The Spice Girls Reunite, Stop My Gay Heart in its Track

Feature image of the Spice Girls reunion via Victoria Beckham on Instagram

Be Still My 90s Kid Heart, the Spice Girls Reunited for Victoria Beckham’s 50th Birthday

There was a moment during Victoria Beckham’s 50th birthday party where the song “Stop” was playing and the Spice Girls all did the choreo for it that my friends and I all do when we hear the song, and it was a beautiful moment. (Side note: FIFTY?! They barely look older than they did in the original music video.) My only gripe about this adorable video is that Mr. Posh decided to film it selfie-style. I don’t want your big head in the shot, SHOW ME THE GIRLS! I’m not surprised that Victoria’s husband was probably the only one allowed to film this on his phone at this A-list event, but the fact that there’s not a clearer video of this is a bummer.

Either way, it’s really nice to see them all together and at least getting along enough to play around for the crowd. People pointed out that they’re standing in the same formation they did in the music video, which Emma says wasn’t planned at all.

This does make me wonder, then, if Geri and Mel B. are standing on opposite sides on purpose (in both this performance, and in the more professional photo from Victoria’s instagram), as they are rumored to have had some kind of more-than-friends relationship in the past, and who have made public jabs at each other over the years. Hopefully they’ll eventually learn to be friends again, as many good sapphic exes do.

For now we can just enjoy these cuties dancing and hope against hope they’ll do a worldwide reunion tour someday.


Never Give Up on the Good (News)

+ Kim Kardashian, Emma Roberts and Pretty Little Liars Creator I. Marlene King make a curious creative trio for an upcoming Netflix show

+ Speaking of Pretty Little Liars, a new Summer School trailer shows the return of Annabeth Gish… and I know I’ve talked about this show before but there is a lot of promo for it, which is making me want to watch it, unfortunately. I am a victim of the PR machine and it turns out that Annabeth Gish is a hook I will bit every time.

+ We Are Lady Parts returns May 30th! 🤘

+ “Little Miss Perfect,” which started as a song for Write Out Loud that I was obsessed with and also half of TikTok was obsessed with, is becoming a full stage musical

+ A new trailer for Deadpool & Wolverine dropped, and in it I caught a glimpse of Brianna Hildebrand’s lesbian anti-hero Negasonic Teenage Warhead

+ Bravo might be trying to blackmail Kyle Richards out of the closet (allegedly)

+ Kirby Howell-Baptiste will reprise her role as Death in Sandman spinoff Dead Boy Detectives

+ I really enjoyed this piece on Chappell Roan and her rise to the top breaking “gay famous” barriers. PS — Have you taken our Chappell Roan quiz yet to find out which song you are? I’m Pink Pony Club.

+ Don’t miss our very own Drew talking with Jinkx Monsoon about her new role as Audrey in Little Shop of Horrors

+ Bridgerton will reportedly get gayer in the coming seasons

+ And last but not least, I leave you with a queer reading of Taylor Swift’s ‘The Tortured Poet’s Department’

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Valerie Anne

Just a TV-loving, Twitter-addicted nerd who loves reading, watching, and writing about stories. One part Kara Danvers, two parts Waverly Earp, a dash of Cosima and an extra helping of my own brand of weirdo.

Valerie has written 549 articles for us.

1 Comment

Comments are closed.

Men of ‘The L Word’ and ‘Generation Q,’ Ranked

The original L Word had a very specific point of view when it came to men, and that point of view was that all told, men were very bad. While it was allegedly untrue that all lesbians were man-haters, it was unfortunately true that all lesbians were in fact surrounded by terrible men doing terrible things all the time and therefore had no choice but to hate the whole lot of ’em. Furthermore, the original series was very um… limitedwhen it came to naming minor male characters. It aimed to treat men with the same dismissive vibe we suspected was more traditionally granted to female characters.

Infamously, The L Word also agreed that all trans men were bad, but, then Generation Q came along with the bold argument that trans men were not actually bad, but were instead often boring. Is this progress? Who can say.

I gathered my fellow television editors (Kayla, Carmen and Drew) to vote on the men of The L Word and Generation Q. What follows is our expert assessment of the landscape.


44. Gomey

Mark’s Best Friend / Production Partner

gomey working security at an aparmtent or something

It is far more difficult to seize the prize of “worst man” in the L Word franchise than it is to secure the Best Man award. There is a lot of competition for “Worst Man.” In fact, when designing voting for this event, for the first time in the history of me asking my colleagues to vote on things, I had to limit not only the number of 10s a person could give, but also the number of 0s. At the end of the day, everybody kept one fat zero in their pocket for this man, Gomey, the absolute scumlord lizard of a man who spoke some of the series’ worst lines (“News flash, man, this girl you’re crushing on is never gonna be with you! You’ve got a real live dick and that disqualifies you from getting up in there!” is a line that will haunt me well into the afterlife) and inspired Mark to put up hidden cameras around his home to film his lesbian roommates having sex. However, one big thing Gomey did for lesbian culture was inspire what I still consider to be one of the best episodes of noted L Word podcast To L and Back of all time, in which Carly and I fantasized about all of the ways him and Mark could die.


43. Hendrix

Angie’s teacher and boyfriend, Generation Q

(L-R): Jordan Hull as Angie and Simon Longnight as Hendrix in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q, "Quiz Show". Photo Credit: Nicole Wilder/SHOWTIME.

Carmen: A grown ass man dating a barely 18 college freshman, who is one of his students. And then he has to nerve to belittle and infantilize her during their break up? My dude, yes she’s a child, So!! Why!! Were!! You!! Dating!! Her!!
Drew: It’s not just that he’s hooking up with his student — it’s that he’s boring and made Angie’s whole storyline boring.


42. Rodolfo Nùñez

Dani’s father, Generation Q

rodolfo talking to dani outside

Drew: The show kind of made it seem like he was the L Word universe’s version of the Sacklers, so… can’t get much worse than that.
Carmen: I gave Rodolfo two points to counter the fact that he was written as a slick, suit wearing, Latino drug dealer stereotype and while that is awful and unlikeable, I want to acknowledge that the fault on that lands with the writers.


41. Drew Wilson

Aloce Show producer, Generation Q

(L-R) Christopher Wallinger as Drew Wilson and Rosanny Zayas as Sophie Suarez in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q, "Lapse In Judgement". Photo Credit: Erica Parise/SHOWTIME.

Erica Parise/SHOWTIME.

Carmen: A man created solely to be hated.


40. Danny Wilson

Dylan’s boyfriend and filmmaking partner

danny in mediation

He entrapped Helena and disrespected Peggy Peabody. Plus I could really never stop seeing him as a cylon.


39. Mark Wayland

Shane & Jenny’s roommate

mark talking to the camera while jenny smokes behind hiem

Blake Lively’s brother, Eric Lively, joined The L Word‘s second season as Mark to deliver one of its most batshit terrible storylines and trigger Jenny into a nervous breakdown. Initially he had a lot going for him, like that he was hot and had a cute bromance with Shane, but despite being the brains behind our favorite short film, “Shane/Carmen Love Confession,” Mark was banished to the vortex forever. Good riddance!


38. Aaron Kornbluth

Producer of Lez Girls

aaron at the table in a meeeting

A realistic character who told a lesbian he valued her art and her point of view and therefore wanted to fund her project but then when it was all said and done wanted to change the art to be less gay. Boo!


37. Tom Mater

Jodi’s interpreter and Max’s boyfriend

Tom and Max

Carmen: Wait why did Tom leave Max? What I am forgetting? What’s the drama?
Drew: Max was pregnant (via Tom) and Tom disappeared in the middle of the night!
Carmen: THE FUCKKK
Oh wow ok thank you, i shall rate him accordingly!


36. Henry

Tina’s boyfriend

Henry is wearing a coat

Henry had terrible friends and clipped his toenails right in front of the camera.


35. Josh Becker

Tina’s colleague / hookup

Josh Becker

On the upside, his decision to tell Tina, mid-makeout, that she’s definitely not a lesbian, did give Tina the opportunity to shove him away by the head and when you watch that clip in slo-mo it’s pretty solid stuff.


34. Greg

Actor who played “Jim” in Lez Girls and briefly dated Nikki Stevens

greg at table read

No


33. Dr. Benjamin Bradshaw

Kit’s married boyfriend 

benjamin bradshaw after one of his TOE speeches
Carmen: Con man. I still cannot believe how much he told Kit to charge for a damn tart.
Drew: I mean he basically runs a cult but I guess he was right about the pear polenta tart.
Riese: Pear polenta tart inflation is late capitalism at its finest but also he was right and it turned Kit’s fortunes around. But then he stood Kit up for that cute date she’d prepared for with special food and everything! That was so sad! Also the alley cat business. IYKYK


32. Conrad Voynow

Dana’s agent

dana's agent talking a big game

The best part about Dana’s homophobic agent was the part where she fired him.


31. Gabriel McCutcheon

Shane’s father

gabe and his wife sitting outside at the ski resort

Shane’s Dad failed her as a child, and then showed up for round two: failing her as an adult and in turn, failing our dearly beloved Carmen De La Pica Morales and also Helena Peabody. Unforgivable!


30. Leo Herrera

California Art Center fundraiser

Leo at his desk at the CAC

Leo was probably a bad man, but he gets a pass for also being a man so unmemorable that we all really had to try extremely hard to remember who he was and what he did. So he was the guy they brought in to “help out” at the CAC, against Bette’s wishes, and who told her in their first meeting that he met her ex last night with Helena Peabody and that they were so excited about the baby, which is like, oof, you know?


29. Tim Haspel

Jenny’s boyfriend

tim looking at jenny feeling happy

Season One Tim started out as a cutie who seemingly had little in common with his girlfriend Jenny, who arrived in West Hollywood and immediately began to cheat on him. In Tim’s final scene (aside from the Season Six “goodbye Bette & Tina” video we’ve all forgotten) he had lunch with Jenny and Max at Pink’s Hot Dogs and oof, what a fucking nightmare!


28. Franklin Phillips

Bette’s boss at the California Art Center

Franklin at a board meeting

Fired Bette at her father’s funeral. Bad taste in art.


27. David Waters

Kit’s son

David sitting on sofa with Angelica

Kit’s son literally just had to sit there and smile and hold Angelica so Bette could get her second-parent adoption rights and instead he did a little speech about how gay adoption was bad and Angelica would suffer without a man in the house. As we all know from Generation Q, Angie turned out just fine, so.


26. Randy Jackson

Tim’s co-captain for the California University swim team

randy jackson outside the team bus

Tim Haspel’s only friend, said some weird things about lesbians?


25. Irwin Fairbaks

Dana’s father

dana's parents looking at her with concern

Dana’s Dad…. homophobic…. also is Colonel Tigh….


24. Isaac Zakarian

Bette’s boss at the Zakarian gallery, Generation Q

Griffin Dunne as Isaac Zakarian in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q “Late to the Party”. Photo Credit: Liz Morris/SHOWTIME.

He was fine?


23. Dan Foxworthy

Therapist to Bette & Tina and also Tasha & Alice

therapist sitting in his chair

Mediocre at his job, missed opportunity for The L Word to hire a hot queer couples therapist.


22. Melvin Porter

Bette’s father

Bette's Dad melvin having dinner with his family
Carmen: As a Black person walking upon this earth, I cannot in good conscience give Ossie Davis a zero. But just know, in my heart, this is someplace around a zero.
Drew: Yes, he’s homophobic. But Ossie Davis is such a good actor, he makes the character complex and even likable.
Riese: I loved the way he said “Ms Kennard,” that’s what I call Tina in my head now forever


21. Angus Partridge

Angie’s Manny and Kit’s boyfriend

angus holding angie

Noted Manny and lying lowdown nanny-fucking motherfucker Angus Partridge got more screen time than any other cis man on The L Word.

Carmen: I’m saying though… HE CHEATED ON PAM GRIER!!! Some things are unforgivable.
Drew: He cheated on Kit and he also interrupted her recording session. He was an insecure man who ruined the best things in his life. But people are complicated and I do think he had some really nice qualities!


20. Captain Curtis Beech

Tasha’s attorney in her DADT trial

beech sitting at the desk with tasha

Riese: Did he start out homophobic and annoying? He did. But did he come around eventually??? He did!
Carmen: I gave bonus points for any affiliation with Tasha. I am who I am.


19. José Garcia

Micah’s boyfriend, Generation Q

(L-R) Freddy Miyares as Jose and Leo Sheng as Micah Lee in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q, "Lapse In Judgement". Photo Credit: Erica Parise/SHOWTIME.

Erica Parise/SHOWTIME.

Carmen: Wait now, why do we hate Micah’s Jose? Why don’t I remember any of these men’s worst deeds?
OH WAIT was Jose married and never told Micah? But he was so cute!!
Drew: Yeah he was married and didn’t say
But yes very cute lol
Riese: MICAH MERMAN PAINTING DREW
Drew: OMG I FORGOT
Carmen: OMG THAT PAINTING
Riese: the most offensive art in the history of the franchise
Carmen: ok no gotta take off another point


18. Leonard Kroll

Phyllis’s husband

leonard looking proudly at ehlena for some reaosn

Carmen: No. Just No.
Riese: That fight with Phyllis in her office where he asks her if she wants to flush their life down the toilet is some of the worst dialogue in L Word history. But also… he is sad and his heart hurts and it was sort of cute when he came over to Alice’s to learn about lesbians…
Drew: He’s just a man whose wife is a lesbian doing the best he can with that info.


