“i love it when middle age white women lose their shit and yell in lengthy monologues, too”

Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.

Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??

Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!

Tell us, do you have any superstitions?

The one with the Anne of Green Gables fanfic in it.

First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.

“can we call lesbian visibility day lesbian brigadoon”

This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!

Can we please get a “sustainability dyke” pin? I would love that so much.

Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!

“Little A+ box, I just wanted you to know that today I did my part in helping to burn the patriarchy to the ground.”

“I don’t really view those choices and connections as mistakes, because anything I did that I overall don’t regret isn’t really a mistake.”

“i do love that you are holding barefoot wine in that nervous breakdown picture”

“we’re naked the whole time but somehow it is not hot and more sad than anything else”

“It’s adorable that you thought this book with this premise might have anyone who *isn’t* a lesbian in it!”

“Amazingly, neither the training bra nor my actual boobs magically solved my very typical and very sad self-image issues.”

“All horror is queer culture, as is Halloween as you correctly stated, and the 1970s in general, AND all final girls are queer culture in a very specific way that can only be discussed when you’re extremely high during a full moon.”

Capitalism! So neat!

“also can you truly — in your true heart — think of a better headline than “i put a sheet mask on my cunt””