay life!”

By Malaika| August 1, 2012 | 34 Comments
Gender

Genderf*ck The Internet!

Two plug-ins that will turn the internet into your personal queer happy place.

By A.E. Osworth| July 13, 2012 | 29 Comments
Books

Read A F*cking Book: “Beyond Binary” Is Genderqueering Speculative Fiction

This book is the most awesome book I have read in a really long time and you should read it too. Immediately.

By Carolyn Yates| April 25, 2012 | 16 Comments
Fashion/Style

dapperQ’s He Said/We Said Is Ready For New Threads

“If you feel it, Rock it.”

By dapperq| March 13, 2012 | 11 Comments
Fashion/Style

Girls and Boys Play Dress Up With Switcheroo

Laura’s Team Pick: See what happens “you do you” gets turned on its head.

By Laura| March 9, 2012 | 28 Comments
Fashion/Style

dapperQ’s He Said/We Said Brings Style Inspiration, Diversity, Realness

In which we remember a whole year of sharp-dressed queers and the confidence they’ve given you, with a look ahead to even more Dapper Q, right here on Autostraddle!

By Laneia| February 24, 2012 | 33 Comments
Fashion/Style First Person Gender

Dressing Rooms: Legal, Physical and Emotional

Anita Dolce Vita from dapperQ helps you navigate the potentially problematic world of retail dressing rooms.

By dapperq| February 21, 2012 | 46 Comments
Gender

Dudes, Bettys, Ladies, And Men: The Gender Categories Of Online Retail

Gender binaries thrive online. What else can we expect from a space that is essentially nothing but ones and zeros?

By Jezebel| December 23, 2011 | 23 Comments
Visual Art

Help The Outliers Project “Contemplate the Space Between”

Be the change you wish to see in the world! And help this artist do the same.

By Rachel| September 21, 2011 | 7 Comments
Fashion/Style

Andrej Pejic, “The Prettiest Boy in the World,” Models Through It

“It’s not like, ‘Okay, today I want to look like a man, or today I want to look like a woman. I want to look like me. It just so happens that some of the things I like are feminine.”

By Riese| August 15, 2011 | 71 Comments
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