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I need input. So there is this super cute girl who I know through a mutual friend. We have never talked in person and are merely facebook friends. She doesn’t live near me and happened to sit across from me on the train to pride. I was wearing a Chicago Blackhawks backpack and once she saw it she started talking to her friends about the hawks.…[Read more]
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well first of all, will you ever see her again? i think, for me at least, when i tell someone i think they’re fine, it’s for a purpose. if you just want to tell her just so she knows that’s what you think, i would say comment on something she posts on fb then strike up an fb chat convo about similar interests and go from there
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I think this is great advice! Only, err, don’t say “You’re fine!” say something interesting/funny. Fine can come later. :-p
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oh Straddlers, what’s the best way to shake off a bout of depression? it’s been far too long, and all I am is grey inside. complicating things, I am soon to move overseas, and I’d rather not have a black dog follow me on the plane…
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I’d say get a counsellor. I mean exercising, eating right, sleeping right and all that stuff helps too. But I don’t think anything helped me more than getting a counsellor. Mine helped me in preparing for my move overseas too and what to do once I got here.
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Thanks, I think I’m going to give my old one a call… she is really great, but I used to see her about ‘actual things’ (people dying or nearly dying, dealing with abuse, etc), and I have felt weak about seeing her about depression, particularly when outwardly my life looks great and friends just can’t understand what I have to be sad about… but…[Read more]
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I have a friend who has a very similar problem. She is doing a great degree, has tonnes of friends, great family and outwardly looks like she has the most perfect life but really suffers a great depression. Depression however can be caused by a chemical imbalance however anyone can have it. So many people who are supposed to have ideal lives like…[Read more]
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Running and meditation never hurt me when I felt shitty. The one is good to get your endorfin production started, the other is good for nuancing things and calmth.
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Fencestraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoOut of curiosity, does anyone else here feel a kind of different type of attraction towards a person depending on their gender? It’s definitely attraction, but it’s almost like an alternative mindset (in my own experience). Am I alone on this? Will this get me kicked out of the bisexual club? Honestly, though.
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you wouldn’t be kicked out of my club, i absolutely agree. to me, not only sexual attraction, but love feels different with different genders
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Yes.
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Yes to “different attractions to different genders,” not yes to “getting kicked out of the bisexual club.”
I get what you mean, though, about feeling guilt that you clearly do see gender despite being bisexual. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t identify as pan.
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This. I do see gender, and I especially see gender expression. I think it’s a good thing. Lots of people have issues/feelings about gender, and even if its not, its still a big factor in their lives. I think it’s good to be able to recognise that, especially for people whose gender/gender expression isn’t recognised by others.
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cindy posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 3 months ago
My ex seems to think we have some “special connection” still coz I’m her first love. She keeps contacting me and saying we should talk and keep in contact esp seeing as I’ve just moved away to her side of the world (she moved to Europe last year) away from all my family and friends.
I stopped talking to her a month after we broke up and we only…[Read more]
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Cut her off. She’s walking, talking drama. Your move is a way to start fresh, take it as an opportunity to meet new peeps not waste your valuable time on toxic ex girlfriends!
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I completely agree! Too many women are too concerned with not hurting people’s feelings, but this girl sounds like she has no regard whatsoever for your feelings. Don’t get caught up in her web of bullshit!
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Fencestraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoLook up “sapiosexual” on Urban Dictionary, I don’t know if I’ve met a word that describes me better.
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Fencestraddlers 12 years, 3 months agothis feels sad, but true, guys:
http://www.robynochs.com/writing/essays/biphobia_short.html-
Agreed. :/
I keep intending to make a shirt with a big ‘B’ on it to wear to Pride, to increase our visibility. But every year, I forget until it’s too late.-
makes me glad autostraddle exists :)
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Yeah it would have been nice to see more bi shirts at pride, though I wore my “card-carrying bisexual” button.
Especially I saw some lesbian wearing a “bi now, gay later” shirt. Ugh.
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Fencestraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoHey hey,
Just started this tumblr to raise pride amongst us fence-straddlers: bi-pride.tumblr.com
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‘Sup, y’allfags. I just recently had my first kiss with this lovely lady I’ve been seeing for a couple of months, we were friends for months before that, and we’re one of those annoying adorable infatuated couples. But the kiss just felt like…. touching, but with mouths? Nice, sure, but no different from holding hands or whatever. If kisses…[Read more]
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