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Jess posted an update in the group Fencestraddlers 11 years, 9 months ago

Straddlers, 26 yr old bi cisgal here and I need your advice. I am in a LTR with a man whom I love very much, we have been dating for 7 years (crazy, I know!) and we live together. My BF and I have plans to travel the world, possibly teach abroad after he finishes university (we both started college late).

I am worried about our commitment,…[Read more]

Leesa replied 11 years, 6 months ago

Sounds like me a few years ago. In my case, I did a lot of growing. A LOT. A lot of learning. A lot of patience. A lot of messing up. But it was worth it. Today I am in a very happy polyamorous relationship with a man and a woman. We are in a triangle, which means we are all together, just how I wanted. Other polys I know have vees (ie. you with…[Read more]
Jillie replied 11 years, 6 months ago

This sounds like me, too! Though, unlike Leesa, I am all about monogamy. I was in a monogamous relationship with a guy for five years. Spoiler alert: we broke up.
The thing is, I was planning our wedding while second-guessing my commitment every step of the way, and that is TELLING. If you find yourself wondering if you should even be in the…[Read more]
- Laura R. replied 11 years, 6 months ago
  
  Totally agree! Good luck with whatever you decide. I think it might be stressing you out more to think that this is all about sexuality, when, when it comes down to it, the most important thing is: you’re in a LTR, and you have doubts. I don’t think any doubts mean the relationship isn’t worth it, but you def. have to consider whether you’re…[Read more]

Lex replied 11 years, 8 months ago

ha! she’s a tough one because she privatized by living outside the US and Europe for most of her career. super fascinating person. her correspondence with robert lowell is worth a read. he was completely in love with her for decades.
- Lex replied 11 years, 8 months ago
  
  (They were mind-soulmates)

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