Sometimes you are going to have to undertake a project during which it will be inevitable that you will scream at each other. My advice is to just kind of pretend it didn’t happen.

As someone who’s dealt with substance issues, my friends and my therapist told me to cut and run, so I did. And now I regret it.

1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.

Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!

It’s easy to get the impression that everybody should be wanting to have lots of sex, all the time. But sex is not inherently superior to any other way you and your partner might spend time together. You and your partner are the only ones who get to decide how sex fits in to your life together, and which activities and intimacies are most meaningful to you both.

When it comes to boundaries, our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. (Also let us talk about Raven Symoné’s chaotic gay TikTok, shall we?)

Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we’re talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle Community Editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman.

Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)

But face-blindess is a bitch.

This week we’ve brought on someone in a gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery! But being in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy.

The water was carried a distance away from the faucet, yes, but that distance was…absolutely nowhere near my vulva.

“I can play with my chest and eat a peach while getting pounded.”

I couldn’t acknowledge that this was unsustainable, that my life wasn’t the novella I had convinced myself it was.

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]

Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.

Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.

Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.

How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.

Being self-conscious was my entire personality back then, wondering who around me might find me unattractive and why. The port under my skin felt like an obvious answer.