In which we discuss the concept of safer dating.

I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.

The first time you sleep over, cognitive similarities between kink and meditation, how rejecting trans women’s sexuality comes from rejecting any women’s sexuality, sex toys and industrial design, and more.

“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”

I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.

It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.

I got my first STI as a newly single sub with no idea how to practice kinky safer sex. Turns out safer sex is everyone’s responsibility.

Tease and denial is a classic flirtation. Orgasm control is just one step further.

“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”

“You will have the best sex possible when you abandon yourself to pleasure.” The fastest way to find that feeling of abandon? Telling someone what to do to get you there.

Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.

Consensual non-consent, an electrosex checklist, tumblr is for porn, two things people in long-term relationships are good at, dating as a transfeminine girl and more.

Bad literary sex scenes, what romance means, sex ed and disability, how to have car sex and more.

Exploring the erotic significance of wheelchairs is an opportunity to refuse the limited choices available for sexual narration.

“I came. You didn’t. I’d kind of expected it to happen because of our connection – hoped egotistically anyway. I was disappointed but figured I’d give it time.”

A new study suggests sexually active lesbian teens have more partners and lost their virginities earlier than heterosexuals and that one in five lesbian’s most recent sex partner was a man.

“Queercrip sex has the potential to boldly shape alternative erotic environments for fucking, loving and pleasuring that shake up notions of who and what is sexy, what is sexual and what counts as “sex” at all.”

How do you tell someone, “Hey, I’d love it if you’d slap me around and tell me what to do”?
Turns out, you tell them just like that.

“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.

It’s cold(ish) outside; warm up with this selection of queer erotica.