Hello, Aries. I can see that you have, once again, burned some bridges and wrecked some structures. I know that you’re thinking “but I’m not a typical Aries” and that’s very Aries in of itself! I’ve never met an Aries who thinks they’re a typical Aries.
You’re an Aries and you just chewed out a student unprovoked because they failed to understand your last assignment’s completely niche language — and yet you’re completely taken off guard when they still remember the interaction the next time you see each other. You’re an Aries and every time you stay late at work or the train stops running, you start reciting the Communist Manifesto by heart.
Being an Aries means that you’re constantly living in your head. Being an Aries is having one finger on the trigger and being just seconds away from sending your boss a lengthy email demanding to know why they think that you need this job when the smallest of misunderstandings arises. Being an Aries means that, typically, you like to make it clear that people can’t fuck with you except that, clearly, they can and will get a rise out of you.
You’re the fighter of the zodiac and we need you to stay that way, Aries. But think of a soldier reintegrating into society. You may be reacting to things that just aren’t there.
To overcome being an Aries, first:
Master the art of apology.
Learning the beauty of a great apology gives you more agency to do the things you want to do, fearless and without doubt. It allows you to do the things you know you may screw up but want to try anyways, because they’re just that important to you.
Learn the urgency of timing.
Now, I don’t mean waiting for things just because waiting “makes it better” or something. As an Aries, you understand the importance of your own time and not having any to waste. You’re the last to stand in line for some new confectionary as seen on Yelp because you hate wanting the same things as everyone else, as well as wasting even five minutes.
What I mean is: master the art of knowing when to take action, so that your efforts actually pay off. Step out of your own headspace by realizing that 90% of the work isn’t pushing and pushing until people are forced to take what you have to offer down their throats but waiting and waiting until the perfect moment so that even if your next step comes out a whisper, everyone turns their heads and pays attention.
Learning timing means that you’re working a lot less, Aries. It means that you’re leaving behind days of constant adrenalines rushes for an actually enjoyable pace of living.
The last step to overcoming being an Aries is the most important one—
Learn that there are just some things you can’t do alone.
This is one that you may have heard before and know in your head but not in your gut. That’s another thing about being an Aries — you know so many things in your head and you risk not realizing how to embody them.
Look back on your life and remember a time you were fighting, really fighting, for your working rights or against some racism you experienced, or misogyny at home. Did you get blamed for the incident despite being ideologically certain?
Remember this incident not as a time when you were either in the right or in the wrong but as a time that you were either fighting alone or together. The thing is, Aries, you’re the ram of the zodiac and it’s oh so easy to make yourself into the scapegoat of everyday violence just because you make a big deal out of it on your own.
We need you, Aries, because you’re the fighter of the zodiac but we turn on you just the same because you’ve never learned to make us feel involved in your battles for vindication. You’re taken on too much of the labor and responsibility, enough that our battles have become your battle. This is not the path to revolution. Without others, you make yourself small and camouflage your courage as pettiness.
Use that famous Aries charm. Turn it on to pull people towards your mission, but just because you’re bored.
So, Aries, as you can see, overcoming being an Aries is about much more than changing yourself. It’s about finding the space to be yourself. You deserve the fights you need to fight more than ever but no on needs you to fight for them. They need you to fight with them, to do so at the right moments, leisurely, and not so breathtakingly hard that you’re running on no sleep and empty calories consumed on the go, and in a way where you trust that you will have things to apologize for because you are operating outside of your comfort zone.