Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!

If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.

Here’s to the lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, queer, trans and free-ass-motherfucker celebrities who opened the closet door a little wider when they walked out of it.

I feel like I am not the only one here crying about my gender, and you should know a) that you’re not alone and b) sheet masks can help.

“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”

“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”

Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!

“When I think about Trans Day of Remembrance and how I’ve survived to see another one, I know that it’s because of my family.”

Should you come out in high school or let them hear about it out later? Can you date a person with a kid if you don’t want kids? How do you take it slow with all these mixed signals?? Let’s find out!

Non-binary does not mean the same thing to a single one of us. We’re all super nervous to talk about it in public, though!

Nearly all those murdered, including Faulkner, have been Black trans women.

Across the country, Black TGNC people are performing serious emotional labor as organizers, healers, artists, sexual liberationists, and advocates. It’s time to give back.

“To me, being masculine-of-center means boyishness, it means blurring gender lines, it means a more vulnerable and delicate form of masculinity. It gives me the freedom to not fulfill expectations based on my assigned gender and body.”

She was 21 years old.

At this point last year, we knew about fifteen trans women who had been murdered, which means that despite all the “progress” that trans people have been making in the media, in courthouses and in the halls of congress, trans people are being murdered at the same rate.

“I was sobbing continuously and finally blurted “I’m gay!” and then Skype, wonderful technology that it is, DROPPED THE CALL.”

Talking with three of the stars of trans-created webseries Her Story about love, representation, staffing a set with trans women and so much more.

It will take time. It will take a lot of patience. It will be worth it.

Living as an out and visible trans woman isn’t easy, but it’s one of the most rewarding choices I’ve ever made.

So you’ve recently come out to your family, and it’s the first time you’ve been to holigay dinner since it happened. Autostraddle is here to help you through it.