17. Gene Feinberg

Jenny’s boyfriend

Gene at the farmers market

Gene was such a nice Jewish boy. Loved marine life, brought Jenny flowers, was chill about Robyn.


16. William Halsey

Funder of Lez Girls

wallace shawn as william, sitting next to jenny

Carmen: Cher Horowitz’s dad will always get at least a 8 out of 10 for me, no matter the role, on principle.


15. Clive

Shane’s friend 

Clive waving at a guy in The Planet

Clive was just going through a rough time and needed help, you know?


14. Burr Connor

Famous actor Jenny was going to ghostwrite for

Burr at lunch with Chatlotte and Jenny

Well, we hope this man found his way out of the closet.


13. Hassan

Micah’s hookup, Generation Q

(L-R) Freddy Miyares as Jose, Leo Sheng as Micah Lee and Shyaam Karra as Hassan in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q, "LA Times". Photo Credit: Hilary Bronwyn Gayle/SHOWTIME.

Hilary Bronwyn Gayle/SHOWTIME.

Very hot, did not do or say anything particularly memorable.


12. Harrison

Dana’s double’s partner / beard

harrison ready for the tennis event

Dana’s gay doubles partner. Sometimes I remember this role as being played by Andrew Rannells even though it wasn’t. But like….. imagine if it was?


11. Sunset Boulevard

Employee of The Planet After Dark, Kit’s boyfriend

"i make really good pancakes" says sunset on stage in an outfit

This man was a good man — but also a very bad drag queen. But happy for Kit that she ended her run in the franchise with a boyfriend who didn’t suck! Porter for Progress!


10. Oscar

Social Justice Advocate

oscar in a a "fight in the fields" t-shirt

Very kind and helpful man who gave Tina something to think about during her miscarriage grief (volunteering for his org) and also helped getting dirt on Faye Buckley for Bette’s debate.


9. Pierce Williams

Bette’s mayoral campaign leader, Generation Q

pierce

Drew: I’m glad that Brian Michael Smith landed his role on 9-1-1: Lone Star and that worked out well for his career, but I wanted more for Pierce and his flawless suits.


8. Shay McCutcheon

Shane’s little brother

Shay talking to the school principal

Kayla: I feel like people hated him but he was literally just a child? Also really love the side of Shane he brings out.
Carmen: I know this is a minority opinion, but I wish Shay had stayed on the show and gotten adopted. Shane had never been better. Anyway, give that kid a milkshake!!


7. Howie Fairbanks

Dana’s brother

howie in dana's living room

Dana’s gay brother knew how to have a good time!


6. James

Bette’s assistant

james standing behind bette at her desk

Drew: Behind every powerful woman, is a man scheduling her meetings.


5. Tom Maultsby

Alice’s ghostwriter & boyfriend, Generation Q

Donald Faison as Tom in THE L WORD: GENERATION Q ÒLuck be a LadyÓ. Photo Credit: Liz Morris/SHOWTIME.

Carmen: Such a great use of Donald Faison’s easy smile and charm. Tom, you did no wrong.
Drew: People were so weird about Alice actually having a boyfriend. Tom was lovely!
Kayla: Genuinely great chemistry with Alice! Even though nothing about the publishing industry made sense wrt his character!


4. Max Sweeney

Max in a blue t-shirt and dark blue cap sitting next to Jenny on a couch

Drew: I love Max. Even if I don’t love everything the show did with/to Max.
Riese: We’ve obviously discussed this issue to death on To L and Back, but Max is such a hard one, because he was such a sweet, earnest, interesting character but transphobia in the writers room did him — and all trans men — so deeply dirty. His return in Generation Q was one of the show’s best moments.


3. Micah Lee

micah lee smiling in a white button-up shirt

Carmen: Micah deserved better than Generation Q. Micah deserved to be a shy 00s-style romantic comedy lead in which he’s a flower shop owner who has chemistry with a deadpan girl who didn’t think she could fall in love, played by Ayo Edebiri. In this essay, I will…


2. Ivan Aycock

Kit’s friend

ivan in drag with moustache

Carmen: Swoonworthy.
Drew: The show’s best depiction of transmasculinity occurred when they didn’t even know that was the story they were telling. I think this often happens with cis work about trans people. Sometimes it’s best if they’re just observing the realities they see rather than bringing their baggage of What It Means To Be Trans.


1. Billie Blaikie

Kit’s party planner

billie chatting with kit at the planet

Drew: By far the best man in The L Word‘s history. Shows up, helps Max transition, has a sex at work, and then goes off on his merry way.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Riese

Riese is the 41-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

Riese has written 3182 articles for us.

9 Comments

  1. Couldn’t agree more about Shay!! That’s my favorite L Word storyline, no exaggeration

    And perfect top 4 overall, especially Billy. I feel like Billy and Max’s relationship might be my second favorite L Word storyline.

    As always, I’m reminded that what I like about this show seems to be wildly different than what most people seem to like about this show (seems to be Tibette for them, mostly). I’m glad Autostraddle has always been a soft spot for me to land in that regard!

  2. also agree on the top 5! and it’s kind of impressive how few men were even in this show, considering 9 seasons.

    Micah deserved so much more.
    Related: I give Hassan an automatic two-point deduction for inviting everyone to his improv show at Bette’s mayoral event.

  3. They saved the best men on the show for the soundtrack: Leonard Cohen, Rufus Wainwright, Joseph Arthur, Damien Rice…

    • Love this article, but I had to chime in! Wallace Shawn played Mr. Hall, not Cher’s dad.

  4. I fully apologize that this is my takeaway/somewhat less than meaningful contribution but William Halsey/Wallace Shawn is Cher Horowitz’s debate teacher, not her dad.

    • Oh my god!!! I think…. I mean, I know…. wow, you are so right.

      I have fully swapped this in my head for years.

  5. Hm, I was really rooting for James as #1. His only shortcoming is that he didn’t continue to sacrifice his life and stay on as Bette’s assistant throughout Generation Q.

  6. I will die mad about the Tim Haskell character assassination. The writer’s room was really bad about writing men. There was no reason that his character had to go from being a loving, supportive partner to the toxic mess he was. I know it’s peak soap opera writing, but I hated with the show did with him. There was a chance to split them up without all the general toxic masculinity they put into the character. He could still be sad and angry and hurt without turning into a monster.

Comments are closed.

Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do You Create Queer Community for Your Family?

Friends! After a wonderful year, Queer Mom Chronicles is coming to an end! But never fear, this isn’t the end of parenting content at Autostraddle! And I’m not going anywhere either! To put a lid on this chapter, I would love to do a queer parenting Q&A. If there’s anything you’ve ever wanted to ask me about parenting, leave me a comment and I’ll gather them up in their own post!


In the past, I’ve written about wanting to find other families like mine so that we could have other people in our lives who get it. Finding and connecting with other two mom families, either by myself or with my family, has been so great. While our individual family dynamics are different, we can have conversations about the things that we all seem to face and there is an underlying sense of commonality. As we continue to navigate the world as a two mom family, and as our son gets older, having those other families as a part of our community continues to be invaluable.

Once I came out, it was important for me to have queer friends and begin building my queer community. Thankfully, I kind of fell into one thanks to the first woman I dated. She has an amazing ecology of queer friends who immediately took me and my son in as their own. She and I are still very good friends, so we get to be around that group quite often, which I love. Now, she has a son of her own, who she had with her gay male friend but was born via surrogate. My son, who was always used to being the only kid, now has a little buddy who looks up to him, and her son has someone who has a family that kind of looks like his.

After my wife and I met, we began to take stock of the community we were creating for our family. My son is lucky to have queer family members, but chosen family is also incredibly important to me. So many of our close friends are straight and cis, which is fine, but I wanted my son’s world to be bigger. I grew up around my mom’s queer friends, and I wanted my son to have that, too. Queer people are some of the most loving and amazing people that I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing, and I don’t want him to be deprived of having that kind of love in his life.

His world is rapidly expanding, and I want him to understand that queer people exist beyond what he sees on TV or reads about in books. We have trans and nonbinary friends, and those relationships helped him strengthen the connection in his mind for sure. Now when he meets new queer people, he’s relating those parts of their identity to the people he already knows, and it forms new, stronger connections for him.

I know I’m not the only queer parent who has thoughts and feelings about this kind of community building, so I reached out to some of my friends to ask them why it was important to create queer community for their families.

“I want my kid to see families like ours,” my friend Kelly explained. “It’s important that my kid be able to connect with other kids with queer parents. She needs that community — I don’t know what it’s like to be a kid with queer parents.” Our kids are friendly, and while I don’t think they’ve ever talked about having two moms, it’s good for them to know they have each other.

Kelly also explained that creating a community allows her daughter to “know and trust other queer adults in her life” beyond her moms, which is so important. The idea of safety and knowing that there are possibilities outside of the cis-het norm is one that is common. My friend Emily wants her kids to “expand their knowledge and awareness of what is ‘normal’ or ‘traditional’ because queerness is often a kind of permission or model for how to be yourself regardless of whether that pertains to your gender or sexuality.”

“Queer communities are some of the most diverse and expansive communities. I want my children to see countless possibilities of what rooting deeply in your authentic self and radical belonging look like in practice,” my friend Jasmine shared.

For my friend David, there are many reasons to seek queer community, but one thing that stuck out is how after he transitioned, his family started to look “straighter” to his kid. “When she was five she came to me and was like ‘I noticed that all kids have some kind of mom and some kind of dad’ and I was like ‘NO!!!!!’” he explained. “The world is vast and complex and full of variety, and I want my kid to experience some of that NOW. I don’t want to raise her in a bubble,” he explained. Like me, he feels it’s not enough for our kids to experience that just in books.

“It’s important for us, because my son is also gay, and between us and our close circle of friends, we are the only queer exposure he gets to others like himself,” my friend MyLove explained to me. “We are pretty isolated in our small town cis-het bubble, except for the rainbow island we carve out for him.”

For some queer parents, it’s finding safety for themselves in queer community that pushes them to create that same queer community for their kids.

“We need more queer chosen family as we grow and learn and love, we need queer role models for our children to aspire to be like, and we need to know ourselves as queer parents that we are never alone in this,” my friend Lindsay pointed out.

My friend Natalie’s daughter was around 10 when she came out, and for her, building community was a way to “assure her that life with me and my partner was going to be ok and better than what she always knew.” Natalie explained that her daughter grew up in Southern Mississippi where “exposure was slim and judgements were high.” But now, she’s 24 and “doing amazing.”

“I find kids of queer families are kinder, more well rounded and lots more loving than judging,” Natalie added.

Her point feels very true! Our kids are forced to move through the world differently, and while that doesn’t inherently mean they’re going to be more kind and empathetic, it lays a strong foundation. Even if their peers don’t treat them as others, our kids know they’re different. We as queer parents have to take the extra steps to make sure that our kids learn lessons their peers with cis-het parents don’t. Our family doesn’t fit into the same box as any of my kid’s friends’ families, so I knew I had to arm him with the tools to not feel bad or let others make him feel bad about being different.


Just know that if you’ve read or commented on this column in the last year, I now consider you a part of my queer community. How do you create queer communities for your family?

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Sa'iyda Shabazz

Sa'iyda is a writer and mom who lives in LA with her partner, son and 3 adorable, albeit very extra animals. She has yet to meet a chocolate chip cookie she doesn't like, spends her free time (lol) reading as many queer romances as she can, and has spent the better part of her life obsessed with late 90s pop culture.

Sa'iyda has written 116 articles for us.

The Gayest Moments From Coachella 2024

feature image art by Autostraddle / photos of Chappell Roan and Victoria Monét via Coachella 2024 livestreams; photo of Reneé Rapp by Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for Coachella

Both weekends of Coachella 2024 have concluded, and so many queer, bisexual, and lesbian performers made the music festival as gay as possible. From Victoria Monét’s extremely hot set to Reneé Rapp’s L Word tribute to Chappell Roan using the stage to directly place a hex on her ex, here are some of the gayest moments from Coachella 2024. As @godimsuchadyke so eloquently put it: “Coachella was in her lesbian era this year.”

So here’s your Coachella 2024 recap, but just the queer parts!


Victoria Monét Makes Her Mic Into a Strap

Yeah, you very much read that correctly. Bisexual R&B superstar Victoria Monét gave an incredibly homoerotic set at Coachella weekend one, including using her mic to mimic a strap during some of her choreography. Just take a look and try not to pass out (with important commentary from the incomparable Taylor Crumpton):

And it did not stop there!!!! Monét’s set included choreography that not so subtly simulated sapphic sex. Just watch! The whole thing!

“Stop the wars, stop the hate, stop the genocide,” Monet also said at one point during her set.


