“I was guilty and heartbroken and I wasn’t ready to let go of her: my first kiss, my first time, my first girlfriend, my first love, my first everything and before that, my best friend.”

You are just picking up Naomi. Your very good friend, Naomi, whom you have only not-so-jokingly offered to take up on her not-so-joking offer to fuck for a decade. She literally just got emotionally gut punched by some fuckboy. Don’t be another fuckboy. Not today. Unless she initiates. Fuck, she always initiates. Fuck, I missed my exit.

“Isn’t it funny how much Facebook used to play a role in flirting?”

How do you stop comparing yourself to your girlfriend’s nesting partner, have big life conversations with your partner, deal with feeling your friends don’t love you as much as you love them, and more?

What terrible advice would you give your 16-year-old self just to see what kind of hell you could unleash on the world?

A lack of focus, the road not taken, fear of dating — the team tackles these topics and more!

“Sometimes winning the switch fight meant kind of losing. When you were both switches, though, everybody won no matter the outcome. It all came down to pride and play.”

“what if autostraddle just became a mariah carey fansite”

Happy haunted holigays!

The thing swaying in front of her didn’t even register as human at first. It seemed about as alive and conscious as the vibrator thrumming between its legs. Just a sex toy, executing its designated purpose without end.

We talk tattoos, 9/11 and Carmen’s high school activism, spirituality, what L Word character Carmen is most like, being a die-hard femme and more!

Advice on studying with ADHD, envying they/them pronouns, finding the best outfits to match glamorous heels, masturbation, and more!

The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!

“Heather Hogan’s misandry gives me LIFE.” Welcome to Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us: in which the Autostraddle senior team answers q’s A+ members send in, freaks out with you over exciting news and responds to your all-consuming need to share various things!

Made me want to / and I did tap / that ass / many times / made it mine.

Noa tries to pick up her car at the auto shop and picks up her butch mechanic instead. “She buried her fingers in the dark locks of her mound and softly ran her finger up and down her clit, teasing. Cass pulled her hair gently.”

I lifted up your floral skirt / and with a smile, began to flirt / lightly ‘round your pussy lips / engaging with my fingertips / the outside of your dripping wet crevasse.

In which our A+ members get advice from the AS Team on a recent mental health diagnosis, insecurity about a girlfriend’s bisexuality, climate grief, cutting your own hair, some stellar showering advice, and more!

We’re here in this round of advice to tackle everything that is heavy. Our team answers questions around adoption, sexual assault within the queer community, the personal decisionmaking around having white friends as a POC — and more.

Our narrator takes their sub over the edge. “I am so lucky to be the custodian of your pleasure and your pain, pet.”