How Shine Houston made queer porn great, how action and pleasure go together, how to be a better top, what cannabis can do for your masturbation and more.

The thing is: sometimes I like feeling disposable, like I’m just a bunch of holes that someone else is using for their pleasure. I know I’m fucking powerful, so sometimes I like to release control, let someone else do the work and have the power. That only works, though, when my boundaries are respected.

How are you supposed to end things with somebody you’re seeing casually or have more of, idk, “a thing” with? Well, no one really has that figured out, but here are some ideas for how to break things off with the person you’re seeing casually based on the nature and length of your relationship.

Because of the positive affirmation I received during sex, I began to believe it was all I was good for. When people wanted me, I assumed it was my job to provide joy for other people. I gave myself to a lot of people in that way. I had to remember that I had a right to pleasure as well.

Our ongoing adult sex ed requires a little research. These books on queer sex address the questions you didn’t get to ask in health class.

First I became a cloud-woman. Min had always liked watching them as a child, one of her only good memories from that period. I lifted up my skirts, let her lap up my water. Her mouth was covered in dew when I kissed her.

No one is bad at sex.

From owning your erotic imagination to navigating your anatomy and someone else’s, here’s your intro to having gay sex for the first time.

I should’ve masturbated in the shower. I need to be pushed against a wall. She smells like the ocean.

A Massachusetts city has officially recognized polyamorous relationships; playing Animal Crossing with a buttplug; why “clean” is not a good metaphor for talking about STI status; and more.

Many Black women are raised to give our apparent struggles the stiff upper lip. We’re taught to be loud, and proud, and bigger than the world sees us. And at the end of all of that effort, in my most private and intimate moments, I wish to lay my burdens down. Ain’t I a bottom?

“Nothing, and I mean nothing, feels as nice as stainless steel on your asshole.”

“Looking for a baby who wants to be pleasured and punished in the most loving of ways. I may look adorable, but I’m quite powerful and will make you shake with joy or fear – if you behave you get to choose.”

Life moves fast. Time is a warp. It’s possible that you missed some of these tension-filled erotic S L I C K moments. Join A+ so you can read the slow, tight tension — right before the frenzy — that I love to revisit.

Orgasming with chronic pelvic pain, breaking up in quarantine when you have to stay there together, masturbation as part of mental health and more.

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

Moving in with a former sweetie might sound cute, queer and emotionally mature, but you better have a very good reason to take on the challenge.

I never thought I would be with another person like this for the rest of my life, but I’ve given myself permission, and that feels exciting.

Good news: there are no geographic limits to being a kinky slut, and I’m willing to lend you my perverted imagination.

Dating in quarantine, orgies in isolation, everyone is hornier in the spring. (Usually.)