Chappell Roan Sings DIRECTLY to Her Ex

Queer pop singer Chappell Roan made her Coachella debut this year, prompting discussions of her reaching mainstream status. In addition to having impressive live vocals, she also brought the sapphic drama in a way only a Pisces could. “This one goes out to my ex, because bitch I know you’re watching,” she said DIRECTLY TO THE CAMERA when introducing her song “My Kink Is Karma.” “And all those horrible things happening to you aren’t karma. It’s me.”

@snoopy.luvvr

My kin* is karma 💋 @chappell roan #chappellroan #fyp #mykiniskarma #coachella #theriseandfallofamidwestprincess

♬ My Kink is Karma – Chappell Roan

Roan’s band wore shirts emblazoned with EAT THE RICH, and Roan wore a tank that read “Eat Me.” All in all, she made sure her Coachella debut was gay gay gay.


Reneé Rapp Vibes to Chappell Roan’s Set

We love sapphics supporting sapphics.


Reneé Rapp Is Introduced by the Cast of The L Word

Renee Rapp performing at Coachella

Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for Coachella

If you’re a dyke who’s awake and alive and extremely online, then you probably have heard by now that Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey, Jennifer Beals, and Ilene Chaiken brought Reneé Rapp out to the stage at Coachella. Rapp also brought out Kesha for a queer duet of “Tik Tok.” All in all, it was a very aughts set (complimentary, we love gay time travel).


Reneé Rapp Gives Towa Bird a Cheek Kiss

Towa Bird was on stage as part of Rapp’s band, but of course we know they’re a little more than artistic collaborators.

@pressedpapershop

Replying to @abby💛🦦🌷 we all need to chill. i won’t go first but it’s something i’ve noticed #reneerapp #coachella

♬ original sound – pressedpapershop


Brittany Howard Absolutely Shreds

Fresh off her sophomore solo project, lesbian rock musician Brittany Howard hit Coachella this year and posted a video to her own TikTok appropriately labeled SHREDCHELLA.

@brittanyhowardofficial

Give it to love #shredchella @coachella

♬ original sound – Brittany A. Howard


Ice Spice Teases New Y2K Album

Bisexual rapper Ice Spice made her Coachella debut and also debuted some new music during her set. She’s making a lot of post-weekend-one headlines, because Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce were seen vibing in the crowd during her set. Ice Spice also gave a shoutout to Swift’s new album during weekend two.

@popbase

#fyp #foryoupage #foryou #coachella #coachella2024 #icespice #icespiceeedit #concerts

♬ original sound – Pop Base

Ice Spice also dropped a teaser for a new album of her own, a message appearing on screen behind her during her second weekend set that read: “Y2K album dropping soon.”


Billie Eilish Teases Sexy New Queer Song

Coachella surprise duets are always a treat. Lana Del Ray brought out Billie Eilish over the weekend for a duet of Eilish’s hit “Ocean Eyes.” They then sang Lana’s “Video Games” together.

@sydneybucksbaum

@lanadelrey x @billieeilish at @coachella 2024 Friday night was an iconic duet #coachella #coachella2024 #lanadelrey #billieeilish #oceaneyes #videogames

♬ original sound – Sydney Bucksbaum

In addition to her guest spot in Lana’s set, Eilish did a drop-in DJ set where she teased her super queer new song “Lunch,” and you should check out the lyrics.


Tinashe’s White Vest

Bisexual R&B singer Tinashe performed her new single “Nasty” while wearing an iconically bisexual white suiting vest with nothing underneath.

I think it’s safe to say Coachella 2024 belongs to the bisexuals?


Young Miko’s Coachella Debut

In another solid Coachella debut that’s for the gays, Puerto Rican lesbian rapper Young Miko brought a ton of energy to the stage and performed some of her super gay hits, like “Lisa.”

@mayradoe

Lisa 🥰 #Coachella #youngmiko #Lisa #coachella2024

♬ original sound – Mayra Lupita


Ludmilla Brings Out Her Wife for a Kiss

Brazilian and bisexual singer-songwriter Ludmilla has a tendency to put queer love centerstage by bringing out her wife for a kiss, and she did not disappoint at Coachella this weekend! The #ludchella tag on TikTok is full of gems. Ludmilla also made history as the first Afro-Latina musician to perform on the Coachella mainstage.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

Kayla has written 815 articles for us.

2 Comments

  1. You forgot about Ludmilla, AfroLatina from Brazil. She’s a huge deal here and her wife is her backup dance, in most of the concerts they kiss as a protest against homophobia in Brazil.

Comments are closed.

Fun Facts About Natasha Lyonne and Clea DuVall’s Friendship

When it was announced the Florida Film Festival would be doing a special 25th anniversary screening of But I’m a Cheerleader featuring a Q&A with Natasha Lyonne, I told my wife to buy tickets now. A few weeks later, Clea DuVall was added to the event after some scheduling things got sorted. Posters popped up around town, Natasha Lyonne as a teenager in the bright pink dress from the film gracing the windows of shops along the street where we walk most mornings. I snapped pictures of almost every one I saw. It’d be difficult to describe to my past self exactly what this felt like. I wouldn’t have given the posters much time or thought when I lived other places. I may have even skipped out on the pricey event, despite the film being an all-time favorite and despite being a self-appointed scholar of queerleaders in film and television.

But the fact that this would be happening here, in Orlando, in a state that used to have a conversion therapy ban that was ultimately struck down (some Florida cities and counties have their own local bands, but Orange and Seminole County which encompass Orlando are not one of them), made me look forward to the event as if it were a world premiere of my own film. Jamie Babbit’s campy conversion therapy comedy from the 90s was one of the first lesbian films I ever saw, a pattern that turned out to be true for a lot of the local dykes who showed up for the screening based on my conversations in line and the cadence of the audience Q&A. And it wasn’t until the start of the screening, when Lyonne herself pointed out the similarities between the film and works of John Waters (an obvious comparison, I know!) that I realized just how much of an impact it had on the kinds of queer film I tend to gravitate most passionately toward.

Inspired by Drew Burnett Gregory’s recent recap of a Go Fish screening, I took obsessive notes during this special Florida-based But I’m a Cheerleader screening and Q&A. Here are some of the event’s standout quotes, moments, and fun facts about their long friendship and artistic collaboration, based on my notes:

Lyonne walked DuVall down the aisle at her wedding.

“I genuinely am totally in love with Clea,” Lyonne said after a rather rambly, tangent-ridden response (a theme to the evening, and one I genuinely appreciated) to a question about being part of iconic lesbian film canon. “I like being clear and honest. And it has been from the moment that I met her. Just whatever that is. I mean, it’s so funny that young people have all these terms for it, but I was definitely at Clea’s wedding. Did I walk you down the aisle?” DuVall confirmed that yes she’s pretty sure she walked her down the aisle, though it wasn’t a traditional wedding. “You were definitely the dad,” DuVall said. “So I’m the dad,” Lyonne agreed.

“Natasha’s the dad, Melanie’s the mom,” DuVall said, referring of course to other fellow But I’m a Cheerleader castmate and longtime friend Melanie Lynskey. How do I apply to be adopted by this family????

Doing But I’m a Cheerleader was one of the most meaningful parts of DuVall’s career.

Multiple times, DuVall emphasized just how much it meant to play Graham, a character she says she brought a lot of herself to. “It was really meaningful, and it is still one of the most meaningful things I’ve gotten to be a part of in my entire career,” she said.

DuVall and Lyonne’s friendship actually predates making But I’m a Cheerleader.

They met at the audition for Girl, Interrupted. DuVall booked the role obviously, and Lyonne did not. She was up for Brittany Murphy’s role.

On that note, DuVall and Lyonne’s off-screen friendship is very real and meaningful.

I tend to black out from secondhand embarrassment and frustration during most audience Q&As, because I’m a control freak who can’t stand awkward or silly questions, but this was a rare event where I was actually very much into everything being asked, especially because I could see just how much this movie means to so many people, 25 years later. One audience member asked a very sweet and unexpected question that was ultimately about adult friendship, asking DuVall and Lyonne how they’ve managed to stay friends through all these years even as their careers have taken off and led them in other directions and as they’ve gotten super busy with work.

DuVall then talked about how she has certain relationships that transcend friendships and become family roles, and she considers Lyonne to be among them. “Neither one of us has family in the traditional sense, so we really are very important to each other,” she said. Throughout the Q&A, their status as chosen family for one another was clear. But I’m a Cheerleader doesn’t seem to have merely had lifechanging impacts on so many viewers of the film but on the people who made it, too. I mean, DuVall is out here literally calling Melanie and Natasha mom and dad.

“If Clea didn’t exist, it would kill me, I would be dead,” Lyonne also said.

DuVall filmed The Faculty and But I’m a Cheerleader the same year, and the experiences were…quite different, as you can imagine.

In 1998, DuVall was in the alien horror movie The Faculty, in which she plays a character Stokely woh is so coded as gay that other characters actually tease and ridicule her for seeming like a lesbian. Her queerness is played only for jokes, and she ends up with a guy at the end of the film. DuVall noted that she filmed The Faculty and But I’m a Cheerleader the same year, the former in the summer and the latter in the winter. She emphasized that she really loved working on The Faculty and how fun it was, while also acknowledging it was weird in the sense that she was still closeted and only some people on set knew she was gay. It wasn’t a negative experience for her, just weird of course to be closeted and doing a role where she was kind of gay but not really gay. (For what it’s worth, I do consider Stokes to be an all-time great queer horror character canonically, even if the makers of The Faculty don’t intend her as such.)

To go from that to But I’m a Cheerleader where she got to be so totally herself was freeing. She reiterated again just how meaningful it was to play Graham. She said she doesn’t know if she has ever felt that much herself on-screen, either before But I’m a Cheerleader or after.

One of DuVall’s favorite queer films is Pariah.

When an audience member asked for other queer film recommendations, DuVall said Dee Rees’ Pariah was a favorite. She also recommended Bound, prompting Lyonne to say “That’s a hot movie.” I agree.


If you ever get a chance to see a special in-theaters screening of But I’m a Cheerleader, do it. The 4K restoration of the film makes its technicolor dreamscape all the more immersive and striking.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

Kayla has written 815 articles for us.

3 Comments

  1. So here for this content! I didn’t know any of these.

    Jude Doyle has a great essay about interpreting Clea’s Faculty character as trans.

Comments are closed.

Mini Crossword Loves a Plant-Based Option

The news came out of the purple!

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Emet Ozar

Emet is a queer and genderqueer program manager, crossword constructor, and married parent to four children.

Emet has written 26 articles for us.

9 Reasons Why I Think My Mom Is Gay

There’s a long-running joke in my family that my mom is gay. When I tell people this, they assume that her and my father are divorced or that he is otherwise out of the picture. He is not. The joke has evolved in a way that we’ve gotten her comfortable enough to self-identify as bi-curious, which I think is really rad and cool for her.

My mother grew up in Queens and went to an art and design high school in Manhattan where she was exposed to all different kinds of lifestyles. She then went to Bard College (gay) where she kissed her girl friends (gay) and studied art (gay), all while dating my father. Though she’s exhibited gay behavior her entire life, it wasn’t until about 2018 that we started asking questions. Here’s why:

She has her MFA in Creative Writing from Sarah Lawrence College

Going to Sarah Lawrence College is one of the gayest things you could do, and more people would do it if it wasn’t so fucking expensive. As an adult, my mom went back to school and got her MFA at Sarah Lawrence and was a graduate assistant on the literary magazine.

When I came out to her, she responded by saying “I used to make out with my girl friends in college all the time!”

I know that this is typically a no-no in terms of how people should react when someone comes out to them, but for me, it was nice knowing she was a little dykey. Most of the time, when someone says this, it’s in the “haha oh yeah of course I kiss girls when I’m drunk” way but I knew that when she said it, she meant it.

Two of her four kids are gay

We know that queerness is genetic and until Salma Hayek transitions, my dad is not gay. Also, statistically speaking, my mom is one of five girls and the only other “maybe” in that family sadly passed before we could confirm.

She has an incredibly close relationship with the NYC lesbian biker group “The Sirens”

On more than one occasion, my mom has traveled on the back of some butch’s motorcycle through New York State. She attended the wedding of two of the members. She’s even been thinking about buying a motorcycle for herself!

Her favorite Game of Thrones character is Brienne of Tarth

My mom wants to climb Brienne of Tarth like a tree. She’s obsessed with her and was just as disappointed as I was when it turned out the character wasn’t gay. Her second favorite character is, of course, gender nonconforming Arya.

One of her favorite movies ever is The Hunger

No matter if she was hot for Susan Sarandon, Catherine Deneuve or David Bowie… that shit’s gay!

She fully referred to herself as a lesbian once

I lived in North Carolina for a little over a year during the pandemic. Once, my mom and my lesbian sister visited me and during a car ride, I mentioned how nice it was to finally have another lesbian in the area. She looked me dead in the eyes and asked, “Who? Me?”

She frequented the NYC dyke club “Shescape” in the 80s

When my mom told me this she also told me that her friend, who is gay, used to get mad at her for going to Shescape since she wasn’t gay. To that I say… BI ERASURE!!!!

