Sara Isaacson came to school on her ROTC scholarship before she realized she was a lesbian. But coming out has cost her $80,000 — ROTC wants her money back. In 2002, the same thing happened to a girl that I once knew — who I learned today is still fighting against DADT in unexpected ways. A look at how much things have changed, and how much they have stayed the same. Also, do your hobbies make you gay, a good day to love gay men, and meet Chris Pureka!

GLEE Creator Ryan Murphy backs up Kristin Chenoweth and calls for a boycott of Newsweek until Setoodeh apologizes — and invites him to come on set. Also, Ramin Setoodeh has responded to the “internet backlash” and Kristin Chenoweth’s response to his homophobic article “Straight Jacket” in Newsweek and unsurprisingly, all he really does is dig himself even deeper. We break it all down for you. Lots of feelings on this one.

Lesbian scandals that have been clogging our Google Reader so let’s get ’em all out there: sex! murder! terrible fark-ready things! It’s been a year since Dan Choi visited the Rachel Maddow show and came out — he returns and is f*cking brilliant. Also: that’s gay, best interrupting moments & more!

A full video of Jennifer Knapp’s appearance on Larry King Live is out — will Jennifer Knapp be the one to show Gay & Christian are not mutually exclusive? And when did Ted Haggard stop being an asshat and start being bearable? Rosie makes our little gay hearts feel full of love, Archie Comics are getting a new gay in Riverdale, Will Phillips is the cutest recipient of a television journalism award in the history of television journalism, and there’s a new name in media aimed at Muslim women. And hey, have you made a video for Be Queer, Buy Queer yet? If not, make moves!

Closeted gays play basketball, lesbians play softball, gay boys rank each other on websites that get startup funds (bah!), Constance McMillen has her day in court and the school officials whipped out some doozies, a good lesbian suit is hard to find, Elisabeth Hasslebeck and Whoopi fight about health care, also wait ’til you see these portraits of soldiers affected by Don’t Ask Don’t Tell!

Lady Gaga’s Q Magazine cover story is intriguing for more than just its provocative cover, for which Gaga insisted she wear a strap-on — we transcribe it for ya. Also; Angela/Jordan, MTV snubs Gen X and Lohan in LA.

Sinead O’Connor speaks out about the Pope’s crappy apology, Maureen Dowd thinks women could fix this shit & people freak out about gay bunkmates in war but ignore alarming sexual assault statistics against women. Also; more new headlines on Church scandals, DADT, and a controversial film at the Tribeca Film Festival. Also, discrimination and the census, and a look back at Christine Daniels’ life and death.

Gay people, especially lesbians of color like Jene Newsome, continue not asking or telling and being discharged anyways — and sidenote, Rapid City has a significant history of racial discrimination. J. Crew has discriminatory hiring practices, Elton got a death threat, gay men may or may not be able to give blood eventually, New Hampshire is standing for marriage equality, and the Paycheck Fairness may be able to make a difference for working women and their families. Also, Jon Stewart explains it all for you.

In which we ask: How does your race and/or sexuality impact your feminist identity? Do you ever feel you have to “pick one”?

Lads list TV’s Hottest Lesbian Scenes but miss all the good stuff, 90210’s lesbian kiss anticipation, Adam Lambert does “Sleepwalker” on Jay Leno (VIDEO), Rosie recaps The View’s interview with Octomom (IT’S AMAZING), Kanye writes a good blog post, Real World DC’s Emily Schromm talks to AfterEllen, Lindsay Lohan’s Purple Magazine photoshoot, 90210 House on sale & more!

Ilene talks to Emmy Magazine about The Real L Word, Bill Watterson on Calvin & Hobbes, Tegan & Sara Online NewNowNext exclusives and Australia tour announcement, Naomi & Emily interview, Natalie Portman “feared’ her lesbian scene, HBO planning Anita Bryant movie, opening JD Salinger’s mail, Vanity Fair’s Young Hollywood issue (K-Stew!), Rihanna does “Hard’ on Ellen AND MORE!

Constance McMillen’s treatment is a nasty reminder of how high school kids can be cruel, especially when LGBTs are involved. We overanalyze, Angela Chase-style. Basketball players might or might not be changing beauty standards, the first female Cherokee leader died yesterday, racism is bad for your health, and Yale starts a student-teacher sex ban.

Oscars 2010 “Live-Blog”/Open Thread with Autostraddle! Plus we make up for a year without film coverage by giving you our opinion on the 2010 Oscar Nominees! Get out your laptop, there will be lots of gay people, but no Jay Manuel.

Many schools are considering doing away with books — NYTimes debates the issue with Experts, and we have feelings. Also; gay Canadian teens in rural areas are lonely, lesbian activist marries gay man to prove a point, transgender woman on Oprah, first African-American gay speaker of the house in Rhode Island, Utah GBLTs won’t be ignored, and a kickass parody of the offensive Dodge Charger Superbowl Ads.

The history of lesbian closeting in Hollywood — and why, even today, so many lesbians prefer to stay in the closet. Also a Desperate Housewives lesbian storyline mini-cap, Tila Tequila’s Australian karaoke, an amazing Taylor Swift parody and Lindsay Lohan’s new interview.

Bisexual Lindsay Lohan wants to get back together with Sam, but is now sticking to the “Sam is the only girl I ever liked” storyline. We know it’s just a story, but we explain why it matters that they’re making her tell it. Gaga exemplifies the modern age with her stardom. Natalie Portman is working on a female stoner comedy. Oh, and we shamelessly ask you to vote for us in some contests!

Glaad says Valentine’s Day is secretly gay, The Real World DC mini-recap, Out Media’s $10K contest for college queers (you could win!), Modern Family’s gay dad interviewed, Rihanna heats bisexual rumors, Porita behind-the-scenes, Gaga & Cyndi Lauper continue their talk show tour and talk about their gay followings, Ellen will be dancing on TV for 3 more years, best Single Ladies parody ever, LiLo misses her flight, Melissa Etheridge’s new album, and Janeane Garofalo dream job on 30 Rock.

So much random fun for today’s Sunday Funday – Saved by the Bell sex secrets revealed by Dustin Diamond, will the US move forward on DADT, Miss America, JD Salinger, Lifetime Network vs. Spike TV, gay activist dragged out of court, more Lady Gaga edibles, why’s everyone want us to have gender roles so bad, Angie/Gaga hookup nonsense, J-Lo, hot butts, librarians and more!

It’s the very last day! And Blackenhorn continues to dig his own grave; defending polygamy and generally being a petulant h8er: “I feel like there must be some secret clause in legal proceedings that when someone says something this f*cking stupid, they automatically forfeit the case for their team. Like losing the Snitch. The polygamous Snitch.”

Portia De Rossi goes on The View, graces the universe with her radiant beauty & intelligence on topics like being closeted, her career, and equal rights. Elisabeth Hasselbeck is dumb. Kids are more tolerant of diversity, some important dude thinks women will be in the NBA one day, and the best protest signs of 2009.