Results for: no fucks to give
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I Never Meant for My Hair to Be the Way Back to the Lighthouse
“I thought changing something on the outside would change the wrecked ruin of me on the inside. I thought somehow the inside would get a memo from my outside and get into shape. It didn’t, but my hair is the first way I was able to gain autonomy over my body.”
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Feelings Rookie: How to Apologize
“Even if I didn’t think I was hurting her feelings, she’s telling me I was. So what is my end game with my current strategy – make her feel badly for bringing up an emotional issue that she’s uncomfortable with? Make her feel like dirt for being honest with her own feelings?”
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Sara Quin, Ruby Tandoh and Others Share Their Mental Health Stories in “Do What You Want” Zine
“With a strong intersectional focus, this is a zine about mental health for all people, in all walks of life. We believe that mental health care and support should be a right for all.”
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Autostraddle’s Staff Shares Their Stories About Why We Need to #SaveTheACA
“Obamacare turned me from a liability into a full citizen worth protecting, and to see it roll backward instead of march forward would be a stain on our national history and an immediate threat to countless people.”
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The Top 11 All-Natural Things That Help Me Calm The F*ck Down
“I’ve got anxiety, and lots of it. When my grandma sends me a Facebook message asking me to call home, I know everyone I love is dead. I know at least three serial killers live under my bed.”
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You Need Help: Emerging From Your Hermitage
Like, I think about buying a coffee and then am like “no no self, you can’t do that – you would need to speak to a person.”
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Panic and Parenthood: Having A Baby, Being Torn Apart, and Putting Myself Back Together
“In one of my college psych courses we had to try to use conditioning to get rid of bad habits. My classmates tried to stop biting their nails. I tried to stop panicking during sex.”
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Melancholia In The Sunshine
“It isn’t until the summer, when the frost melts and the icee man comes calling and the pool is open and the yard (however ridden with stubborn weeds) starts to incubate natural life, that you realize the source of your woes isn’t dependent on the weather. It’s you. “
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You Need Help: You Cry Much More Than You’d Like To and Feelings Are Really Hard
Why are you crying again? How are you supposed to handle this? What are feelings and why do you keep having them? Let’s find out!
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Screaming/Not Screaming
Was it a nightmare and you just thought you were waking up? It lasted for two hours, you could’ve been dreaming. But you were awake.
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The Vagaries of Love: How Poetry and Queer Movements Give Each Other Names
For National Poetry Month, an ode to the queer poets who talk about their love, fight for justice, and helped me save myself.
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Has Body Issues And You Want to Initiate Sex
If you wait until your girlfriend with body issues is feeing just really attractive and good about herself to approach the idea of sex, you are, sooner or later, going to stop having sex together. Period.
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Me, Piper Chapman, the Psych Ward, and the Incarcerated 2.2 Million
“Real human change requires space to be honest with yourself, honest with others; a space that doesn’t exist when you’re trapped by necessity behind a fortress of self-protection. As the inmate Poussey in Orange replies when a correctional officer pressures her to speak openly during a group therapy session: “Does it ever occur to you that actually feeling our feelings might make it impossible to survive in here?”
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The Big Reveal
“In fact, the strain of hiding my illness would likely have caused me to break down with even more frequency. How would she have coped with those dysphoric, hallucination-ridden breakdowns — and how would I have dealt with her uneducated reactions?”
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The Ersatz Emancipation of Femininity: On Being a Bulimic, Brown Lesbian
“When I was thirteen years old I began starving myself. I did so, in short, because I wanted so desperately to be thin. And by thin, I mainly meant white.”
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Team Pick: Hyperbole and a Half is Backish!
Kristen’s Team Pick. And I’m not even exaggerating.
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Dust to Dark: The Colors of My Craziness
“It’s on my twenty-fourth birthday that I realize something is wrong. I wake up crying and I don’t stop.”
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You Need Help: After Sexual Assault
“How do I deal with an assault that wasn’t rape? How can I keep from feeling like my assault is being minimized?”
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You Are Not Alone: On Being A Queer Survivor
“I called it sexual assault at first. Sexual assault seemed less damning, less permanent.”
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Emma and Nicola Wrote A Novel About Britney Spears: The Autostraddle Interview
Emma McLaughlin & Nicola Kraus (“The Nanny Diaries”) re-imagine the story of how Britney Spears ended up under her father’s permanent legal control in their new novel.