She co-founded a non-profit breast milk bank

The only thing that could make founding a non-profit gayer is if the non-profit was for boobs. Just kidding — it’s actually a really beautiful and important organization that quite literally helps save the lives of thousands of premature infants. HOWEVER, a lot of people do assume that she is gay when they find out what she does for work.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Motti

Motti (they/he) is a New York born and raised sorority girl turned writer, comedian, and content creator (whatever that means these days). Motti has been featured on We're Having Gay Sex Live, The Lesbian Agenda Show, Reductress Haha Wow! Live, the GayJoy Digest, and even played the role of "Real Life Lesbian" on Billy on the Street. In 2022, they wrote about how clit sucker toys are a scam, sweet gay revenge, chasing their dreams, and getting run over by a pick up truck in their now-abandoned newsletter Motti is An Attention Whore. Motti has a Masters in Public Administration and Local Government Management, you'd never know it from the shit they post online (see previous sentence), but occasionally he'll surprise you with his knowledge of civic engagement and electoral processes. They live in Brooklyn with their tuxedo cat, Bo, and their 20 houseplants.

Motti has written 21 articles for us.

5 Comments

Comments are closed.

Quiz: Which Chappell Roan Song Are You?

Whether you’ve been a fan of Chappell Roan since “Pink Pony Club” or are newly obsessed since “Good Luck, Babe!” I think we can all agree she is an exciting artist in the genre of queer pop. But have you ever wondered which Chappell Roan song you are??

Not which song is your favorite, but which song — in lyrics and sound — best captures your vibe. Well, good news! I’ve made a quiz where you can figure out the answer!

Maybe you’re filled with gay longing, maybe you just want to party, or maybe both. As long as Chappell Roan continues releasing music this good, we’re going to keep on dancing — down in West Hollywood and beyond.


Which Chappell Roan Song Are You?

What's your favorite food to get hot to go?(Required)
How do you feel about your high school boyfriend?(Required)
How do you feel about your high school girlfriend?(Required)
Pick a famous drag queen.(Required)
What’s your favorite kind of car sex?(Required)
Pick a Brigette Bardot movie.(Required)
Who from Chappell Roan’s Tiny Desk concert are you crushing on most?(Required)
Pick a real red wine brand that exists.(Required)
Pick a recent Autostraddle article.(Required)
What’s your guilty pleasure?(Required)

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Drew Burnett has written 521 articles for us.

12 Comments

  1. Super Graphic Ultra Modern Girl? That description… misses the mark. I’m not hot shit, and I’d never heard of this artist before today.

  2. “After Midnight” for me.

    Which is really my younger self revealed. I can admit that I did dabble in top energy. I might’ve kissed someone’s girlfriend, and, yes, I might’ve indeed kissed someone’s boyfriend, which didn’t necessarily lead to a bar fight but certainly got me in lots of hot water. Worth it though.

  3. I got After Midnight, which was a good recommendation to get into Chappell Roan if nothing else.

    I’m gonna assume the top energy is just misread dom energy, and while I think I have as much confidence and chaos as the result suggests, maybe inside of me in my own idealized best version, I do lol

  4. I got Pink Pony Club and love that for me as this was the first Chappell Roan song I heard like a year and a half ago and am still obsessed by it today !
    Also love the description about putting my queer fam above all else <3

  5. Ok legit was like what F are these questions (and low key didn’t know enough to answer 2 of em so went with vibes) but got “Good Luck Babe” and feel it’s acurate so HUZzah and it all works out in the end!1

    • The questions are mostly inspired by her songs! Brigette Bardot is named in the first line of Red Wine Supernova. Also the inspo for the red wine question. Favorite food to get hot to go is referencing HOT TO GO! Car sex is referencing Casual. Drag queen question inspired by her saying she thinks of Chappell Roan as her drag persona. And the high school boyfriend/girlfriend questions feel self-explanatory given… all her songs. lol

      Tbh I didn’t think most people had seen the Brigette Bardot movies so its definitely meant to work off vibes and I’m glad that paid off.

Comments are closed.

The Top 10 Movies to Watch High

To celebrate 420, I’ve put together this list of the top 10 movies to watch high. How did I determine these films and their order? I did the very important journalistic work of watching them all at least once while stoned.

Old and new, funny and serious, mainstream and experimental — this list has a range of options for any high mood. It even has a documentary about a squirrel.

Enjoy! And let me know your favorites movies to watch high in the comments.


10. Now You See Me (2013)

Movies to Watch High: Jesse Eisenberg splays out a deck of cards

Jesse Eisenberg plays J. Daniel Atlas, part of a team of thieving illusionists, in Now You See Me. </em

To say the Now You See Me movies are about magic, is like saying Spider-Man is about entomology. The way magic — not wizard magic, like… card tricks — are used here is part heist movie, part superhero team-up. It’s absurd! And when stoned?? Delightful! The only reason this isn’t higher on the list is because of a very 2013 moment of random transphobia that can (briefly) kill even the most magical high.

9. Jupiter Ascending (2015)

Channing Tatum and Mila Kunis look at each other.

Look, I think the Wachowskis’ last film collaboration is underrated no matter your state of sobriety. But drugs can certainly heighten this operatic tale of flying Channing Tatum wolfman and Mila Kunis queen of bees. The Wachowskis know how to make a movie and while this may not be The Matrix, the craft on display is still enchanting — especially under the influence.

8. Blue Crush (2002)

Three women holding surfboards walk along the shallow water of the ocean.

While stoned, why not revisit a childhood favorite? Especially one with hot surfer girls? I mean, sure you’d also probably have a great time watching surfing clips on YouTube, but it’s even better when interrupted by moments of homoerotic friendship. Also I love that the male love interest in this is super supportive of the main character’s ambitions. Good vibes all around!

7. Old (2021)

Movies to watch high: A close up of Gael Garcia Bernal looking old.

From a beach with good vibes to the beach that makes you old. I watched this M. Night Shyamalan movie high right after finding a row of staples in my delivery nachos, so I did spend a lot of the movie thinking about how if I’d eaten quicker I might’ve died. Appropriate thoughts for a movie about mortality! Because the characters are rapidly aging, they’re often shot abstractly and it makes for a very overwhelming (in a good way!) high watch.

6. Drive-Away Dolls (2024)

Margaret Qualley and Geraldine Viswanathan peak their heads around a doorway.

The lesbian community seems to be really split on this recent movie from Tricia Cooke and Ethan Coen. Personally, I loved it even when I first watched it sober. But it really clicked when I rewatched it high. It’s a fun romp that’s smart while not needing to be taken seriously! Whether you loved it or hated it, it might be worth a high rewatch. At the very least, drugs make Margaret Qualley’s accent feel on purpose.

5. Déja Vu (2006)

Movies to watch high: a close up of Denzel Washington on the phone.

Any of Tony Scott and Denzel Washington’s collaborations make for great high watches. Scott’s style is so frenetic and Washington’s acting is so grounding and it’s always dazzling. While Unstoppable might be my favorite, Déja Vù is the one that feels most appropriate with drugs. It’s a truly bonkers riff on Vertigo that might make you feel stoned even if you were sober.

4. The Collected Works of Barbara Hammer (1968-2018)

Black and white images of bodies and arms crossing.

Before my fellow cinephiles attack me, I think you should watch Barbara Hammer’s work sober too. I just also really love watching experimental cinema high! When I first started smoking, I’d go to the Anthology Film Archives and watch whatever random series they were doing. Hammer’s work is relatively hard to find online, but hey start with Dyketactics and No No Nooky T.V.

3. Barbarella (1968)

Jane Fonda as Barbarella with big hair looks over her shoulder

My root! Jane Fonda in Barbarella is a sex-positive space hero and she changed my life in my early puberty. While it may have a PG rating, this is a campy action movie that jumps from sexual encounter to sexual encounter. One of the first movies I ever watched high, this one holds a special place in my heart.

2. Perri (1957)

A close up of a squirrel

I love a nature documentary while high. But what about a nature documentary with a musical number about animals fucking? This live action Disney movie from 1957 has exactly that! Ostensibly following the adventures of Perri the squirrel, this is a documentary that tries to narrativize a kids movie out of its real footage. It’s short and weird and a true hidden gem.

1. Smiley Face (2007)

Movies to watch high: A close up of Anna Farris winking

The ultimate stoner movie. I largely avoided explicit stoner comedies on this list — no one needs me to tell them to watch Bill & Ted or Friday — but nothing could top this list other than Gregg Araki’s tale of a woman who accidentally eats way too many pot cupcakes. While the premise may seem like something out of a sitcom episode, Araki’s direction and Anna Farris’ lead performance turn Smiley Face into one of the greatest movies of all time. I’d say that’s true whether you’re high or sober, but I’ve never felt the need to watch this one without a little something.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Drew Burnett has written 521 articles for us.

7 Comments

  1. Another good one is 2010’s Unstoppable, aka the Denzel Washington runaway train movie. It’s about Denzel Washington and Chris Pine trying to stop a runaway train.

Comments are closed.

Baopu #123: Time and Space

A nine panel comic is illustrating a poem. The poem reads: "Once in a while I need to refill those two magical things / Time and Space / For telling stories / Finding unexpected things / Running / Searching fo rthe right words / Dancing / Under the Moon / And stars.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Yao Xiao

Yao Xiao is a China-born illustrator based in New York City. Yao Xiao creates artwork depicting a poetic visual world where complex concepts and human emotions are examined, amplified, and given physical form. Her work has helped people all over the globe connect at unique moments, from the celebration of the 20 Year Anniversary of the SXSW Interactive Festival, to the grand release of pop singer Katy Perry's single 'Dark Horse.' She has created deeply emotional and beautiful graphics for editorial print publications, pop music record covers, concert posters and book covers. Yao Xiao's serialized comic Baopu currently runs monthly on Autostraddle. It is an original comic exploring the nuances in searching for identities, connections and friendships through the fictional life of a young, queer emigrant. Baopu stands for 'holding simplicity,' a Taoist ideal of wishing to return to a simpler state. Find her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Etsy or her website.

Yao has written 129 articles for us.

Reine #59: Heartwood

A nine panel comic in colors of blue, yellow and pink show a queer person walking alone at night. The comic is illustrating a poem. The poem reads as follows: "You are transforming yourself/ into something new./ It is awesome. I see you far away now/ you are twisting and gathering starlight / and I watch. / When you arrived, I was writhing in gunpowder, smoke, and radiation. / I fell to the earth for you. /  Now I am this. / I have grown year upon year, adding layers around me. / Would you recognize me? / I hope our edges can touch someday. / When they cut me down, they will see my rings and i know I was there. / When the most beautiful thing in the sky began to take shape."

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Ren Strapp

Ren Strapp is a comic artist, designer, and gender nonconforming lesbian werewolf. Her work is inspired by risograph printing and American traditional tattooing. She loves weight lifting and hiking. Support her work on Patreon.

Ren has written 61 articles for us.

AF+ Crossword Is Extra Tall (So Maybe Solve This One on a Computer)

I'm feeling cannelloni right now....

Join a crew of extraordinary humans who keep Autostraddle here for everyone!  Already a member? Sign In

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Kate Hawkins

Kate Hawkins is a city-loving Californian currently residing in New Hampshire with her wife and toddler, where she's currently enjoying sports that require unwieldy pieces of equipment (kayaking! biking! cross country skiing!) and grilling lots of corn. She's stoked to be writing puzzles for Autostraddle and hopes you enjoy solving these gay puzzles!

Kate has written 45 articles for us.

‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’ Episode 1616: RuPaul Tries to Meet the Moment

The stakes have never felt higher for the RuPaul’s Drag Race season 16 finale. With an increase in anti-trans and anti-drag legislation, a rise in anti-trans violence, and the possibility of a second Trump presidential term, there is an added weight on RuPaul’s now-worldwide phenomenon. For many people, especially heterosexuals, Drag Race is drag. RuPaul must feel the pressure to win more people over and light a fire underneath the allies already here.

Maybe that’s why this year’s finale was a break from tradition. Rather than a top four lip sync smackdown for the crown, Ru and his team opted for a big celebration of drag. At least, a big celebration of drag that fits within a liberal politic.

The episode begins with a number from Ru herself, a reminder that at 63 years old, she’s still a star. She then directly addresses the state of the world, “With everything that’s going on in this crazy ass world, leave it to the queens of RuPaul’s Drag Race to fill our hearts with life, love, and laughter.”

As they pull back to reveal the judging panel of Michelle, Carson, Ts, and Ross, I realized this finale was shot on the same stage as the reunion LaLaPaRuza. Even when the Drag Race finales used to follow this format, they still took place on a bigger stage. A finale hasn’t happened “in house” since season three and my very dark thought is they made this switch to avoid a mass shooting. The official statement is it was due to the strikes, but… I wonder.

Anyway, we are back to the old format of each queen doing a solo number and then the top two queens doing a final lip sync. To begin, all the season 16 queens come out in their elevated looks. Because, like the reunion, this finale was shot last summer, there isn’t the big jumps in appearance we’re used to seeing. It is clear they were at least given some money to go all out though, because they might lack in new plastic surgery, but they still look better than usual. In a big beautiful blue gown, Q reminded me why she was known as a fashion girl and I realize her dwindling looks throughout the season were likely due to a lack of resources.

Our top three then comes out looking very themselves: Nymphia in a banana dress, Sapphira in a regal gown, and Plane looking beautiful but… plain.

