Results for: no fucks to give
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When You Wear An Agbada
“To understand my relationship with this symbol of masculinity, we’ll have to start with my journey of queerness I had no idea I had embarked upon until I was turning 28, the sleeves of my buba — the tailored Agbada shirt — all rolled up to my elbows and my fingers rubbing down on the clit of a girl I had only met a couple of times prior to that moment.”
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In Defense of Dyke Style
“It took me 14 years to recognize with certainty that I was a dyke. I wish I could say it was about the intellectual complexities of sexuality and gender, or that I was afraid of being different. Those were factors, but not nearly as pressing as this: I thought dykes had bad style.”
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Monday Roundtable: The Style Icons Who Inspired Our Gay Style
“My style icon is Nancy Meyers’ interpretation of a middle-aged white woman after she’s decided to pull herself together sometime in the second act. Wow that is… I feel very called out by own self.”
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A+ Roundtable: Forgiven but Not Forgotten
Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.
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Butch Slut
In the pool hall, my sweetheart and a close friend tease me one night: “unimpressive,” “pure luck,” “you aren’t that good.” They were trying to get my ire up so that an hour later when I told them to stare into each other’s eyes as I fucked my sweetheart’s body, I would mean it with a snarky competitive vengeance, I would mean it with power and control, I would be pushed to take what I want.
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Monday Roundtable: The Jewelry We Wear Every Day
“My favorite thing in the world is when people ask if it’s a mood ring so I can say yes.”
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A+ Roundtable: Our First Bras
“Amazingly, neither the training bra nor my actual boobs magically solved my very typical and very sad self-image issues.”
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Monday Roundtable: I’m Not Gonna Do It
It’s not gonna happen, buddy.
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Monday Roundtable: Breaking Up and Fucking Up
Just some of the many ways we ruin our lives after a breakup.
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A+ Roundtable: The Things We Did for the Money We Needed to Survive
Capitalism! So neat!
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Ask an Adult Lesbian: Get Your Shit Together, Shane
Shane McCutcheon self-sabotages, Emily Fields co-depends, Cheryl Blossom is scared to commit — and a team of real live functional adult queer women are here to help.
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A+ Roundtable: If I Could Take It All Back
“I never went into it planning to be a monster, and I think that actually always made it worse.”
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Monday Roundtable: Our Worst Haircuts
“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”
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Take Me Home
“She asks me how it went, I say it went bad. I don’t say much more because she hates hearing about my family like they hate hearing about her. It goes better when I keep it to myself.”
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A+ Roundtable: Vice Squad
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
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Monday Roundtable: Still Holding On
We’ve packed and unpacked these items through several apartments, hung them up with care, and regularly touch the sleeves contemplatively although today could be the day. Reader, it’s not going to be the day! The day is not coming. Yet we can’t let go of these garments. Why not!
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I Used to Break Into Houses
“I craved that isolation, that feeling of utter aching loneliness that I found inside houses where I did not belong.”
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A+ Roundtable: What’s Your Relationship Kryptonite?
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
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How “Bad Girls” Made a Good Girl Gay
“The first time I left my mom in the county jail, the only person more surprised than her was me.”
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The Autostraddle Yearbook: A Decade Of Gay Work
And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives…