Made me want to / and I did tap / that ass / many times / made it mine.

The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!

It’s time to normalize giving sex toys as gifts, and not just to partners. Everyone’s stuck at home anyway!

May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.

Tanya wasn’t the kind of queer to make the first move, generally speaking, but that night was different. Marianne was different. She seemed more than interested in what Tanya had to say. Her words were gentle and warm, but funny and sexy. Like a horny heated blanket that could make you laugh.

This episode is all about lesbian interconnectivity — hooking up with friends’ exes, friends hooking up with our exes, and the culture created by all that drama. Come for the gossip, stay for the emotional processing.

Here is a beginner’s guide to sending really hot sexts to your casual date, your girlfriend, and every babe in between. You’re welcome.

Reading sex books makes you better at sex, shower sex tips, whether or not ‘shrooms make you horny and more.

Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.

Happy holidays! And by “happy” I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one AKA our long-awaited mailbag episode!

You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.

My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.

What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?

“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the books I was reading, and my perfume bottles, my department-store boxes filled with eyeliner and lipstick. And I texted my spouse that we were separating and that I had moved into the guest room, and they called me and wanted to come back to the house and I said, ‘No, no, don’t, I don’t want you to,’ and then sat on the front porch smoking, waiting, as I had set the stage for another cinematic moment to happen. And my spouse did not come home.”

Honey, we’re home!!!! “Wait, Is This a Date?” is back and we’re talking all things mommi culture! And all things dating as an actual mom!

You’ve been vetoed — that truly sucks! A veto is where each person in a relationship has the power to end the other person’s relationships — “I vote against you dating this person. Break up with them now because I said so and I’m the most important, thanks!!”

Dating isn’t all sexting and thirst traps. It’s also heartbreak. This week we’re joined by Autostraddle’s Sex and Dating Editor Ro White to discuss break up strategy, when to break up, and the gay tradition of remaining friends afterward.

“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking about longing and dread and looking for roommates?”

Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.

“I thought the suction would somehow mimic a human mouth — well, the mouth of an individual who knows that a little light sucking can go a long way. It’s not like that at all — it’s way better. If there is a human who has a mouth that can do what Puff does, please send them my way as soon as fucking possible.”