Nymphia’s number is first with an ice queen aesthetic and some great dancing. These finale numbers have often felt just a tad over-polished and lacking ever so slightly in personality. But Nymphia is beautiful and does a good job. After the numbers, Ru has each queen talk to their child selves. We then go to Nymphia’s mom who talks about the importance of trusting your child and Nymphia cries.

Next up is Plane singing about body suits. It’s a fun, tongue-in-cheek song that is appropriately lacking in any specificity or vulnerability. But it does have a cool body suit to another body suit reveal — even if I agree with Michelle it would’ve been better had there been more. I’m not trying to be harsh on Plane. I agree with Ru that she just needs time to get in touch with her vulnerability. But this finale was crafted to pull at the heart strings and she simply could not rise to that challenge.

Finally, Sapphira, with probably the best all-around song. It starts with opera, then goes to pop, and just really captures Sapphira. And, of course, she is perfectly suited for Ru’s intentions with this season 16 finale. She says, “If you’re afraid of drag, you’re afraid of freedom.” And when talking to her younger self, expresses the love of her parents as the camera cuts to her mom in the audience smiling with tears down her face. Sapphira is so polished, so good at giving the producers what they need.

One of my two favorite parts of the episode happens next with this year’s Giving Us Lifetime Achievement Award. The recipient this year is Cassandra Peterson aka Elvira Mistress of the Dark and I love when the show does these sorts of “teach some queer history” tribute montages. I also love the acknowledgement of Elvira as a drag persona. This is Ru’s smartest maneuver — bringing a famous cis woman into the conversation around drag to remove it from its connection to gender-nonconformity.

I don’t even say that in a harsh way. I think it’s pointless to chase approval with assimilation, but I can also see the possible value of this approach. And Elvira is an icon worthy of celebration. Plus soon enough she’ll be joined in the episode by another icon worthy of celebration who is trans.

But first Ru announces what becomes very obvious throughout the episode: The final two are Sapphira and Nymphia.

Then there’s a montage of parents — biological parents and drag parents — talking about the importance of supporting queer kids. It’s touching and I understand it’s possible importance, even if I was more inspired by the next montage all about Sasha Colby.

That’s right! Last year’s winner has returned and she’s doing a full number. She performs to Megan Thee Stallion’s “Her” and it is INCREDIBLE. She’s really on another level.

Afterward, she comes back in a gorgeous mermaid gown with gem encrusted titty covers connected to her gem encrusted headpiece. Ru then talks to her about meeting Kamala Harris, something she probably feels more complicated about now as the Biden administration continues to support the genocide of Palestinians.

But Ru doesn’t have time for any pesky complications like mass murder caused by the American empire. She didn’t last summer and I’m sure she still wouldn’t were this to have been filmed last week. She is a proud “just vote” liberal and so, of course, the season’s cast comes out in red, white, and blue for a number all about the importance of making your voice heard. I wonder if any of the queens would’ve refused had this been shot more recently. Not that America’s violence — directly and via support of Israel — wasn’t also occurring in August…

Anyway, with that out of the way, Malaysia Babydoll Foxx comes out to name Miss Congeniality. She says for the first time there was a tie. The first winner is Xunami. The second? Sapphira! I love this! It’s always bothered me that the top queens can’t be eligible for Miss Congeniality. Like sure spread the love but when there’s an obvious winner, there’s an obvious winner.

The final lip sync is announced as “Padam Padam” by Kylie Minogue which caused me to shriek. Song of the summer 2023! It’s still great!

Going into this lip sync, I thought Sapphira had the win locked. But then Nymphia opened her coat on the lyric “shivers and butterflies” and balloons flew out. (This is a reference to Asia O’Hara’s ill-fated butterfly reveal for fans who don’t know.) And it wasn’t just the gimmick! Nymphia dances her ass off. And that’s not to say Sapphira isn’t good! She’s great! In fact, I think removing the semi-final lip sync from the finale allowed them to preserve their energy and make this one of the best ever finale lip syncs.

After some proper reality TV suspense, the winner is finally announced…

IT’S NYMPHIA WIND !!!!!!

I love Sapphira, but in an episode all about polish, there’s something refreshing about the less consistent, emotionally messier queen pulling off the win. Sapphira isn’t Nina West, so I don’t want to frame Nymphia and Sapphira as a clear dichotomy. But, to just focus on Nymphia, I feel excited a queen won who really felt like she was doing something different.

Nymphia will continue to grow, continue to build confidence, continue to be weird. And now she’ll do that with a crown on her head.

Teleport Us to Mars!! Here Are Some Random Thoughts:

+ I interviewed two-time winner Jinkx Monsoon about playing Audrey in Little Shop of Horrors and you should read it.

+ My love, Morphine, looked incredible in her tight silvery entrance look.

+ Amanda looked sooo unamused during Plane’s segment.

+ Performing to “Her” is a fun pronoun joke from Sasha Colby.

+ And that’s the season! Who are you all hoping to see on All Stars??

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Drew Burnett has written 521 articles for us.

240 Weed Edible Cannabis Recipes For 420 Because F*ck It, Let’s Get High

Weed edible recipes: who doesn’t need more of them? Whether you’re looking to cook with cannabis, the best weed brownies in the world, or wondering how to infuse marijuana into lasagna, bloody marys, guacamole or more — this week’s food list is dedicated entirely to the best edible recipes for you to get your cannabis cooking on, because it’s 420.

11:26 PM EST, 4/19 PM. Carmen and Rachel talk via Slack about the 420 food list.

carmenrios: i am v sad it won’t be 420 recipes but
carmenrios: literally this is just it this is the peak
carmenrios: i have seen seven of every weed edible recipe on earth
carmenrios: i have found the ugliest and most beautiful storage places for weed information online
carmenrios: i have been to marijuana world and back
carmenrios: and it makes me want to cook some cannabis tea biscuits
rachel: this is basically a raw personal essay
rachel: is what i’m hearing you say
carmenrios: i am going to put this in the intro to this post
rachel: yes good this is a good plan
carmenrios: just this conversation
carmenrios: so everyone understands the things underscoring this post
carmenrios: the hopes and dreams
carmenrios: the 100×100 images that make up theweedblog.com
rachel: how deep it made you dig inside yourself
rachel: when you run through the 6 this weed post is what’s gonna be weighing on you


The Basics For Cooking With Marijuana

1. Cannabis Butter Recipe

weed-butter

A staple of most edible recipes — cannabutter aka marijuana butter aka budder aka magic butter is butter that has been infused with cannabinoids, which are the chemicals that offer psychoactive effects. The Stoner’s Cookbook has the empirical weed butter recipe.


2. Cannabis Cooking Oil Recipe

oil

Another important ingredient for many of the best edible recipes.


3. Cannabis Flour

flour-640x426

Another cannabis recipe staple.


4. Marijuana Milk

small dish of milk

A lot of weed recipes call for this!

More Weed Recipe Basics:

5. Weed Mayo

6. Cannabis Almond Milk

7. Cannabis-Infused Honey Tincture

8. Coconut Cannabis Oil


Breakfast Weed Recipes

9. Cannabis Infused Red Velvet Pancakes

pancakes on a plate with raspberries on top, the plate is on a pink tablecloth


10. Cannabis Infused Shrimp + Grits

Shrimp and Grits


11. Cannabis-Infused Gingerbread Mini Cakes

recipe-how-to-make-cannabis-infused-gingerbread-mini-cakes


12. Black Pepper Drop Biscuits 


13. Pumpkin Spice Cannacakes

1029_lrg


14. Huevos Tostadas

Tostada

More Cannabis-Infused Breakfast Ideas:

15. Bacon Cheddar Pot Potatoes

16. Wake ‘n Bake Breakfast Sandwiches

17. Cannabis-Infused Brioche French Toast

18. Caramel Toast

19. PB and Jam Breakfast Grits

20. Cannabutter Infused Cinnamon Rolls

21. Quinoa Corn Cannabis Muffins

22. Weed Bacon

23. Hialeah Hash Browns

24. Marijuana Omelette

25. Broccoli Quiche With Keif

26. Spinach Cannabis Quiche

27. Pot Waffles

28. Potent Peanut Butter Protein Bars

29. Marijuana-Infused Raw Vegan Energy Balls


Weed Soups, Salads, and Sandwiches

30. Raspberry-Pear Grilled Cheese Sandwich

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Raspberry-Pear-Grilled-Cheese-Sandwich-Weedist-640x428


31. Butternut Squash Soup With CBD Drizzle

3038111-inline-p-1-in-honor-of-continued-legalization-heres-a-new-cookbook-for-classy-marijuana-recip


32. Cranberry, Walnut Salad With an Apple Cider Cannabis-Vinaigrette

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Cranberry-Walnut-Salad-with-an-Apple-Cider-Cannabis-Vinaigrette-Weedist-640x480


33. Pulled Pork Cannabis Sandwich

pulledport-640x502


34. Spicy Peanut Chicken Wraps

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Spicy-Peanut-Chicken-Wrap-Weedist-640x442


35. Cannabis Veggie Tart

Flaky Vegetable Tart Weed Edible Picture


36. Sesame Mushroom Bourguignon

1041_lrg


37. Kale and Edamame Salad

Healing-Recipes-Glaucoma-Asian-Kale-and-Edamame-Salad-The-Leaf-Online


38. Kale Salad in Brown Cannabutter Vinaigrette

801_lrg


39. Cucumber Dill-Weed Sandwiches

cucum


40. Warm Shrimp Salad Over Avocado


41. Cannabis Loaded Potato Salad

971_lrg


More Marijuana Soups, Salads and Sandwiches:

42. Cannabis Gazpacho

43. Spicy Chipotle Marijuana Burgers

44. Chicken Soup with Canna-Dumplings

45. Pumpkin Potato Soup

46. Fresh Tomato Soup

47. Hummus and Hemp Seeds Pita Pocket

48. Chili Con Cannabis

49. Cannabis Cabbage Salad with Sesame-Lime Dressing

50. Buddernut Squash Salad

51. Medicated Vegan Split Pea Soup

52. Medicated French Onion Soup

53. Canna Caprese Salad

54. Cannabis Chicken Salad

55. Pot-Corn and Tomato Salad

56. Marijuana Lobster Rolls

57. Ham and Cheddar Panini

58. Marijuana Potato Salad


Dips, Spreads, and Dressings

59. Cannabis-Infused Nut Butter

PeP4WRXRzYb4oJgopQ7g_homemade-nut-butter


60. Strawberry Canna-Jam

Cannabis Jam


61. Canna Cream Cheese

bagel with cream cheese atop it


62. Cannabis Ranch Dressing

ranch-dressing-005-640x426


63. Italian Cannabis Dressing

italiandress


64. Cannabis Vinaigrette

salad-1

More Dressings:

65. Chronic Balsamic (Vinaigrette)

66. Vegetarian Caesar Salad Dressing


Cannabis Dips

68. Marijuana Spinach Artichoke Dip


69. Jalapeno Cannabis-Corn Dip

More Cannabis Dips:

70. Cannabis French Onion Dip

71. Cannaqueso Dip

72. Weed Hummus

73. Ganja Guacamole

74. Cannabis Salsa


Snacks With Weed Recipes

75.  “Baked” Apricot Brie


76. Medicated Muddy Buddies

IMG_0241-640x426


77. Hemp Heart Trail Mix


78. Weez-Its


More Weed Snack Recipes:

79. Easy Make Your Own Weed Gummies

80. Canna-Melon

81. Sweet Potato Fries

82. Potcorn

83. Cannabis Caramels

84. Weed Fruit Roll-up


Sides & Appetizers Weed Edible Recipes

85. Cheesy Cannabutter Garlic Bread


86. Green Bean And Weed Casserole With Fried Onion Topping


87. Triple-Baked Cannabis Potatoes


88. Easter Pot Potatoes


89. Pot Potato Latkes

Potatoes pancakes latkes, flapjacks, hash brown or potato vada on brown wooden table.


90. Ricotta Stuffed Mushrooms

1013_lrg

More sides to try:

91. Canna-Crockpot Baked Beans

92. Buddha Biscuits + Country-Style Gravy

93. Sourdough Stuffing With Sausage, Apples, Cranberries, And Pot

94. Jalapeno Pot Poppers

95. Cannabis Kale Chips

96. Deviled Eggs with Cannabis and Horseradish

97. Cannabis Cornbread

98. Laid-Back Latkes

99. Cannabis Cheddar Bay Biscuits

100. High-Bird Stuffing

101. Roasted Asparagus With Cannabis-Dijon-Lemon Sauce

102. Marijuana Bruschetta (Vegan)

103. Pot-Braised Vegetables

104. “Herb” Roasted Potatoes

105. Cannabis Crab Rangoon


Main Weed Entrees – Vegetarian

106. Cannabis-Infused Basil Gnocchi

g11


107. Broccoli Cheddar Casserole

Healing-Recipes-Epilepsy-Broccoli-Cheddar-Casserole-The-Leaf-Online


108. Gnocchi in Ganja Butter

gnocchi-edit

More Vegetarian Main Dishes:

109. Eggplant and Cannabis Parmesan

110. Ganja Sweet Potato Casserole

111. Green Ganja Veggie Lasagna

112. Rasta Shell Pasta

113. Cannabis Infused Macaroni & Cheese

114. Weed-Infused Cacio e Pepe

115. Cannabis Black Bean Burger

116. Special Spanakopita

117. Stuffed Mushrooms with Canna-Oil Pesto

118. Cannabis Pesto Pizza

119. Reefer-licious Red Beans and Rice

120. Parmesan and Garlic Pasta

121. Fresh Tortellini With Pomodoro Sauce And Banging Basil Pesto

122. Cannabis Fried Rice

123. Pot Pizza


Main Dishes With Weed – Seafood

124. Cannabis-Infused Baked Fish en Papillote

125. Hemp Shrimp With Puna Butter & Wedge Fries

More Seafood Dishes:

126. Stir Fried Marijuana Ginger Shrimp and Asparagus

127. Cannabis-Infused Pasta with Clams and Green Chiles

128. Baked Shrimp Scampi

129. Magical Butter Ahi Tuna Delight

130. Medicated Tuna Steaks With Sautéed Spinach


Main Dishes With Weed – Meat

131. Pot Pasta with Asparagus

AsparagusPasta


132. Filet Mignon With Chive Marijuana Butter and Blue Cheese

Recipe for Filet Mignon With Chive Marijuana Butter and Blue Cheese


133. Infused Creamy Lemon Garlic Chicken Piccata

Chicken Picatta -- chicken with capers and lemons


134. Cannabis Meatloaf

Meatloaf


135. Cheeto Fried Chicken

slide_219910_860186_free


136. Stuffed Mini Peppers with Chorizo & Cheese


137. Beef & Bean Cannabis Chimichangas


138. Cannabis Stromboli

stromboli


139. Pot & Pesto Lasagna

1049_lrg


140. Pot Pesto with Budschetta

808_lrg


More Meaty Mains:

141. Grilled Chicken Ganja Thighs

142. Skirt Steak with Chimichurri Sauce

143. Chicken & Weed Dumplings

144. Cannabis-Infused Turkey

145. THC Infused Buffalo Chicken Wings

146. Chicken Pot-cciatore

147. Cannabis Quesadillas

148. Chicken (and) Pot Pie

149. Mike’s High THC Birria Tacos

150. Savory Thai Red Curry with Chicken and Veggies

151. Cannabis Tacos

152. Farmers Pie With Guinness Gravy

153. Classic Cannabis Lasagna

154. Chicken with Pot Butter


Sauces and Gravies

155. Super Lemon Haze Hollandaise

hollandaise


156. Cannabis Tartar Sauce

tartar

More Cannabis Sauces:

157. Sweet & Tangy Bar-B-Cannabis Sauce

158. Cannabis Tzatziki

159. Cannabis Sriracha

160. Cannabis Caramel Sauce

161. Cannabis Gravy

162. Weed Marinara Sauce

163. Pot Pesto


Marijuana Drinks

164. Kale and Pineapple Smoothie

Pineapple,Green,Smoothie,With,Spinach,,Horizontal,Wallpaper


165. Green Dragon

bong-appetit-cocktails-4


More Drink Recipes:

166. Coconanaberry Smoothie

167. Jamaican Me Crazy

168. Pumpkin Cheesecake Smoothie

169. Gold Snowboarder Smoothie: Chocolate, banana, peanut butter and blueberries!

170. Mary Jane’s Tea

171. Pot Chocolate

172. CannaCoffee Milkshake

173. Bulletproof Cannabis Coffee

174. Thai Iced Tea

175. Carrot, Ginger, Beet Juice

176. Bloody Mary-juana

177. Homemade Spiced Apple Cider

178. Blueberry Smoothie

179. Blasted Cow

180. Cannabis-Laced Classic Martini

181. Cardamom-Rose Bhang

182. Marijuana Avocado Shake


Dessert Edible Recipes

Cannabis Cookie Recipes:

183. Gluten Free Medicated Holiday Cookies


184. Chef C’s Coma Cookies

Chef_Cs_Coma_Cookies-700x352


185. Cannabis Carrot Cake Cookie Sandwiches

Carrot Cake Cookies

Honestly can you imagine anything better than a carrot cake cookie with icing filling and also weed? I cannot.


186. CBD Caramel-Stuffed Chocolate Cookies With Sea Salt

More cannabis cookie recipes:

187. Pecan Sandies

188. Cannabis Infused Double Chocolate Cookies

189. No-Bake Rocky Road Cannabis Cookies

190. Compost Oatmeal Raisin Cookies

191. Cannabis-Infused Chocolate Pretzel Cookies


The Best Cannabis Brownies, Cakes, Pies, Sweet Breads and More:

192. Andes Mint Brownies


193. Cannabis Sticky Buns

sticky buns


194. Purple Kush Cake


195. Popcorn Bars

PopcornBars


196. Canna Banana Bread

Banana Bread


197. Chocolate Marijuana Truffles

Chocolate Truffles


198. Pineapple Express Upside-Down Cake

22_041312cake


199. CannaChocolate Biscotti

1061_lrg


200. Strawberry Rhubarb Pie

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Strawberry-Rhubarb-Pie-Weedist-640x426


201. Almond Lemon Bars

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Almond-Lemon-Bars-Weedist-640x425


202. Cannabis Raisin Bread

Raisin Bread


203. Coffee Cake


204. Mini Pecan Pot Tarts

potrec11


205. Ganja Tropical Coconut Pudding


206. Cheesecake Swirl Edible Brownies Recipe

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Cheese-Cake-Swirl-Brownies-Weedist-640x480


207. Lemongrass Ginger Wasabi Cake With Grandma’s Blueberry Compote

MagicButter_Cake


208. Mint Chocolate Cannabis Ice Cream

mintchocolate


209. Cannabis-Infused Citrus Caramel Blondies

A stack of Blondies next to a tray of edible blondies


210. Red-Hot White Fudge

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Red-Hot-White-Fudge-Weedist1-640x426


211. Pumpkin “Pecannabis” Pie

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Pumpkin-Pecannabis-Pie-Weedist1-640x426


212. Raspberry Peach Cannabis-Cobbler

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Raspberry-Peach-Cobbler-Weedist-640x408


213. Pumpkin Gingerbread

Great-Edibles-Recipes-Pumpkin-Gingerbread-Weedist-640x426


More Cannabis Dessert Recipes:

214. Key Lime Pie

215. One Bowl Double-Almond Cake

216. Rock Road Canna Bites

217. Cannabis Doughnuts

218. Cheech and Chong’s Chocolate Cake

219. Blueberry Cannabis Pie

220. No-Bake Peanut Budder Cups

221. Peppermint Buddha Bark

222. Hazelnut Bundt Cake with Nutella Whipped Cream

223. Fudge Freak-Out

224. Rainbow Weed Cake

225. Cannabis-Infused Olive Oil Citrus Cake

226. Cannabis Baklava

227. Cannabis Pumpkin Muffins With Chocolate Chips

228. Weed Monkey Bread

229. Cookies & Cream Shake

230. Cannabis Peanut Butter Fudge

231. Haschich Fudge

232. Firecrackers

233. Pumpkin Bread

234. Cannabis Christmas Fruitcake

235. Cannabis Hard Candy and Lollipops

236. Butterscotch Cannabis Blondies

237. Cannabis Apple Spice Cake

238. Cannabis-Infused Citrus-Caramel Blondies

239. Easy Cannabis Cupcakes

240. Easy Cannabis Rice Krispie Treats


This post was originally written by Carmen Rios in 2015, and updated with fresh links for 2024.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Carmen

Carmen spent six years at Autostraddle, ultimately serving as Straddleverse Director, Feminism Editor and Social Media Co-Director. She is now the Consulting Digital Editor at Ms. and writes regularly for DAME, the Women’s Media Center, the National Women’s History Museum and other prominent feminist platforms; her work has also been published in print and online by outlets like BuzzFeed, Bitch, Bust, CityLab, ElixHER, Feministing, Feminist Formations, GirlBoss, GrokNation, MEL, Mic and SIGNS, and she is a co-founder of Argot Magazine. You can find Carmen on Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr or in the drive-thru line at the nearest In-N-Out.

Carmen has written 919 articles for us.

Riese

Riese is the 41-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

Riese has written 3182 articles for us.

41 Comments

      • bringing this article to life was indeed my pleasure. also, weed bacon. it’s real. also, is it ok that when i hear “weez-it” i think lil wayne or that pokemon, weezing.

        • I def thought lil wayne and immediately put on Tha Carter III and danced in front of the mirror in my frog boxers and dollar-store sunglasses. My dog was very confused.

  1. Carmen your expertise and dedication to disseminating edibles knowledge bring tears to my eyes

    • it’s almost enough to consume one per day so 4/20 never ends, but alas, leftovers it is

  2. Agh! Lost my weed dealer in my breakup with my ex-ladyfriend and I am upset about it, particularly on this day of all days, when I just want to make some gosh-darn coconut-cayenne weed truffles and watch Orphan Black.

      • Right? Right? And I can’t for the life of me find a replacement! How difficult can it be to find a weed dealer in a liberal college town? Apparently very.

      • Um hello yes. It’s a little approximate b/c you’ll kind of need to go by feel/taste (that’s, uh, what she said??)

        12 oz dark chocolate
        1/3 cup heavy cream
        1/2 cup weed-infused coconut oil
        1 tsp cayenne pepper
        1/4 tsp flaky sea salt
        1 tsp cinnamon
        1 vanilla bean (or some vanilla extract)
        1/4 cup toasted shredded coconut

        Chop up the chocolate and put it in a heat-proof bowl with 1/2 tsp of the cayenne, 1/2 tsp of the cinnamon, and the vanilla. Heat the cream and weed oil over the stove until just before it starts to boil, then pour the mixture over the chocolate and stir till it’s all combined (it takes awhile because of the oil, but persevere! if the mixture cools off too much, you can zap it for 15-second intervals in the microwave). Once it’s combined, chill it in the fridge for about an hour, till it’s solid. In the meantime, combine the toasted coconut with the rest of the cayenne and cinnamon and the sea salt. Scoop out the chocolate mixture with a spoon and form each spoonful into a ball by rolling it between your hands (then roll in the spicy coconut mixture). Place the finished truffles on a cold plate/baking sheet/something, chill in the fridge for a bit, eat, get baked.

        Perfect for freezing midwestern winters but probably pretty excellent everywhere. :)

  3. Sooo… I read that title and was psyched to think of finding ways I might actually enjoy garden weeds such as dandelion greens (wild ones) and chickweed, which are both popping up now that the snow has melted.

  4. This post is insane! So many recipes! I’ve never experienced edibles in any form other than sweet (cookies, brownies, peanut butter cups) but this post is pretty inspiring! I’m sending it to my mom, queen of the medicated cookie.

    • savory edibles just seem like so many dreams all wrapped up into one dream that you put in your mouth

  5. Really, no gay brownies on this list?

    Also, no green dragon martini(well really any alcohol 100 proof or higher)? Medicinal burritos, something you know most people I this day would want.

    • hi there is green dragon AND a martini on this list! and no burrito but three tacos. so.

      all the brownies on this list are gay. you heard it here first.

      • Not the same green dragon I am familar with. As most recpies I have seen suggest alcohol in the 100 proof plus range(really 150+ range) as thc, cbd in cannabis binds better with higher content booze. Most people I asked online said everclear works best if you can get it, and to avoid stuff like 151 rum and absinthe as they don’t bind as well. I’ve made it a few times with everclear and can certainly say it works really well. To well in fact if you drink 100ml bottle. Not talking about the drunk portion either.

  6. Carmen, would it make you less sad if I told you I had a dyslexia moment and read the title as 420 instead of 240?
    Cause I did.

    • that would make my day so hard. in fact, it would retroactively make yesterday the best 4/20 ever.

    • i want to make up names for weed items that involve a variant word to describe weed for the rest of my life, is that possible

  7. Great recipe list, the links to one site for some recipes wasn’t working but the rest were great :D

  8. Never. Ever. Put decarbed, ground weed on bacon. Put it in some coconut oil/butter. And enjoy much more of a high

  9. Emre Teknoloji, Mağusa’da ve Kıbrıs genelinde çeşitli telefon modelleri sunarak müşterilere geniş bir seçenek yelpazesi sunar. Thanks, good job.

  10. Last World Travel, unutulmaz bir Kapadokya deneyimi sunan önde gelen seyahat ve tur şirketlerinden biridir. Good job.

Comments are closed.

Jinkx Monsoon Is Filled With Rage — and a Lot of Hope

It’s been nearly two years since Jinkx Monsoon began her incredible run on the RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars all winners season. And, since we last spoke, Jinkx has been making the most of her title as Queen of All Queens. In addition to a sketch show, a podcast, a comedy special, new music, and her very own perfume line, Jinkx was cast on the latest iteration of Doctor Who, made her Broadway debut last year in Chicago, and has now taken over the role of Audrey in an acclaimed off-Broadway production of Little Shop of Horrors.

It’s this last achievement that feels most noteworthy. It’s rare to see a transfeminine performer cast as a romantic lead and even rarer when that performer is known for drag. But watching Jinkx as Audrey doesn’t feel radical — it just makes sense. Jinkx and Audrey are a perfect pairing of actor and role.

