Can two switches have sex? I think so, and I think there is something beautifully different about having sex with someone with whom sexual options are truly abundant.

“It’s like, I’m hot, you’re hot, pick something on my profile to talk to me about!”

How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?

I was always thinking about them — what I’d bring, what I’d wear, what we’d do when we saw each other next. I wanted to dote and caress every moment of every day. I was willing to do damn near anything for them. I was consumed by what I can only term “I want to buy you a matte black Audi” energy.

If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?

Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.

Allison Moon’s Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex is about more than scissoring strangers — it’s about cultivating self-awareness and sexual self-esteem. Hookup culture might look different right now, but communication and boundaries are perhaps more important than ever before. The skills outlined in Getting It will help you navigate virtual slutdom in this challenging new era of distance. And if you want to gracefully transition into a post-pandemic world of IRL sexcapades, then you better start studying up now.

“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”

Think of us as your friendly neighborhood co-hosts, guiding you through super specific queer dating conundrums because honestly, straight dating podcasts could never.

Wet For Her has plenty of toys that can take your partnered sex to the next level, but they also have lots that are fantastic for solo play — here are 9 under $50 and $75!

Although I don’t think the Limba will be a go-to dildo to use with partners, it surprised me by being one of the most powerful G-spot toys I’ve ever used – and I’ve used a lot!

Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!

Thank you so much to everyone who came to the live facilitation of this educational workshop led by Shelli! If you missed it, you can watch the recording here and refer to the provided transcript!

“I picked up the tentacle attachment and clicked it into place. For a moment, nothing happened – then, the tip began to move, seeking out something to touch, and the entire shaft lit up with sensation.”

There is, of course, no such thing as a perfect or universal dildo. However, if we were, for a moment, to pretend that there is a most-likely-to-fit-your-needs dildo for most folks who are interested in one, the Magnum really might be it.

There is a different level of intimacy and affirmation that I have found when having sex with other fat people. Thin people approach the fat body like a series of insecurities. They see the swell of a stomach or rolls of fat on the back and assume that you hate those parts of your body. When another fat person touches me, it is to be made whole.

Last week, we partnered with Rainbow Health to host a virtual workshop on COVID-19 and queer sexual health. Here’s a complete transcript of what went down!

I had heard excellent things: that it was impressively “rumbly” despite its small size, and that it could even work with a harness. High expectations, but I gamely forged on anyway. And found that, in fact… these are all pretty much true? The WeVibe Touch is a very good vibrator.

“Challenge. Sext in strictly second person.”

It’s a CROSSOVER SPECIAL! We’re joined To L and Back Analyssa Lopez! We’re talking about first dates — the who, the what, the where, the why, AND the how.