Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
  • Shop
  • Sign in
    • Register
    • Lost Password?
  • Support Us
    • Buy Our Merch
    • Become an A+ Member
    • Give Us Money
    • Shop Our Affiliates
  • A+
    • All A+ Posts
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Into the A+ Advice Box
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diary
    • Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
    • Personal Essays
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • The L Word: Generation Q recaps
    • The L Word
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Recaps
    • Boobs On Your Tube
    • 202 Dead Les/Bi TV Characters
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time
    • Movie Reviews
    • Best-Of Movie Lists
  • Arts+Pop Culture
    • All Arts + Pop Culture Posts
    • Books
    • Vapid Fluff
    • Fashion/Style
    • Music
    • Comedy
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
  • Sex+Dating
    • All Sex + Dating Posts
    • Lesbian Sex 101
    • How To Be Gay
    • NSFW Sunday
    • Shibari 101
    • Sex Toy Reviews
    • Tops & Bottoms
    • #PolyamoryProblems
  • Politics
    • All News + Politics Posts
    • Extra! Extra
    • COVID-19
    • This Is Not The Church of Social Justice
  • Community
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • Roundtables
    • Herstory
    • First Person
    • Queer IRL
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Advice
    • You Need Help
    • Events + Meet-Ups Hub
    • Queer Girl City Guides
  • Columns
    • Things I Read That I Loved
    • Queer Horoscopes
    • No Filter
    • Year Of Our Lorde
    • Come Vibe With Me
    • Straight People Watch
    • The Dyke Kitchen
    • For Your Consideration
    • Queering Disability
    • Find Your Fit
    • Butch Please

Life

  • Food and Drink
  • DIY / Crafting / Food / Home
  • Health + Athletics
  • Travel
  • Business + Work

Geekery

  • All Geekery Posts
  • Drawn to Comics
  • Queer Your Tech
  • Saturday Morning Cartoons
  • Notes From A Queer Engineer
  • Gayme Corner
  • Video Games

LGBT Culture

  • Politics + Activism
  • Herstory
  • Marriage Equality
  • Coming Out
  • International News

Our Best Work

  • Greatest Hits
  • Ranked By Lesbianism
  • Epic Lists
  • Research/Investigations
  • Personal Essays
  • Longreads
  • Photo Essays
  • Shopping Guides
  • Listlings Without Commentary
  • Serious Business
  • Playlists

Etc.

  • Special Issues
  • Things I Read That I Love
  • Events
  • Lists/Top Tens
  • Calendar Girls
  • Autostraddle Merch

Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

  • Support Us
    • Buy Our Merch
    • Become an A+ Member
    • Give Us Money
    • Shop Our Affiliates
  • A+
    • All A+ Posts
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Into the A+ Advice Box
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diary
    • Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
    • Personal Essays
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • The L Word: Generation Q recaps
    • The L Word
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Recaps
    • Boobs On Your Tube
    • 202 Dead Les/Bi TV Characters
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time
    • Movie Reviews
    • Best-Of Movie Lists
  • Arts+Pop Culture
    • All Arts + Pop Culture Posts
    • Books
    • Vapid Fluff
    • Fashion/Style
    • Music
    • Comedy
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
  • Sex+Dating
    • All Sex + Dating Posts
    • Lesbian Sex 101
    • How To Be Gay
    • NSFW Sunday
    • Shibari 101
    • Sex Toy Reviews
    • Tops & Bottoms
    • #PolyamoryProblems
  • Politics
    • All News + Politics Posts
    • Extra! Extra
    • COVID-19
    • This Is Not The Church of Social Justice
  • Community
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • Roundtables
    • Herstory
    • First Person
    • Queer IRL
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Advice
    • You Need Help
    • Events + Meet-Ups Hub
    • Queer Girl City Guides
  • Columns
    • Things I Read That I Loved
    • Queer Horoscopes
    • No Filter
    • Year Of Our Lorde
    • Come Vibe With Me
    • Straight People Watch
    • The Dyke Kitchen
    • For Your Consideration
    • Queering Disability
    • Find Your Fit
    • Butch Please
  • More
    • Life
      • Food and Drink
      • DIY / Crafting / Food / Home
      • Health + Athletics
      • Travel
      • Business + Work
    • Geekery
      • All Geekery Posts
      • Drawn to Comics
      • Queer Your Tech
      • Saturday Morning Cartoons
      • Notes From A Queer Engineer
      • Gayme Corner
      • Video Games
    • LGBT Culture
      • Politics + Activism
      • Herstory
      • Marriage Equality
      • Coming Out
      • International News
    • Our Best Work
      • Greatest Hits
      • Ranked By Lesbianism
      • Epic Lists
      • Research/Investigations
      • Personal Essays
      • Longreads
      • Photo Essays
      • Shopping Guides
      • Listlings Without Commentary
      • Serious Business
      • Playlists
    • Etc.
      • Special Issues
      • Things I Read That I Love
      • Events
      • Lists/Top Tens
      • Calendar Girls
      • Autostraddle Merch
  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
  • Shop
  • Sign in
    • Register

      Lost Password?