I talked to Jinkx about Little Shop, learning to trust her instincts, and finding the balance between optimism and white hot rage.


Drew: I heard you had a really fun night last night at MCC’s Miscast Gala.

Jinkx: I did. But I’ll be completely candid because I always am. I don’t experience stage fright or nerves pre-show these days. Pretty much since Chicago. Making my Broadway debut was the most nerve-inducing, stage fright-inducing thing I’ve experienced in my adult life. And after that everything else has felt easy.

But last night was one of those events where everyone told me I was going to have so much fun and there were going to be a lot of really cool people there and I was like, yeah yeah yeah. My brain was just so busy with Little Shop that I wasn’t really thinking about this event. And then it’s happening and I’m in this room with like everyone from Broadway, right? Cabaret is one of my favorite shows. Bebe Neuwirth is one of my favorite people and she’s playing my favorite role in that show. And I’m sitting next to the director of Cabaret and the costume designer, my friend Tom, and it’s hitting me that like everyone from the New York theatre scene is in this room right now.

Then I’m in the green room and I’m looking around at all the other performers thinking, oh my God, why— how— why— how am I here? My number was toward the end so I’d watched one powerhouse performance after another thinking, what the fuck am I doing here? Then I started my segment — honestly I was shaking — and I cracked a joke and once I heard the audience laugh, I was like, ohhhh I know what I’m doing.

I realized in that moment comedy isn’t just what comes natural to me — it’s what I prefer. I love being an effective performer and I do have some sad scenes in Little Shop. I want to be earnest and genuine when it’s necessary. But I believe in comedy. I believe in the time I’ve spent learning how to do comedy as a craft. And last night solidified something for me. The laughter is part of what I need to feel like I’m right where I need to be. (laughs)

Drew: And it puts the audience at ease! A good joke makes them feel like the performer is in control.

Jinkx: Yeah. I’ve just been thinking about this. Sorry to completely hijack the top of the interview.

Drew: No, I love it.

Jinkx: Candidly, again, I was approached with a project that’s very dramatic. I’m considering it but this is making me pontificate on why comedy is so important to me. I don’t know. Just being able to lighten the mood. All these amazing, emotional performances were happening and our emotions and energy were bubbling. Then I got to tell some jokes before my very comedic performance and it felt like I brought a special flavor to the stew. (laughs)

Drew: What did you sing?

Jinkx: I sang “One Day More” from Les Misérables. All of the principal roles.

Drew: Incredible.

Jinkx: So I flipped back and forth from my lowest register to my mid register to my falsetto back down to my low back to my falsetto. And in place of waving the French flag at the end I waved the progressive pride flag and the audience went freaking nuts which is all I could hope for.

Drew: Well, in a sense, it was like you auditioned for the entire New York theatre world.

Jinkx: Listen, honey, I tried to put that out of my mind before the performance but that was a big part of why I was so nervous. And I’ve got to tell you, as a performer, when you nail a performance that is giving you anxiety, it’s better than ten orgasms.

Drew: (laughs)

Jinkx: It’s like an orgasm that doesn’t go away. (laughs)

Jinkx Monsoon in Little Shop of Horrors as Audrey in a tight black dress looks over her shoulder in Mushnik's flower shop.

Jinkx Monsoon in Little Shop of Horrors, photo by Evan Zimmerman

Drew: Let’s actually keep talking about comedy and drama because Little Shop is one of my favorite musicals ever, but I do think it’s a tricky one. It’s a real balance of tones. Did it come naturally when to lean into camp and when to ground a moment? Or was finding that balance part of the preparation?

Jinkx: That’s the lovely thing about working with a production versus working on my own, right? I create a lot of my own work and I have to just trust my instincts. But, when I work with BenDeLaCreme, she’s often directing, and I love working with a director because when you have an idea it’s great to be able to challenge it, and make sure it’s the best idea.

With Little Shop, first of all there’s Michael Mayer who is the director of the production and set the tone for the piece, and then Austin Regan, the associate director, directed me in my rehearsals. He really challenged me on some of my joke placements. We talked about when to be sincere, when to lean into the joke, and also when I could do both — when I could get a laugh and then flip it. And I love that because being funny comes naturally to me, but I love to be funny with a purpose. I think everything is better with a purpose.

My theatre mentor Kiera McDonald, who was my favorite teacher in college, she and I wrote a show together and she said, “The recipe for a good show is for every fifty minutes of comedy, ten minutes of tragedy.” And I use that rule in my work pretty much across the board. It’s served me well. I don’t think I’m unable to perform the pathos and the sincerity, but I find I’m most effective playing those moments after I’ve really buttered you up with some comedy. (laughs)

Drew: (laughs) Yeah. I was going to ask when you step into a role like this or Chicago and the production has been ongoing, how much are you able to bring that’s you versus how much is already set?

Jinkx: We talked a lot about that with this production. With Chicago, Mama Morton kind of stands alone. She has her scenes with Velma and that’s pretty much it. I have one scene with Roxie and I kind of interact with Billy Flynn. But I feel like she exists in her own little compartment of the show. Audrey is so infused that I really had to be specific about marrying what I wanted to bring to the character, what was already established in this production, and then drawing on what people want to see. I have learned in my work that you have to acknowledge what the audience wants even if you’re only going to give it to them a little bit. I’m a drag queen playing Audrey, so I got to look fabulous, I got to be charming, I got to be a little funny.

But I love that we don’t do any drag references. We never make any kind of comment about the character being a drag queen. We haven’t changed the show at all. I’m just playing Audrey. But I’m playing Audrey like only someone with my life experiences could.

Drew: A lot of trans people — myself included — have long read Audrey as trans. To the point where there was an announcement that Scarlet Johansson was going to be in a new movie adaptation and I was like, ugh this bitch is always taking trans roles.

Jinkx: (laughs)

Drew: And then I was like oh wait no that’s actually not canon.

Jinkx: See I didn’t know that! I’ve just always said there are cis women in entertainment who have been doing drag. Ellen Greene’s performance of Audrey is a drag character. She’s in a wig, she’s in full costume and makeup, she’s created a full persona. That to me is drag and so I’ve always seen Audrey as a drag persona whether a cis woman is playing her or not. It’s a big part of her character and informed my performance. Her femininity is a coat of armor, it’s how she’s survived in her scary life. She’s kind of regressed to a Barbie doll as a way of protecting herself in this harsh environment. I describe her as a lily growing in a trash heap. (laughs)

Drew: I know you’ve talked about wanting to see more non-traditional casting and I think this is an interesting example. People sometimes interpret that to mean anyone can play any role and we shouldn’t think about their identities. And, sure, sometimes that’s cool. But what I think is even better is a situation like Audrey where everything you’re saying is so true and this has been fundamental to this character and so it makes so much sense for you to play this role. Non-traditional doesn’t have to mean random — ideally it fits really well. Charity from Sweet Charity is another one where I want to see a trans woman in that role so badly.

Jinkx: It would make so much sense! And here’s the thing: Casual to extreme racism in theatre has been explained away or justified by “well historical context, this show is set in this time period so it wouldn’t make sense” but that’s often not true. We have all these examples in history of people of color being prominent people in society. We just haven’t had as much media around it. And we have all these examples of trans people existing in our culture at large throughout time, right? Lately, more people have been learning about the trans clinics in the 1930s in Germany and I’ve been talking about that to anyone who will listen for years. Trans people aren’t new.

I’ve been saying in interviews, I’m not intending to play Audrey as a trans woman — I’m just trying to play Audrey. However, if you see my Audrey as a trans woman in this scenario that’s totally plausible!

Drew: Yeah!

Jinkx: And a trans woman in the 1960s would likely be living on skid row where she’s an outcast of society. So I use my life experiences and that knowledge to inform this character, but at the end of the day I’m not thinking about Audrey’s genitals. I’m thinking about who the character is and how she fits into this story. That’s what I’m playing. I’m bringing my life experiences but I’m playing Audrey the character.

Jinkx Monsoon as Audrey rests her head in her hand next to Corbin Bleu as Seymour.

Jinkx Monsoon and Corbin Bleu in Little Shop of Horrors, photo by Evan Zimmerman

Drew: Is Audrey a character that you’ve been drawn to in the past? What’s your history with Little Shop?

Jinkx: Oh yeah. I saw Beaches as such a young child, but that’s not a musical, so I’d say the Little Shop movie was probably the first musical I saw. It was one movie that everyone in my family liked. My mom hates musicals, a lot of my family hates musicals, but they all liked Little Shop. So I’ve known all the music for so long and then as a teenager when I became more invested in theatre and wanting to be an actor, I started learning about the stage show. I learned how different it was from the film and the history of it and that Ellen Greene has owned this character from its inception.

That’s another thing, like I was saying, you have to give a nod to that. For me, when a character like Audrey has been so officially stamped, you have to acknowledge it in some way. That doesn’t mean recreating her performance, but creating a performance that stands up to hers. Audrey doesn’t have to have the Ellen Greene voice, but she has to have a distinct voice, you know what I mean? I love that when I asked what dialect I should have, Austin just said I had to sound like I’m from New York. You do you, but she has to sound like she’s from New York. Tammy Blanchard was from Jersey so she did a Jersey accent and that was really fun. For me, I found Audrey’s voice through rehearsal and by the time we were performing the show for audiences I had my little way of getting into her voice. I’d go, “My father was the Cowardly Lion and my mother was Betty Boop.” (laughs)

Drew: (laughs) Incredible. You had a longer rehearsal process for this than Chicago right?

Jinkx: Yeah thank Goddesses. I had eight days total for Chicago.

Drew: (laughs) That’s so crazy.

Jinkx: Nine days were scheduled, but I got food poisoning for one of them.

Drew: Oh my God!

Jinkx: It was nuts. And I felt really underprepared. It went great so I knew it could be done, but luckily I had about a month of rehearsal for Little Shop. I have to say though, James Carpinello — who is playing Oren the dentist and a myriad of other roles included when you play the dentist — he had the same amount of rehearsal time. I had to learn one role while he had to learn like five and all these different songs and he is just fantastic in his roles. He’s really, really entertaining and is a dream to work with. I just want to give props there, because yes I learned Audrey in a month and I could’ve taken two months. I always say the time you give me is the time I’ll take.

Drew: Of course. Always.

Jinkx: But James did all that and more in the same amount of time. And then Corbin came in for the final week of our month of rehearsal because he had already played the role. So here I was working with understudies for a couple weeks developing my Audrey wondering how it was going to fit with Corbin Bleu’s Seymour and on day one we clicked so well together. I cannot sing Corbin’s praises highly enough. He has been an absolute dream to work with on-stage, off-stage, he’s a lovely, passionate, wonderful human being. I’m head over heels for Corbin as a colleague. And I had dinner with him and his wife and it turns out we’re all video game and anime nerds. (laughs)

Drew: (laughs) And that’s how you bond with your cast.

Jinkx: Yeah yeah.

Corbin Bleu and Jinkx Monsoon in Little Shop of Horrors, photo by Evan Zimmerman

Drew: Okay so I know this is personal and probably a little bit corny.

Jinkx: Oh hit me.

Drew: I did just want to congratulate you on starting your medical transition.

Jinkx: Thank you.

Drew: I guess what I’m wondering is if it’s weird doing that while more famous than you’ve ever been. Or maybe it feels connected? Like you had to reach this place to step into yourself in that way?

Jinkx: It’s not as simple of an answer as that. I’m kind of just accepting that everything is happening at a wonderful time for it to be happening. I was very anxious about all of this happening at the same time. There’s a lot of things changing in my life and in flux and in metamorphosis right now personally and with my career. But it’s all working out in a way that makes sense and I’m in a really content place.

Drew: That’s great.

Jinkx: I guess I have to say re: transitioning publicly, I’ve lived my life very open. I’ve been openly, visibly me for a long time. Part of the reason I didn’t really have a coming out for my medical transition is because I’ve been me for so long. This just feels like another step in the same direction.

Drew: Totally.

Jinkx: I didn’t want to be like, “Hey everyone guess what!” and have them be like, “We know bitch.” (laughs)

Drew: (laughs) Yeah for sure.

Jinkx: I’ve been saying this a lot but it’s a really special thing to go on stage every night after taking my estrogen and sing “learn how to be more the girl that’s inside me.” It’s this wonderful moment of coalescence and serendipity and timing. I never imagined I’d be transitioning while playing Audrey in Little Shop, I never imagined— I didn’t even know any of that was possible for me. Now it’s all happening at the same time. And instead of feeling overwhelming, it feels really affirming and wonderful, because I’m just as much an actor as I am a transfeminine person. Actor feels like part of my gender identity. (laughs)

Drew: (laughs) Yeah I hear that. Yes.

I was lucky enough to interview and write a profile of Peaches Christ recently.

Jinkx: My mom!

Drew: Yes! And we talked a lot about fame and gay fame and obviously you won Drag Race in 2013 so you’ve been famous for awhile but it does feel different now. I mean, you were on Broadway. Your fame has increased. And I’m wondering if you love that or if you more see it as a means to an end? Like fame helps you get to be Audrey in Little Shop.

