No one is bad at sex.
Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.
Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and the uprising; feeling “behind” in life, crushing on a quarantine roommate, and more!
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
If Strength and Leo season was about finding fiery confidence in the face that we show to the world, Virgo and the Hermit ask us to shine that brilliant light inward, to recognize all that we are and all that we are capable of becoming. What have you been hiding from yourself?
Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a different world.
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
Even if you feel utterly discouraged, Leo season brings an opportunity to take pride in the things we do well, the unique aspects of ourselves that bring pleasure and satisfaction. What sets you apart? What gives you purpose? What are you fighting for?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
Broken up with during quarantine, exploring your sexuality in quarantine, feeling concerned about being “okay” in quarantine, sage advice for parents of a non-binary kid and more!
Part of decentering romantic relationships from our lives, part of being independent, part of seeking a kind of individuality that cisheteropatriarchy denies, has to include removing a value judgement from these very things.
You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.
What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly straight) quarantine crush, and more!
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
In this season of Cancer, we learn to open our hearts in specific, calculated, careful ways, allowing others to see our joy and our hope, our dreams, our ambitions. How can you balance stillness and movement, make space for growth as well as stability? Where are you evolving, transforming? What are you pursuing?
Coping with feeling like it’s the end times and residual religious fears, sexual needs changing within long-term relationships, getting started with dating apps, and more!
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.