Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.

“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”

“Sally? Sally, are you here? Are you selling those shirts?”

We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!

Finders keepers…

Sex: it’s complicated! Some people like some things and other people like other things and some people love things other people do not like at all!

We’re back with more questions than ever! And our team is here to give you advice on things like: sexy underwear for masculine-of-center folks, breaking sexual tension with a friend, how to move on from your one true love, how to get out of a professional rut and more!

“I’m going to make a shirt that says Rachel Is Right or maybe Listen to Rachel.”

What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?

Here’s all the good, bad and the ugly about our first time viewing porn. Remember VHS tapes? Were we ever so young?

“a line of topless queers at the nude beach, but from the back
they’re all different sizes and shapes and abilities and it gives the impression that the entire queer community gets along and loves each other”

Grass lit up by flecks of sun
Feel something!
THE SLOW BURN

Unpacking internalized homophobia (and lesbophobia, and biphobia, and transphobia, and misogyny, and MORE) is hard, but for you we did our best!

i don’t claim most of the dude bro lesbians in nyc who used to be shitty to me at the bar cause i have long hair
BUT YOU KNOW I AM NOT EVEN THAT MAD ABOUT THEM I HOPE THEY GREW UP AND GOT BETTER

“wait there are nipples on shutterstock??”

You’re really gonna wanna see this video Heather made us while on painkillers after taking apart her Roomba to see if she could put her Roomba back together.

I wonder what Laneia looked like in her winter coat as a small child, or what pose KaeLyn made in front of the Christmas tree when she was 4, or what wacky gift Riese’s aunt bought her one year. LET’S FIND OUT.

“I’m a Scorpio, this is kind of what we… do.”

“I don’t know who you are but I’ve never believed in anyone’s ability to reach peak mommi more than you”

“ok who sent me an autostraddle email address request for kristen stewart”