Resolutions imply giving up something, like sugar (no), or problematic crushes (pry them from my cold dead hands). Goals, on the other hand, are positive can-do mantras, such as “I will start a band this year,” or “I will find my dream femme top.”

Whether it’s an affordable treat, something sexy for you and yours to share in bed, or a luxury investment in your pleasure to reward yourself for making it through this year, add one more stop to your shopping this season and you and your activity partners will be thanking you for it all year long.

“She admired my tits like only someone else on estrogen could and then she grabbed them harder than anyone had before.”

When I teach Rachel how to tie me up and fist me, when I ask her to tell me what to do, when I teach her exactly how I want to submit, I give her permission to go on a journey with me and dive into an expanding world of pleasure.

It seems contradictory to say I learned how to view my body as my own by sharing it with strangers and friends, but it is a truth that I revel in. What I love and learn about these encounters are the parameters of my body, its strengths, and boundaries, what pleases it.

Even one-night-stands have a spirit to them, but I wasn’t willing to confront that until I stopped drinking. When I did, I was finally able to place my mind right within my body, to touch and be touched without fear. Having sober sex was a way for me to unravel the contempt I felt around my body and my sexuality.

Let’s rebrand fall as Sex With Friends Season rather than Cuffing Season, yeah?

“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”

Finally, Danielle and Joanna are reunited are years of radio silence. Will Joanna’s voice still move Danielle as strongly as she remembers?

Sleepovers are overrated.

This is how we do it, it’s Sunday night and I’m feeling right, the party is here on the Lez Side.

Try these positions to add some spice (ooh, is that nutmeg?) to your sex life this December.

A hot take: processing literally everything all the time is not only *not good*, it is actually *bad*!

Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.

Autostraddle’s definitive list of the 50 best sex toys for queer sex.

“I was curious how the Kink Kit planned on elevating this particular activity which I’ve almost always done with just a bare hand (and occasionally a paddle).”

Here’s a very thorough how to guide for approaching phone sex, from a chatty Capricorn slut whose greatest (PG-13) talent in life is never shutting up.

If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.

Something that will feel hefty and firm in my cunt and look gorgeous on my altar? Come to Mommi. 

A lot has been written about first dates — but what about the second date? The third? Beyond?