Support Autostraddle

formspring

Advice Sex + Relationships

Formspring Friday: These Queers Desperately Need Your Advice Because We’re Stumped

Boys creating problems, exes who won’t own up to stuff, flirty best friends, and how to start checking your own privilege in the name love. It’s time to give advice to anonymous strangers on the internet!

By Laneia| January 18, 2013 | 61 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday and the Special People Club

Text-induced anxiety, meditating around hot women, being in love with your friend (AGAIN), a pregnant sister who needs a cool gift, and being tired of pretending to be interesting. So many things need your help today!

By Laneia| December 7, 2012 | 24 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Never Needs A Reason To Dance

This week we’re tackling how to have a first lady date, deal with homophobic parents and what books to buy.

By Laneia| November 16, 2012 | 44 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Waited Up For You

I hope you’re ready to answer some questions! We’ve got location anxiety, general anxiety, feelings about age differences, and should you be offended when someone says you look gay?

By Laneia| October 19, 2012 | 64 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Camp Edition

This week people need advice on going back to school after a decade, dealing with a breakup when no one knows you’re homosexy, and what it means when she likes you too much.

By the team| September 14, 2012 | 39 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: How To Navigate a Social Event with Your Ex

You and your ex are going to the same social event? You should probs read this first.

By Tully| August 1, 2012 | 53 Comments
Advice Travel

You Need Help: Look and Feel Less Gross After Flying

In which we discuss how to come off a plane and greet your sweetie without looking like an oily zombie.

By Lizz| July 17, 2012 | 38 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: You Don’t Know What To Say

In which we discuss if and when you need to tell a partner about your eating disorder.

By Rachel| July 5, 2012 | 14 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Didn’t Know You Could Jump So High

This week you’re helping out with a variety of mom-related issues, girlfriend feelings, touchy feely straight girls, coming out as trans* and a possible stone butch, among other things. Maybe our best FS Friday ever.

By Laneia| June 29, 2012 | 67 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: You Like Her But She Keeps Bringing Up Boys

Your focus shouldn’t be ‘Is she straight or gay?’. Wondering about that leads to madness, drunk phone calls and other forms of hot messery.

By gabby| May 15, 2012 | 44 Comments
Fashion/Style

You Need Help: Looking Alternative To Help Your Career

There are a lot of ways to stand out. Maybe you want to look sort of like a pin-up or sort of mod. Maybe you want to look sort of goth or kind of punk. Maybe it’s time to up the ante on your hipster appeal. Maybe you want to look really really really gay.

By Lizz| April 17, 2012 | 27 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Can’t Sleep Without You

How will she come out to her sister? Is she a booty call? How can she make her friend feel better? ONLY YOU KNOW.

By Laneia| March 23, 2012 | 87 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: Closure Is Your Friend

You live in a world with a person who once treated you like crap, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be super happy! With special guest: a raccoon.

By Laneia| March 20, 2012 | 27 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday Wanted A Pony

Should a girl get breast reduction? Should another girl date a butch even though she usually likes femmes? A meddling mother, a slutty reputation, emotionally vacant gfs and much more!

By Laneia| March 9, 2012 | 55 Comments
Advice

Formspring Friday: More Than A Feeling

Someone out there needs your help with revealing gayness to parents, disagreements with an activity partner, loaning friends money and other fun things!

By Laneia| January 18, 2012 | 52 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home Food and Drink

How to Drink: Whiskey

I don’t know why we haven’t done this already.

By Laneia| January 6, 2012 | 901 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Is Jealous Of Hypothetical Boys

In which you need your girlfriend to know you’re not about to leave her for a dude.

By Rachel| January 3, 2012 | 147 Comments
Music

Playlist: Sexytime, 90’s R & B Edition

“A sexy, sexy playlist for those nights when you’re drunk and silly and snuggly, and want to love up your lady with a grin.”

By Jamie J. Hagen| November 25, 2011 | 25 Comments
Advice College

You Need Help: Your College Roommates Are Homophobic Assholes

What if you get to college and your roommates are really homophobic?

By Rachel| September 13, 2011 | 60 Comments
Advice College

You Need Help: Lesbian Back-To-School Edition

So you’re going to your first semester at college! Do you have to come out to your roommate?

