Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

Signaling that you’re queer, the importance of friends in dating, a-traditional proposals and more!

“That’s what envy’s like. Not just wanting what other people have, but becoming so consumed by it that you end up casting yourself as a supporting character in their story, instead of inhabiting the full and wondrous world of your own story, where you’re the main character.”

What do you do with your facial hair, how do you make friends in your 30’s, where is your motivation these days, how do you cope with your wife breaking things off, with an unhealthy friendship, with changes in your sexuality? The team answers these questions and so many more!

Supporting a partner with an HIV diagnosis, dating anxiety, dressing while pregnant, and more!

How do you stop comparing yourself to your girlfriend’s nesting partner, have big life conversations with your partner, deal with feeling your friends don’t love you as much as you love them, and more?

A lack of focus, the road not taken, fear of dating — the team tackles these topics and more!

Advice on studying with ADHD, envying they/them pronouns, finding the best outfits to match glamorous heels, masturbation, and more!

The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!

In which our A+ members get advice from the AS Team on a recent mental health diagnosis, insecurity about a girlfriend’s bisexuality, climate grief, cutting your own hair, some stellar showering advice, and more!

We’re here in this round of advice to tackle everything that is heavy. Our team answers questions around adoption, sexual assault within the queer community, the personal decisionmaking around having white friends as a POC — and more.

Breaking up with a queer anti-choice friend, your partner isn’t over their ex, and more!

Breaking your roommates’ Covid precaution agreement, long-distance relationship panic, formalwear, should you break up with your partner when they’re going through a rough time, and more!

Feeling bad because of TikTok, boundary setting during sex, what your porn preferences mean, and more!

Should you forgive an abusive parent? What should you do with a conflict between your ex girlfriend and a friend? And more!

How to get a queer haircut, should you use a toolbelt during sex, and how can you queer business formal wear? The AS team answers these questions about your look, and more!

From frustrating job searches, to toxic leadership, from vaccine mandates to extreme nonprofit overwork, from coming out to a coworker to finding ways to actually enjoying downtime — the Autostraddle team addresses your questions about getting by in the workplace, being queer in your career, and making it through the day while surviving capitalism.

The team digs into questions about a partner’s conservative family, dealing with a crush on a new friend, figuring out what to wear for your wedding (!!!), and more!

The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

Is it bad that your type is queer mascs / butches, are you burnt out, and how do you move on after your partner cheats on you with your best friend? The team answers all these questions, and more in our members-only advice column!