Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.

February 7th was our 14th dating anniversary and our 8th marriage anniversary. The truth is, I didn’t see myself married, in a house we own, with a child I carried, in a place in my life where I don’t want to move away or run off to the next tempting thing. I never thought I’d want stability, but here we are.

The moon governs your emotions, habits, and instincts. When it comes to relationships, this is important! Your moon is how you are emotional. It’s how you express your tender little queer heart!

Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.

A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.

“And there was Susan and Rachel at the heart of it all, dancing to the band Susan had sworn would play her wedding if she ever got married. As they laughed and moved to the music and worked up such a sweat that their jackets had to come off, I saw a glimpse of the future wedding I hope for, marrying someone I love, the two of us not fitting so strictly into the feminine.”

As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road. 

Go mute your ex on instagram. Then come back for alien dildos, porn according to stock photos, the crossover of fashion and beauty and sex toys, at-home STI tests and more.

The BJ Dildo is designed for strap-on blow jobs. And I really, really wanted to love it.

Sleepovers suck but you can have a better one, if you must. Also: Ontario’s sex ed curriculum goes back in time, lesbians have better sex, why not to get jaded in your Tinder bio and more.

I researched scissoring for you. My Google history is awesome right now.

Did someone say they needed me to answer 19 questions in one post?? No, they did not, but I did it anyway!!

Everything you need to know about picking out a strap-on harness.

Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.

Finders keepers…

Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.

30 questions! IS ONE OF THEM YOURS?? Wow!

What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?

Your sense of smell is linked to your sex life. Plus, why to listen to sex workers, how to get over your first love, why there’s no such thing as a summer vagina and more.

Young M.A directed a porn and well, it’s porn!