What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.

“You have to wear pants to go outside.”

Tomorrow is a brand new year! Here are the words we’re thinking about when we think about 2019. Tell us the words you’re claiming in the new year! Tell us what you’re doing for New Year’s Eve! Tell us all your hopes and dreams! Tell us everything! We love you! Happy New Year!

So, what do you get the person that already seems to own everything? Something weird, my pals!

The first month of the year doesn’t have to be about making big changes, but for a lot of people, it is. In that spirit, here’s the Autostraddle team sharing with you the things they’ve changed in their lives that has meant the biggest improvement.

Long days and even longer nights just trying to make ends meet? We can’t change everything but taking care of the mind, body and soul (very original) can hopefully make it a little easier. Check out these gifts to do just that!

How unfair is it that everyone who gets married and has a wedding shower gets a lot of nice fancy home goods (including a KitchenAid!!!) and I, a boss bitch forever single kitchen witch Capricorn femme queen, do not??

You shared some very thrilling stories with us on our recent Queer Travel Survey. Here are highlights of your adventures!

I hadn’t experienced transphobic violence in medicalized form before. But I’d experienced it in many others: in punches and pushes, through threats with weapons, or by being run off the road by cars while I was on foot.

In short, Zumba is a dance fitness class set to popular Latin music but honestly, for me, Zumba is more than just that, it’s given me life.

As always, when you buy our merch, you’re directly putting money into the pockets of the Autostraddle staff, writers and contributors, SO THANK YOU FOR SHOPPING WITH US!

13 Christmas and three Thanksgiving episodes full of lesbians in matching two-piece pajamas, bisexuals in endearing sweaters, and a trans woman dressed up as a literal Holigay Angel.

Even though I didn’t get to experience A-Camp in the traditionally transformative way, I got an even deeper peek into the ways that this community is both very real and deeply caring.

On top of how hard it is to be transgender in a cissexist world, it’s also really hard to be a child. It can be hard to have two moms in a heterosexist world. It can be hard to have a transgender mom. Put that all together, and I’m just one giant ball of anxiety who is frequently at a loss for the perfect way to help my child navigate the world.

Once I saw Heather Hogan stop a man who had been calling her “doll” in his tracks by asking him “What’s your name, buddy?” and that’s the same energy as Endora refusing to remember Darrin’s name correctly.

It’s our epic guide to some of the best places to eat, learn, walk, shop, party and be queer in Los Angeles.

Two of the cutest cities in the Mitten State want you to come say hello! Yes, “the mitten state.” How adorable is that?

Listen OK — the New York Times named Washington DC the Gayest City in America for a reason.

When I can’t travel myself, I turn to Instagram to soak up all the glorious travels of other queer women! They share glimpses of other realities and inspire me to get out of my bubble. 

I stopped hiking the Pacific Crest Trail in 2017 because of toxic masculinity and bro culture in the hiking community. It exists, it’s shitty, and it fucked me up.