We all need this queer femme fight club, the best songs of 1998, a photo project I’m yelling about, the female price of male pleasure, Jessamyn Stanley continues to be great, a Mr. Rogers biopic that no one asked for, and so much more!
The following eight memoirs, which deal with gender, food, writing, relationships and more, reflect soft femmes, tomboy femmes, chapstick femmes, and other femmes who aren’t all that femmey.
“Butch/Femme is important to me because butches and femmes writing and discussing what it meant to be who we are shaped my understanding of myself and how I can show up in the world.”
My nails may contribute to the erasure of my queer identity, but they represent a departure from following other people’s rules — and instead listening to my own voice.
There are some adorable outwear options for tomboys, too.
Things get weird for this one year anniversary of What I Wore!
“This was going to be my last interaction with the heterosexual agenda for an entire week and I needed to keep my eye on the prize.”
I did my own research, aka I texted a bunch of my queer and trans friends to ask them about their body hair. What do you do with your pit hair? How does that choice connect with your gender, your other identities, cultural or family expectations?
What I wore to the craft brewery, running errands, and getting my oil changed!
“One way we can change the narratives around our sexuality and our erotic bodies is by taking up space as sexual beings and celebrating other women and femmes doing the same.” This zine is on it.
What I wore on Election Day and Post-Trump.
This week: I dress up as Carol Aird to go to Target, get sporty and outdoorsy to go to the doctor, and, yes, revisit the tire shop.
This week I channel women in film/TV to navigate the comedy show, a rock concert and the sport bar.
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
We now live in a world where it is totally possible to claim the same word as someone else and completely disagree on what the word means.
“Gender self-determination is vital and I can feel great about who I am when I am at home. But I live a life where I engage with other people and doing what feels good for me is a lot more challenging when I step outside the door. With pronouns specifically, it’s hard not to feel like you are dependent on others to ‘validate’ your gender, or rather, it’s hard not to feel like your gender is not valid when people use the wrong pronoun.”
This outfit consisting of a rapidly deteriorating sweater, pleather pants, and a jacket made into a demi-skirt flashed me forward into a dystopian future where water is scarce but total gender/orientation presentation acceptance is not.
Brace yourselves for a little makeover! As your beauty editor, I often want to be able to take a closer, deeper look at products and stories I don’t want anyone to miss, and today is the day we’re doing that!
To a casual viewer, this might seem like a down home, girl next door outfit. Oh, just some casual slip-ons, a jersey top, cut-off jean shorts and a baseball hat. Hey y’all! But then it’s like, oop, nope, that’s just a bra.
“I talked about how so much of my work with FFAF or here at Autostraddle is really just a sort of queer femme lighthouse keeping. I’m here, you’re not alone, this is a perfectly alright way to be, let me help you.“