“Forget all your ideas about what the person across the table from you might want until they tell you so you can actually listen when they do.”

Chicago’s feminist sex shop has published a well-written guide to getting down for trans women and their partners, written by Rebecca Kling.

“She told me she’d been raped… She’s feeling embarrassed and ashamed and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do… and everything seems a mess.”

Definitely don’t worry about it you’re fine everything’s gonna be fine.

“Then you think, ‘It’s so funny. We’re toeing.’ It’s funny and then you laugh and feel happy. “

“Almost immediately Linda is convulsing, and getting red in the face, and moaning in a way I’ve never heard a lady moan before. Little short bursts of air. She is making spirit fingers in the way I imagine they are meant to be done.”

How to play with that kinky infinite-floaty space that seems boundless and fills our heads with the same thing as chocolate and wine.

“On one hand, she said she fully supported my path to recovery, but in the same breath she would ask me provoking questions like ‘When is fun Ginger going to come back?’ in response to me choosing not to drink.”

After 19 years together, Brendin and Carrie tied the knot on top of Mt.Feelings, and we have about a billion pictures to prove it.

So customers, even those who normally research toys to make sure they’re safe before buying, are giving business to companies producing unsafe toys rather than companies producing safe ones — over time, if left unchecked, this kind of trickery and douchebaggery could lead to the good toys actually increasing in price, thus widening the gap of who can and cannot afford them.

Ambient contact, having sex for the first time, smut, sideboob and more.

Should I just go to the bathroom and never come out? Should I fake a heart attack? Tell them I got my period and it’s just a beautiful MESS that I need to stop and worship?

“We’re all normal, as long as we are having sex in ways that are consensual, risk-aware and injury free. Our bodies? They’re normal too. Beautiful, even. That should be the core concept in any comprehensive sex education, in my opinion.”

So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?

How (and where) to buy used sex toys, good budget-friendly toys and the best things to go big or save up for.

Sexual satisfaction by country, projects about orgasms, trans and genderqueer porn stars, reminding people that bisexuality exists and more.

“It’s like a magic confidence talisman, that blindfold is.”

But now my body, which had spent so many years letting me down and making decisions without my consent, had gone and done something absolutely right — and done it better. It had done something other people’s bodies, “healthy” bodies, hadn’t been able to.

BDSM is super hot, drive, how sex makes you smarter, being a sex researcher and more.

This week on NSFW Sunday: weird sex laws, orgasms and your brain, and more.