You just have to be honest about what you’re looking for, and keep going after it.

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“He’d asked me about it before, saying it was something he’d always wanted. And now, he was quivering on the floor, looking up at me, handing me an open knife with both hands.”

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“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”

I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.

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“The internet kind of brought me to a space where, with able-bodied people first, I could be judged a little less.”

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“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”

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I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.

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“You can just NOT LIE.”

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Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.

“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”

Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.