Communication, of course, is the bedrock of any relationship — romantic, sexual, platonic. And yet! Mercury gets totally overlooked when it comes to synastry, or the astrology of relationships. Not today, though; let’s talk about how you process!

A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.

Self-love. Indulgence. Horniness. Loneliness. Boredom. Revenge. There are many motives for posting a thirst trap!

“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”

A FOSTA/SESTA explainer, plus whether scissoring is a real lesbian sex thing, how to keep casual sex casual, how to handle jealousy and more.

What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?

How to buy a vibrator, how to get back together with an ex, vulvic aura portraits, what your astrological sign says about how you masturbate and more.

Here’s when we knew deep in our bones we were goners.

Pot smokers have more sex, share sex content everywhere, when anti-depressants change your sex drive and more.

Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!

“I’m a Scorpio, this is kind of what we… do.”

“I essentially stole my brother’s car and drove it an hour away across state lines to go see my then-girlfriend for only 30 minutes while my parents thought I was at the movies”

In the world of sex, choosing the right song is key. In my life, sometimes I choose songs that are just right, and sometimes a song gets associated with something especially heinous. These are their stories.

Pairing pizza and masturbation, sexting in present tense, Gang-bang porn, millennial sex, songs for your summer break up and more.

“If you like to be on top during penetrative sex but you’re by yourself, the Moody and some ingenuity plus quad strength could be your solution.”

“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”

“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”

Introducing a new series on disability and love! Disabled people’s lives are bursting with affirmation, affection, and meaning well beyond half-baked romance narratives. So I’m talking to disabled queer folks about the love all around them — for partners, family, friends, pets, fictional characters, whatever — and sharing it with you right here.

“The internet kind of brought me to a space where, with able-bodied people first, I could be judged a little less.”

The first time you sleep over, cognitive similarities between kink and meditation, how rejecting trans women’s sexuality comes from rejecting any women’s sexuality, sex toys and industrial design, and more.