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e posted an update in the group
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oh friends…I am recently out of a 4.5yr relationship and my gf started cultivating a thing with someone months before ending it with me. They have since consummated it, but apparently my ex “ended” it soon after as she feels she needs to be on her own. The crappy thing is, they still get to be “friends”, (and I’m pretty sure that stuff is…[Read more]
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That sounds terrible, hun. It’s always hard to see your ex in the scene – I keep running into a girl I was only seeing for a couple months. I can’t even imagine what you’re feeling.
It sounds like your ex is confused and probably pretty frightened – sounds like she’s scared of being alone.
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That sucks so hard! I don’t know how to make you feel better…but maybe knowing that your ex doesn’t have real feelings for this girl will help. If she’s the type of person who would do that to you than her depth of feeling is as shallow as a puddle and you are better off without her!
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Susie posted an update in the group
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hello there! can i please ask for some opinions on age differences? to elaborate, a really nice girl messaged me on ok cupid, saying she knows that she’s younger than i’m looking for, but she thinks we’ll get on. i’m 27, and she’s 22. i messaged back, saying she is too young, but seeing as she’s lovely (and newly out) does she want to meet for a…[Read more]
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for me that would be too big if an age gap. but i think that in lesbian relationships there is a higher chance of an age gap??
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Thanks for the advice Ami! It does seem like a lot… I’m worried. But I’m really struggling to meet girls my own age, I don’t know where they are! They must have set up their own wee lesbian circle some time ago. She’s graduated and everything, so she’s not a child, but… I don’t know. It’s not like I’m super mature, but I don’t want to be a…[Read more]
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I think the age gap would be more of an issue if say you were 21/22 and she was 16/17. When you get into your 20’s people see you more as an adult, and age gaps become less of a ‘OMG she’s how old?!’-you know what I mean? I guess it basically comes down to how the 2 of you feel about it, if it bothers either of you now then chances are it’s never…[Read more]
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She doesn’t seem bothered by the age gap. The only question I can think of is, are you bothered by it? Who cares what other people think… they’re probably just jelly.
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when I was 16 I went out with a girl 3.5years older than me. It never really bothered me or anyone else I think, not quite the same difference but your friends will get to know her and shouldn’t judge you for it. Why miss out a chance on something special?
Also this kind of makes me want to reopen my OKC, just a little bit.
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You guys rock. Reading your opinions and having a good old think, I have decided that who cares what other people think? A wee bit of an age disparity is just not a big deal. I’m not sure it’s going to work out with this particular girl, but given I keep on meeting youngsters this is all very relevant to my life just now, and I won’t panic over…[Read more]
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I’m 27 and my girlfriend is turning 21 in two weeks… once in awhile the age difference creates some issues, but for the most part I usually forget about it. She is pretty mature for her age, and I’m pretty immature… people always assume she’s 23-25 years old and that I’m 18-21 years old lol… either way, once you’re a grown up the age…[Read more]
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I think this isnt a major issue at all. My girlfriend just turned 32 and I am 21. We meet in school and she looks much younger than she is but when by the time I found out how old she was, I was already smitten. Initially we both thought the age gap would be a major issue but it really hasnt been. As a matter a fact (and maybe this is just me) I…[Read more]
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Darcy posted an update in the group
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Pretty pissed because I work with my girlfriend and our boss has basically forbidden us to speak to each other at work (She’s a cook, I’m a waitress). He was such a douche about it. We don’t talk anymore than anyone else does at work. We never neglect our job duties to sit and have meaningful romantic conversations. I can’t help but feel like we’…[Read more]
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Yeah, that is utterly ridiculous. I would totally be looking for a new job too, if I were you. Your boss is a douche and I hope you manage to find a new job with twice the money and half the bullshit!
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I quit that shit and got a new job, a way cooler job with better pay and hours. So my ex-boss can stick that in his juicebox and suck it.
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Andrea posted an update in the group
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I would like some advice on coming out to my roommate. I have no clue whether she’s homophobic or not. She’s pretty religious, and I think probably conservative (we haven’t really talked politics). I’ve brought up gay things/people before and she literally had no reaction, so I don’t know if that means she doesn’t care or didn’t want to get into a…[Read more]
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In my experience, homophobic people normally offer their hate on a silver platter. I knew I shouldn’t come out to a coworker within 45 minutes of arriving at her place for the first time. We were watching some movie and as soon as two girls kissed onscreen (briefly), she wasted no time in telling me how disgusting she thought lesbians were. Glad I…[Read more]
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Thanks for the advice.
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Lindsey posted an update in the group
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So, women are confusing. I apologize in advance for this likely very long-winded and complicated query…
I have been “seeing” (not even sure if this an accurate term) this girl for a little over a month now. We met at a gay bar and we started out as just going out together, which later turned into that plus hanging out together ie: watching a…[Read more]
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“Ouch” is what I thought when reading this. I think she likes you, but probably not as potential girlfriend material. I think you might eventually fall into the FWB category. But you need to accept this friendship for what it is- a friendship. Stop putting so much time and energy into this girl and find someone who is more reliable and more into…[Read more]
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Thanks for the reply – you’re probably right. It just sucks lol.
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it does suck! boo! When you find a girlfriend you will realize it wasn’t meant to be :-)
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So, I want to be out to my floormates/roommate especially, but I’m not quite sure how to have the “I’m not out to my family, so don’t say anything to them” conversation. Is it fair to come out to my roommate and then ask her to keep it quiet?
I think I may just be paranoid; she doesn’t ever talk to my family, but they might visit this winter. I…[Read more]-
If you’re living in a city where it’s pretty much accepted and she seems like a good friend I’d say go for it, I mean logically if she’s nice she’s not going to care or mind.
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I would just say exactly what you just said. Don’t be dramatic about it, just “BTW my family might visit this winter. Please don’t mention the gay thing to them. Haha!” As long as she’s a nice girl, she will respect that it’s up to you to decide when your parents find out and not up to her.
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