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Come Vibe With Me

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Society + Culture

Come Vibe With Me: Say My Name

Call me by my name — or whatever one I tell you I prefer. Also, SZA talks crystals and astrology, more on “The United States vs. Billie Holiday,” and an opportunity for BIPOC leatherdykes to stretch their creative muscles and make us swoon.

By Shelli Nicole| 19 hours ago | 3 Comments
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Society + Culture

Come Vibe With Me: You’re Like — Really Pretty

Making your way back to who you are is a long road, but you’ll get there sooner than you think. Also, Tessa Thompson will make you swoon, Saambhi on dating as a Muslim brown babe and Regina King is the auntie I strive to be.

By Shelli Nicole| January 10, 2021 | 5 Comments
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Society + Culture

Come Vibe With Me: Stop Playin’ with me.

Give Black women the same grace that we so readily extend to you. Also, more love for Veneno, complicated feelings for Bridgerton, a “F*ck You, I’m dope” playlist for when you need the reminder, and some mental health love for the new year.

By Shelli Nicole| January 3, 2021 | 4 Comments
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Society + Culture

Come Vibe With Me: Home Sweet Home

The one thing we all certainly need is rest. Plus, A love letter to Dussie Mae from “Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom,” Chloe x Halle, and a simple reminder to always check on your homies.

By Shelli Nicole| December 27, 2020 | 6 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: A Little Less Conversation

Do you remember the scent of sweat and colliding our bodies together in the perfect grind? Plus, re-visiting “Tangerine,” Lena Waithe wants to mentor you, and The Nap Ministry wants you to just go lay down.

By Shelli Nicole| December 20, 2020 | 4 Comments
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Society + Culture

Come Vibe With Me: Too Much of Nothing

This week I’m asking for a bit of grace. Also, my Michelle Buteau obsession continues, living as a Black woman with ADHD, queer South Asian friendships, and tranSanta is coming to town!

By Shelli Nicole| December 13, 2020 | 14 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Wanna Wake Up Together?

This Sunday I want to know what it’s like to wake up to you. Also, talk of lunar eclipses and confusing full moons, revisiting Showtime’s “Black Monday,” and a curated playlist to make you feel some typa way.

By Shelli Nicole| December 6, 2020 | 8 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Remember Me

Come vibe and think back to a sweet memory that centers you. Also, “A Goofy Movie” nostalgia, Black girls surfing, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex asks us — “Are You Ok?”

By Shelli Nicole| November 29, 2020 | 8 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Attention Please

This week I’m taking you on an emotional rollercoaster with my playlist, continuing to stan for P-Valley’s Uncle Clifford, learning what it takes to mend broken friendships, and droping a link to help a Black skate collective in Chicago feed families for the holidays.

By Shelli Nicole| November 22, 2020 | 4 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Sittin’ Up in My Room

Creating happiness and comfort in your space can help ease your mind and your days. Plus, a Black, trans and queer owned tattoo shop, a playlist to shimmy around your apartment, and a photo of Kehlani that we don’t deserve but will cherish.

By Shelli Nicole| November 15, 2020 | 4 Comments
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Come Vibe with Me: Show Your Homies You Care

I just want you to care for your homies. Also, lots of Black British love — including FKA Twigs!, a dream hotline just for Black folks, YA books to love this November, and an “I Miss You” playlist that will take you back to middle school.

By Shelli Nicole| November 8, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Singing Our Own Praises

This Sunday, try embodying big “You Deserve” vibes. Netflix’s “The Forty-Year-Old Version” will help with that. Flo Milli is the Gen-Z rapper who isn’t going anywhere. And — with Mary J. Blige on the track, I dare you to not sing along to this week’s mom-inspired playlist.

By Shelli Nicole| October 25, 2020 | 7 Comments
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Come Vibe With Me: Sunday Cozy Sunday

Welcome to Shelli’s new series, “Come Vibe With Me” where you’ll find weekly reads, be introduced to new movies & television, find ways to serve your communities and so much more — all while vibing out to a weekly playlist curated by Shelli to play during your sweet Sundays.

By Shelli Nicole| October 18, 2020 | 23 Comments

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