From owning your erotic imagination to navigating your anatomy and someone else’s, here’s your intro to having gay sex for the first time.

Many Black women are raised to give our apparent struggles the stiff upper lip. We’re taught to be loud, and proud, and bigger than the world sees us. And at the end of all of that effort, in my most private and intimate moments, I wish to lay my burdens down. Ain’t I a bottom?

“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”

A hot take: processing literally everything all the time is not only *not good*, it is actually *bad*!

Ask for what you want in order to get it, Area 51 porn searches, your astrological sign’s best breakup strategy and more.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but it is perfectly fine and legal to ask someone for directions when you are lost.

I don’t want to put any songs on my breakup playlist that any of my exes have used, or are using, to woo their new girlfriends.

Pop culture makes it easy to believe that having feelings for someone means you need to act on it. We explore why it can actually be healthy to have feelings for people without being attached to a specific outcome, or needing to tell them, and have you can process it on your own.

Seize control of your image! Be hot as a form of revenge! Do it for you! Just feel good about something in a time when it’s so easy to feel bad about everything!

I want to talk about loving and investing in friendship with the same fervor many of us have been taught to treat romantic relationships only.

It’s 2019 and the world is our hot gay oyster! But… how do you actually go about planning a trip to meet the faraway queer of your dreams? 

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How to make your queer sex life literally magic, even if it’s with your ex, who science says it’s fine to sleep with now.

I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lezzy Slut-ology.”

So you want to head into your local sex shop and find yourself something new or different. Maybe you want to get a partner or a friend a new friend of their very own! Let’s make this a lovely experience for everyone involved, shall we?

Hosting your very own play party can feel like a lot, but with this guide you and your guests all set for a fun, chill and sexy time.

The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.

Sleepovers suck but you can have a better one, if you must. Also: Ontario’s sex ed curriculum goes back in time, lesbians have better sex, why not to get jaded in your Tinder bio and more.

It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.

Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!