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How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes

You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.

By Vanessa| January 12, 2021 | 32 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Write a Swipe-Worthy Dating App Bio

You have to actually say something in your dating app bio! You just do, I’m sorry. Here is how and how not to do that.

By Rachel| January 12, 2021 | 42 Comments
A brown-skinned person's hands with manicured nails hold a smart phone, scrolling through Lex posts.
Sex + Relationships

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Lex and Get Sexy With Words

“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”

By the team| November 30, 2020 | 23 Comments
A hand of a white person with short, red-painted nails is holding a smartphone out in front of them; a whimsically illustrated pink menu that asks "Who are you interested in? Women/Men/Nonbinary and more"
Sex + Relationships

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try the XO Dating App So You Don’t Have to

Dating Download is a new ongoing series where Shelli, Dani and Drew try out the latest or most overlooked of dating apps so you don’t have to. Today they’re giving you the full download on XO.

By the team| October 7, 2020 | 15 Comments
First Person Sex + Relationships

I Tried New Trans Dating App Fiori and All I Got Was This Personal Essay

“She admired my tits like only someone else on estrogen could and then she grabbed them harder than anyone had before.”

By Drew Gregory| March 9, 2020 | 23 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Some of Y’all Are Really Out Here Flexing on Tinder with Finger Measurements, Discuss

“@ me when people start doing this with fists”

By Abeni Jones| November 8, 2019 | 48 Comments
Film First Person

Why Do So Many People Have Goodbye Horses as Their Tinder Anthem?

“When I first matched with the “Goodbye Horses” fans and asked them about it one said, “that buffalo bill scene is classic” and the other said, “I LOVE the song.” Then they both ghosted.”

By Drew Gregory| June 13, 2019 | 28 Comments
Sex + Relationships

5 Ways to Send the First Tinder Message That Aren’t Just Saying “Hey There”

Much like how a bio should be written with the goal of giving a hottie something to react to, a first message should be easy to reply to and easy to move the conversation forward from! What does one say to “hey” aside from “hey,” or on a sunny day, “hey!” I ask of you.

By Rachel| June 4, 2019 | 12 Comments
Sex + Relationships

10 Queers Get Honest About Ghosting

Communication is hard, especially when you have to tell someone something they might not want to hear, which is why sometimes we… just don’t do it!

By the team| March 7, 2019 | 50 Comments
Sex + Relationships

11 Queers Share the Best and Worst Lines They’ve Gotten on Dating Apps

“’Look a little crazy huh’ with no punctuation.”

By the team| February 21, 2019 | 39 Comments
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