Crushing on your therapist, a partner controlling your time with friends, the long-term impacts of gaslighting, maybe getting married again, making adult friends via Facebook groups — the AS team gives A+ members advice on these topics, and more!

Buffy the Vampire Slayer teams up with Mayor Bette Porter to save lesbians in Los Angeles from vampires on New Year’s Eve.

Naomi is leaving scratches on my chest, grasping for anything to hold onto while she sits on my face.

Looking for children’s books with queer moms, binding as a cis woman, communications issues in relationships, and more!

Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!

“kayla and laneia stumped me because of the long flowy mommi lounging situations in both photos, and then i got them mixed up because kayla put a set of four mini cocottes on her list, and i honestly just assumed she already owned those and laneia’s been tweeting about making dessert.”

“I picked up the tentacle attachment and clicked it into place. For a moment, nothing happened – then, the tip began to move, seeking out something to touch, and the entire shaft lit up with sensation.”

“The playlist that was basically titled: ‘I know I said I’m not into a relationship, but I love you.'”

The Autostraddle team offers A+ members advice on topics from changing your name, to working as one of the only out queer teachers at a middle school, feeling pulled between different causes, maybe finally taking a break from a draining friendship, feeling like you don’t fit into queer community, and so much more!

“I had a kind of dirty dream about you. Do you want to hear about it?” You laugh, and fuck, that sound twists itself inside my chest like a fist. I want to make you laugh more. Your voice drops, somewhere between a whisper and a quake. “It started with me kissing you.”

How do you make adult friends? The A+ team approaches this question from so many different angles to offer up advice on making adult friends while sober, making adult friends in a new city, making friends when you’re in a long-term relationship, finding potential new friends using Lex, meeting cool people with Instagram, deepening friendships that started through fandom, and more! “…that’s the beauty of the A+ Advice Box — you get a sampling of all our brains and then you get to make your own choices!”

The team tackles so many topics in this one! We cover questions about queer haircuts, crushing on unavailable people, dealing with rejection, feeling like you’re not built for casual dating, embracing media you like without shame, a partner blaming your body for his anxieties around sex, the truths behind an emotional affair…two completely different questions that reference Rachel Maddow…and a whole lot more!

Grief is not linear, finding help for your top surgery recovery, ways to alleviate feelings of isolation while staying home, and more!

Nicole you could run a PI office just for tracking down and interpreting the astrology of famous queers. Think about it.

Sad girls trying to cruise in an all-girls Catholic School down in Bogotá.

Immobile iguanas possible.

“Rachel — just a heads up that you are at the top of my list of bisexuals most likely to have cut their own hair with a sword.”

Just a little data, discussion and analysis from the backstage area of the Autostraddle Gay Emmys!

The team responds to questions about seeking ADHD diagnosis, routines and self-care, getting the most out of therapy, being the emotional support friend but never the emotional support recipient, and more!

Spiritually, we’re all making candles with Queen Latifah.