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Fencestraddlers 11 years, 8 months agoStraddlers, 26 yr old bi cisgal here and I need your advice. I am in a LTR with a man whom I love very much, we have been dating for 7 years (crazy, I know!) and we live together. My BF and I have plans to travel the world, possibly teach abroad after he finishes university (we both started college late).
I am worried about our commitment,…[Read more]
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Sounds like me a few years ago. In my case, I did a lot of growing. A LOT. A lot of learning. A lot of patience. A lot of messing up. But it was worth it. Today I am in a very happy polyamorous relationship with a man and a woman. We are in a triangle, which means we are all together, just how I wanted. Other polys I know have vees (ie. you with…[Read more]
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This sounds like me, too! Though, unlike Leesa, I am all about monogamy. I was in a monogamous relationship with a guy for five years. Spoiler alert: we broke up.
The thing is, I was planning our wedding while second-guessing my commitment every step of the way, and that is TELLING. If you find yourself wondering if you should even be in the…[Read more]-
Totally agree! Good luck with whatever you decide. I think it might be stressing you out more to think that this is all about sexuality, when, when it comes down to it, the most important thing is: you’re in a LTR, and you have doubts. I don’t think any doubts mean the relationship isn’t worth it, but you def. have to consider whether you’re…[Read more]
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Okay, so I shouldn’t be this scared coming out on freaking Autostraddle but I am because…I am bisexual, and I’m sort of concerned I’m going to be on the receiving end of “why are you trying to come out as bi on a LESBIAN website?” biphobia. Anyway, I’ve made some tiny coming out baby steps last year (working it in to relative conversations with…[Read more]
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You should just go to a meeting, even if you don’t have much to say and it’s awkward at first. What’s to lose? Don’t feel out of place or like you don’t belong because you’re bi–I’ve been out as bi for 10 yrs now (I’m 26) and I know that even when I’m with a straight boyfriend, my life and experiences are still different from a straight person’s…[Read more]
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I went to PFLAG meetings at university because I felt I needed gay identity and to know other gay people. They were so friendly, welcoming, and nice. So did you end up going to any meetings?
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I went to the drop-in centre at my school a couple of times. Even though no one knew how I identified (because no one can really ask), it was awkward because people seemed to know each other and I was out of place. I’m hoping to go to queer orientation week next year, which I was too afraid/discouraged by rain to attend this year.
I’ve gotten…[Read more]
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How about meeting girls online for dates or for friendship only? Sometimes I meet lesbian couples for friendship and maybe they can introduce me to their single friends; plus I get to know more queer people. I belonged to several dating sites before I met my wife. I just looked up to see if there were lots of girls who like girls in Toronto or…[Read more]
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I know that I’m gay, but I’ve been sexually involved with men, and I’m even hetero-married though we have been separated from some time. I am saving up for a divorce, we are on speaking terms and right now $300 to drop on divorce forms at LegalZoom seems so postponable. If there was like, a negative star lesbian rating to give me, I’d get it. I’ve…[Read more]
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Hey, I’d say that you have permission to call yourself a lesbian lesbian if you feel like one. You don’t have to apologize for a heterosexual past. Sexuality is more convoluted than a lot of people think, and there are many people (myself included) who feel that they are no longer comfortable in their assumed sexual identity and need a new “label”…[Read more]
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Wow, thanks for that reply. I like the ‘future intentions’ way of looking at identity. Coolness! Now I can skip off into the sunset! And thanks again!
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Anyone in the Mt. Pleasant or Lansing area?
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