Happy holidays! And by “happy” I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one AKA our long-awaited mailbag episode!

Riese: One boob out. I love the one boob out.
Carly: One boob out is incredible.

Honey, we’re home!!!! “Wait, Is This a Date?” is back and we’re talking all things mommi culture! And all things dating as an actual mom!

Riese: And then she explains that they have different core values.
Carly: Then Jodi says, “What are my core values?” And Bette says, “It doesn’t matter. It’s not a judgment.” What? What?
Riese: I want Bette to be like, “I see the beauty in things.”
Carly: And what do you see, Jodi? Also the beauty in things? Oh.
Riese: And Jodi’s like, “I’m wearing your exact outfit. Obviously, I also see the beauty in things.”

Dating isn’t all sexting and thirst traps. It’s also heartbreak. This week we’re joined by Autostraddle’s Sex and Dating Editor Ro White to discuss break up strategy, when to break up, and the gay tradition of remaining friends afterward.

Riese: So then we cut to Dylan’s condo or wherever.
Carly: Wherever Dylan lives.
Shannon: Her corporate housing.
Riese: Yeah, her corporate — Dylan has her tea because she’s like, “I’m entertaining a British woman at 11:00 p.m.”
Carly: “So I must make tea!”
Shannon: “Crumpets and tea.”

Thomas: I remember hearing that there was a trans character named Max, and that he gave birth and that possibly he was inspired by my actions.
Riese: A hundred percent, he was inspired by you.
Carly: A thousand percent.

Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.

The lights are out and everybody’s making out and we are having a live episode that you can watch (or read the transcript of!) right now, and also a podcast episode! WOW!

Erin: Wow, they have really done you dirty. I would love to make you two s’mores.
Carly: Thank you!
Riese: Let’s go glamping!

Riese: I would text Riley and be like “you up?”
Carly: Are you still at the gay bar…? Because?
Riese: I would come back incensed with rage and ready to make a mistake.
Carly: Ready to ruin my relationship.
Riese: Yes. I would be full of the spirit of ruin and ready to share it.
Carly: Which is not Christmas spirit, but it is kind of related.

“I just want you to know that I don’t even want to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool, but I want that for you so badly. I would die for your right to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool.”

Think of us as your friendly neighborhood co-hosts, guiding you through super specific queer dating conundrums because honestly, straight dating podcasts could never.

“I saw how they reacted to Max and I was like, ‘ohh, I’m gonna transition and I’m gonna be shunned from this community that I’ve longed for for 18 years, I’m gonna lose my community if I transition.'”

“My one note is, “God, I wish Tasha was a firefighter, so I didn’t have to feel conflicted about her.”

Riese: I guess if you marry Jodie Foster, you don’t have to do anything anymore.
Rhea: You don’t have to.
Carly: Nooooooo
Riese: I mean, you win!
Rhea: Yeah!
Riese: You win!
Rhea: I mean, you really do! That is it. That’s bingo, right there. “See you guys!”
Carly: You did it!
Rhea: “Later!!”
Carly: You did it.
Rhea: “I’m going to do my thing now. It’s only whatever I want, from here on out!”

“I had a moment where I was watching this again, and I remembered watching this scene 12 years ago, and I was like, wow, I’m gay. You know?”

“Challenge. Sext in strictly second person.”

It’s a CROSSOVER SPECIAL! We’re joined To L and Back Analyssa Lopez! We’re talking about first dates — the who, the what, the where, the why, AND the how.

Calling all low-down lyin’ nanny-f*cking motherf*ckers!