Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya’s debut book — Helen House, a queer horror novelette — comes out October 18.

“What if we just let all of these cards have gender neutral pronouns and we break them free from these gender binaries and let them be every archetype?”

So you want to spread some cheese on a cracker and want to get a little more flavorful than your standard brie. Here’s what to buy at the grocery store — including vegan/dairy-free options!

For the next eight days, we’re obsessively recapping and analyzing every episode of the new Mike Flanagan Netflix horror series The Fall of the House of Usher, which yes, is VERY QUEER.

“I don’t believe in dividing beginners and intermediate students because I think everyone is going to bring different skills to the table.”

Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

I’m all about products and routines that work with my busy schedule. I’m obviously not lazy, but if lazy femme is the antithesis to high femme, I’m very much that.

“i don’t care about this at all except i would like to request hot pictures of the lesbians involved for a feature”

What do you do with your facial hair, how do you make friends in your 30’s, where is your motivation these days, how do you cope with your wife breaking things off, with an unhealthy friendship, with changes in your sexuality? The team answers these questions and so many more!

Supporting a partner with an HIV diagnosis, dating anxiety, dressing while pregnant, and more!

How do you stop comparing yourself to your girlfriend’s nesting partner, have big life conversations with your partner, deal with feeling your friends don’t love you as much as you love them, and more?

What terrible advice would you give your 16-year-old self just to see what kind of hell you could unleash on the world?

“what if autostraddle just became a mariah carey fansite”

Happy haunted holigays!

We talk tattoos, 9/11 and Carmen’s high school activism, spirituality, what L Word character Carmen is most like, being a die-hard femme and more!

I learned about the concept of chosen family from a heterosexual uncle I don’t talk to anymore.

It’s mid-November, and where I am on the east coast, that means it is time to swan about dramatically in various kind of outerwear!

Making seasonal change in a place where the seasons shift subtly or not at all.

In which our A+ members get advice from the AS Team on a recent mental health diagnosis, insecurity about a girlfriend’s bisexuality, climate grief, cutting your own hair, some stellar showering advice, and more!

We’re here in this round of advice to tackle everything that is heavy. Our team answers questions around adoption, sexual assault within the queer community, the personal decisionmaking around having white friends as a POC — and more.