Eventually I realised that work is just this whole other thing in life that isn’t always fair, and so sometimes you’ve gotta ask for what you’re due.

Grief is not linear, finding help for your top surgery recovery, ways to alleviate feelings of isolation while staying home, and more!

Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!

“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as advice on pressure from friends to hang out in-person instead of staying home (during this here pandemic), returning to writing after a betrayal, recovering from a good cry, and more!

Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!

We asked you for the political questions or issues keeping you up at night. From getting started in activism, to questions about phone banking and volunteering, to the Supreme Court and what will happen with the legalization of gay marriage, untangling the United States’ electoral system, talking to your conservative relatives, and more — the Autostraddle team takes on your questions related to the US election. We’re all super stressed, but at least we have each other!

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!

What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!

A hot take: processing literally everything all the time is not only *not good*, it is actually *bad*!

Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!

It’s 2019 and the world is our hot gay oyster! But… how do you actually go about planning a trip to meet the faraway queer of your dreams? 

Shane McCutcheon self-sabotages, Emily Fields co-depends, Cheryl Blossom is scared to commit — and a team of real live functional adult queer women are here to help.

In which we discuss the concept of safer dating.

If anything good is going to come out of this jury duty business, maybe it’s that I’m about to kick my ass into gear.

“Forget all your ideas about what the person across the table from you might want until they tell you so you can actually listen when they do.”

Because like half of these new features will be useful for the next A-Camp.

Autumn winds may be taking a toll on your face, but don’t let the weather get you down! There are makeouts to be had with your luscious lips!

Remember what it felt like to finally stop wishing you were straight? Well, we’re in the same boat. Only this time it’s not us we’re talking about, it’s our hair.

Remember what it felt like to finally stop wishing you were straight? Well, we’re in the same boat. Only this time it’s not us we’re talking about, it’s our hair.

Once upon a time I married a man, had kids, and realized I was a lesbian. Here’s what happened and what I wish somebody had told me at the time.