By Rachel| August 19, 2011 | 70 Comments
cat imagery representing 'glass cage of emotion,' but with cardboard and styrofoam
Advice Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: Bottoms Up and Helping Your Girlfriend

Can a top be a bottom without selling her soul? And how to talk to a partner who isn’t what she used to be.

By Laneia| August 8, 2011 | 33 Comments
1 2 3 Next Page →

Join A+ Starting at Just $4 / Month!

400! Over the past two and a half weeks, over 400 of our readers have joined A+. A+ members get perks and bonus content, but they also keep Autostraddle here and 99% free for all. Will you join?

Affiliate of the Month

wet for her logo

Wet For Her is an online sex toy retailer that's a welcoming space for queer women and the folx they love — celebrating a diverse range of bodies, genders, and orientations.

shop Wet For Her →

Support Autostraddle While You Shop!

Illustration of shopping bag surrounded by sparkles. Text reads Visit the Affiliate Marketplace

kickback some of your amazon purchase to us!

From the Archives

  • At Last, Obama Gives America Some Real Talk On Racism

    At Last, Obama Gives America Some Real Talk On Racism

  • Every Major Female “Star Trek” Character, Ranked By Lesbianism

    Every Major Female “Star Trek” Character, Ranked By Lesbianism

  • How “L Word” Internet Fandom Built Autostraddle Dot Com: The Oral History

    How “L Word” Internet Fandom Built Autostraddle Dot Com: The Oral History

Latest Comments

  • Al On Pop Culture Fix: Aspirational Exes St. Vincent and Carrie Brownstein are Making a Comedy About Themselves "Looking forward to more comedy from Carrie Brownstein. *swoon*"

  • Al On No Filter: Generation Q Is Really Coming Back! We Did Not Dream It! "To live the life Gigi & Nats are living cause that looks fabulous & gay!"

  • Al On FYP: An Ode to Stems and Soon-to-Be Scamming Sapphics "I can relate to that nb one but i’m even more shy."

  • Casey On EXCLUSIVE: A+ Members, Read a Generous Excerpt of Arkady Martine’s “A Desolation Called Peace” Here! "I absolutely loved the first book in this series and cannot wait to read the sequel. I’m thrilled to see…"

  • Monstera On The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 77, February 2021 "Absolutely on board with “Effie’s brother.” It took me so long to place him when he showed up in The…"

  • Pallas On Straight People Day Is NOW "Same! Especially with the graphic of “It’s 10pm, do you know where your straight people are?” 😂"

  • Pallas On The Owl House’s Luz and Amity Capture the Singular Queer Experience of a Surprise First Crush ":’) Thanks for articulating a part of just why I love this show SO MUCH."

  • Coco On “Dickinson” Season 2 Is an Ode to Emily and Sue "Thank you! I might start watching again. While Dickinson is a show theoretically designed for me, I was pretty frustrated…"

Support Us

Latest Posts

  • “Barb & Star Go to Vista Del Mar” Is a Bananapants Brain Vacation and You Deserve It

    “Barb & Star Go to Vista Del Mar” Is a Bananapants Brain Vacation and You Deserve It

  • Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Osé 2

    Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Osé 2

  • Pop Culture Fix: Aspirational Exes St. Vincent and Carrie Brownstein are Making a Comedy About Themselves

    Pop Culture Fix: Aspirational Exes St. Vincent and Carrie Brownstein are Making a Comedy About Themselves

  • No Filter: Generation Q Is Really Coming Back! We Did Not Dream It!

    No Filter: Generation Q Is Really Coming Back! We Did Not Dream It!

  • FYP: An Ode to Stems and Soon-to-Be Scamming Sapphics

    FYP: An Ode to Stems and Soon-to-Be Scamming Sapphics

Upcoming Meet-Ups & Events

Submit to our Community Calendar →
View More Meet-Ups & Events →
1 2 3 Next Page →
Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle Autostraddle

Our Network

  • Community
  • Store
  • A-Camp

About Us

  • What is AS?
  • Meet The Team
  • Press
  • Advertise
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us

Follow Us

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr
  • Instagram
  • RSS

Copyright 2009 - 2021 The Excitant Group, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Comment Policy

It's Straight People Day

Round up all your straights and let them know it’s time to put their money where their mouth is! Don’t know many (or any) straight people? You might be interested in our supporter wall where you can publicly contribute in honor of a straight person of your choice, even someone who’d be horrified to see their name on an LGBTQ site!


Become an A+ Member
Give thru PayPal
Explore Fundraiser Perks

Close Popup

AUTOSTRADDLE IS RAISING FUNDS FOR 2021 LEARN MORE →