Jinkx: The latter. Here’s what I’ll say about fame. When I had my first taste, I got addicted to the fame of it all and that threw me off of my original path. Cutting out alcohol helped me remember my original path and creating The Jinkx and DeLa Holiday Special helped me remember my original path. Now I feel like I’m back to who I was pre-season five. It took a decade of life experience to kind of get back to exactly who I was before this all started.

The way I was describing it to my therapist is I feel like I’m who I was in college again. I’m realizing why I wanted to do this before fame seemed possible. I started drag and I started being an actor fully aware that being famous at either of those things was a long shot. And now I’ve got the fame and I’m so glad I learned my life lessons before All Stars, and before this opened up for me. Because now I’m really addicted to the work. And yes, fame helps more work come my way and the work that I’ve always wanted to do has started coming my way and I want to keep doing it.

One other thing I will say about the fame is I love being an advocate for my community. My community is why I am where I am today. The queer community is why I am any of this. I grew up with a strong queer community in Portland and I feel at service to my community. And if my fame helps me be effective at that service then cool.

Without alcohol I am ten times more introverted than I used to be. So going out and being at social functions requires more of me than it used to but again I fucking love my life so everything is alright. (laughs)

Drew: I think even watching you in Little Shop, you’re so Audrey, but also so Jinkx. You still have your magic idiosyncrasies and it’s cool to see you hold onto that as your star rises.

Jinkx: I went into All Stars determined to do everything the way I knew I was going to do it best. I didn’t want to worry about how anyone else would have done it, I just wanted to do everything the way I do things. And then people really resonated with that. Something I lost sight of after season five — and this is what I mean about becoming addicted to the fame — I became so worried about what was popular. I became so worried about what “the kids” as me and Michelle Visage refer to everyone— (laughs)

Drew: (laughs)

Jinkx: I was so worried about what people wanted that I started shifting myself. After All Stars I realized if I do me genuinely and authentically and people respond to that then that’s what I need to keep doing. So I’ve really learned to trust my instincts and not do things because this it’s the popular thing but do things because it’s what I believe in and how I feel.

Jinkx Monsoon as Audrey in Little Shop leans against a wall in a tight black dress.

Jinkx Monsoon in Little Shop of Horrors, photo by Evan Zimmerman

Drew: The last time we talked you mentioned that originating a role on Broadway is a dream of yours.

Jinkx: Yeah.

Drew: At this point, that feels extremely possible in the near future, and what’s cool is I feel like when that moment happens, whatever show that is, whatever part that is, it’s going to be so you and so exciting and queer.

I know there are whispers of Cole Escola’s Oh, Mary! going to Broadway and it’s like, right! When artists are just themselves and doing something that’s so specific even Broadway — still recovering from Covid where everyone is being quite conservative — if you just really follow your artistic voice some truly great work can slip through. I guess I can be quite optimistic.

Jinkx: I am right there with you. And you mentioning Oh, Mary! is such a perfect example of that. Listen, I’ve followed Cole’s career from the beginning. Like the beginning. I have been such a long time fan of Cole Escola and I have watched their star rise and I’ve had the fortune of being their friend. I mean, barely. We’ve been ships in the night so many times and we’ve had each other’s phone numbers for so many years and just haven’t had enough reasons to talk. Then I went and saw them in Oh, Mary! and of all the wonderful things they’ve done in their career I was just so profoundly proud of this person I know so well but also don’t know that well. I just love them so much and I see them doing everything we’re talking about.

It inspires me and it gives me hope that this is what people are responding to! People being authentic and genuine and themselves. Not just in terms of queerness, across a lot of different experiences, but of course I’m invested in the queer aspect of things and I do have a lot of hope. I get very, very frustrated with our world and I get very down at times, of course, and the world is so messed up in so many ways. But I see so many glimmers of hope that I actually feel quite optimistic even though I’m also terrified and filled with white hot rage at all times.

Drew: I think that’s the perfect combination. Because of course there is so much grief and anger to feel looking at our world, witnessing genocide.

Jinkx: Yes.

But then I see young people and I see our community really working toward a better future. I see a possibility of a better future and I believe in that. I’m not letting go of that. We can’t let go of that.


Jinkx Monsoon can be seen in Little Shop of Horrors through the end of May.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Drew Burnett has written 521 articles for us.

‘Under the Bridge,’ a True Crime Drama With Queer Leads, Wants More for Its Girls and the Genre

Girls were in trouble, in the 90s. There is plenty of literature documenting the concerns of the era — Reviving Ophelia, Queen Bees and Wannabees, Schoolgirls: Young Women, Self Esteem and the Confidence Gapand I read them all. The girls were screaming at their parents on daytime talk shows, starving themselves and cutting themselves and piercing their noses and slouching their jeans and shoplifting and bullying and having sex and all of this was an effort to impress boys and to impress each other and to destroy their parents and maybe all of society. Girls were falling behind in school, girls were bullies, girls were superficial, girls hated themselves. In Under the Bridge, a limited series that debuted this week on Hulu, these girls of the ’90s do all of those things but in this story not all of them grow up or grow out of it, not all of them have the chance to grow up and watch girls of future decades find their own brand of trouble, because the trouble they get into will leave one of them dead.

Based on Rebecca Godfrey’s non-fiction book by the same name, Under the Bridge tells the story of Reena Virk, a Canadian-Indian 14-year-old brutally beaten and killed by a group of teenagers she thought were her friends in 1997 Saanich, British Columbia. (Godfrey spent several years adapting the novel into a series with producer Quinn Shepherd, but passed away in 2022.) At the time, this story was sensationalized as emblematic of larger, sinister forces, of some kind of referendum on how deeply the girls of the 90s were in trouble, and who was at fault — the media, hip-hop, divorce rates. Godfrey’s book, and the series, avoid the urge to slot this event into an easy narrative template, and in turn, create something incredibly rare: a true crime drama less concerned with scandal or mystery than it is with empathy and curiosity. Instead, it tells a haunting story about cruelty and desire and the aching compromises and mistakes we make trying to fit in to a place that won’t make space for us. Executive Producer credits are shared by Samir Mehta (Tell Me Lies) and Liz Tigelaar (Little Fires Everywhere), and like Little Fires Everywhere, Under the Bridge is also explicitly queer in a way that its source material was not.

Godfrey, who is only present in her own book as much as it is necessary, becomes a full, somewhat different character in the series, played by Riley Keough. This Rebecca Godfrey is a young queer writer living in New York City who returns to her lakeside family home to work on a book about “the misunderstood girls of Victoria.” She’s not been home much since leaving the island, where the memory of her brother’s death by drowning and her own unspecified adolescent demons still lurk. She begins her research at Seven Oaks Home for Girls, where she first meets Josephine Bell (Chloe Guidry), a mean teenager enamored by her own cruel prettiness who idolizes John Gotti. On the day that Rebecca meets Josephine and her friend Dusty (queer actor Aiyana Goodfellow), Reena Virk (Vritika Gupta) has been missing for two days.

Reena’s father, Manjit (Ezra Faroque Khan) and her uncle, Raj (Anoop Desai) report Reena’s disappearance to the police, but are dismissed by weary, bored cops who remind Manjit and Raj that teenagers run away all the time and tend to turn up. These cops are the contemptable Scott (Daniel Diemer) and his uneasy sister, Cam Betland (Lily Gladstone), a soft butch who’s entire life seems like one big compromise. When Manjit speaks to Raj in Punjabi and Cam asks them to speak English, Raj points at Scott — “I get it from him,” he then turns to Cam, “but I wouldn’t expect it from you.” Perhaps it is this that inspires her to follow them out, ask more questions, attach herself to the case, and thus slot her character into the Token Good Cop trope.

When Rebecca and Cam end up in the same room for the first time seemingly since Rebecca left the island, it’s immediately clear that the two share an unspecified but fraught and romantic past. Cam, who is Indigenous, spent time as a teenager in Seven Oaks, and was adopted by a white family. Her father, Roy (Matt Craven), is the chief of police, and her career choice seems like her own bid for acceptance, to cross the chasm from “invited guest” into someone who truly belongs, from being a problem to solving them. But now that she’s at the desk, she has to contend with an institution that has never been correct about who and what constitutes a problem. Roy seems to like her in this spot, desperate for his approval.

“So you’re a cop now,” Rebecca says when Cam agrees to come over, leaning against the wall of her room with a glass of red wine. “That’s kind of… terrible.”

Cam snorts. “Yeah, I’ll let my entire family know you said so.”

Seemingly Cam is certain her best way out of Victoria is an invitation to the Vancouver Major Crimes department, for which Roy refuses to write her recommendation. While unarticulated, it feels obvious enough that her desire to flee for Vancouver is in part because, as a queer Indigenous person, she feels as alone on the island as Reena Virk does. Gladstone told Rotten Tomatoes that she’d read a lot of character breakdowns of Indigenous cops with skepticism, but chose to take this one on, seeing it as “an opportunity to indict law enforcement and to indict that power dynamic” of what happens when “a woman who largely is denied having power [is put] in such a role.”

“The island is safe, clean,” Cam’s father tells her. “Why would anybody want to leave?”

Of course it is safe for him. But for others in the story, “safety” is more elusive, and so is power.

The Virks want to keep Reena safe, but Reena’s got intense tunnel vision, desperate for popularity and acceptance. At school, she’s bullied for her weight and her race and the religious traditions that prevent her parents from offering her the stuff of conformity (like shaving her legs) she longs for. Once Reena is under Josephine’s spell, the Virks don’t stand a chance. Josephine wants her own girl gang, wants to be perceived as tough and violent, talks about Biggie Smalls’ murder like they were personal friends, has a Svengali-like power over her pals and in some scenes moves through rooms and challenges adults like some thin-eyebrowed lip-penciled teenage hellmouth version of Scar from The Lion King. 

Josephine’s parents are absent and she lives at Seven Oaks, as does Dusty, a shy Black teenager who hides herself behind Josephine and also in oversized jackets and enormous pants. Queer actor Aiyana Goodfellow’s performance as Dusty is heartbreaking, her panic and despair as palpable as the easy ways her life could’ve gone differently. Her onscreen presence is arresting. Josephine’s best friend, Kelly Ellard, has a wealthy family who ostensibly care about her, but Kelly, portrayed as a blank-faced sociopath, wants what Reena does — a grittier, edgier life — although for entirely different reasons.

While the Virks attempt to remind Reena that she, in fact, is privileged to have a home and parents who love her, it’s hopeless. Raj is fun and understanding and a secret ally to Reena. Her father Manjit is so kind and well-meaning and careful and patient that it is physically painful to witness him experiencing any pain of his own. (The real Manjit, who consented to the production of this series, wrote a book about his life and Reena’s death, which was also used as a source material for this script.) Archie Panjabi plays Suman Virk, Reena’s mother, raised by a family who moved to Victoria from India and were immediately won over by the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Suman’s faith in God is stronger than her desire to fit in perfectly anywhere, but Reena would do anything to belong. It is a classic intergenerational clash, as mundane in retrospect as it feels, to Reena, insurmountable in the present.

Under the Bridge nails it all, all the catastrophe and absurdity of growing up in that era— the etherial music, the adults wearing baby-doll tees, the white kids aping hip hop style and calling themselves “Crips” with zero understanding of or experience with the context that birthed the actual Crips. It all feels so familiar. How wrongly the peers without loving families and homes were envied because they had minimal supervision and the freedom to stay out late, host parties, smoke pot. How where you were from mattered less than where you wanted to go, where you were truly from in your heart, where you were meant to be. Every torn-up person in this story wants to be somewhere else.

The timing and process of the actual investigation surrounding Virk’s disappearance is fictionalized in part to make room for Cam’s character and Rebecca being present in Victoria at the time of the murder, rather than returning specifically to write about it. In the series, Rebecca is investigating in her own wiley way, in ways that are often objectively inappropriate, and the way she pulls the truth out of easily enchanted children is sadly less effective with Cam, who’s emotional walls are made of more solid stuff.

Whatever happened between Cam and Rebecca in the past, their chemistry and the acres of hurt and want between them is visceral whenever they share the screen. While I’m trying to avoid spoilers past the first two episodes here, I can assure you that if you are gay and you think you are picking up on something, you are correct, it’s there. In her white t-shirt and a ponytail, drinking a beer, sad and weary and tentatively open to Rebecca’s inquisition, Cam is so intense and hot. Rebecca’s emotional turmoil is easily deciphered, but Cam’s layers are less apparent, and Gladstone’s performance is captivating.

Ultimately, Under the Bridge isn’t a story of “how we caught the killers” or a black-and-white tale of good guys tracking down the bad, one in which “justice” will be achieved if the correct people are identified and adequately punished. While it doesn’t elude tired tropes altogether, it is interested in uncomfortable truths, unbearable compromises, the desperation for safety and the quest for the deceptively protective illusion of power that pushes us apart when compassion, as uncool as it is, is right there for the taking.

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Riese

Riese is the 41-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

Riese has written 3182 articles for us.

2 Comments

  1. Riese, darling
    An impressive series and a must watch and must read on my list. I have searched it all over and have found it.
    No, it’s not available in the Netherlands.
    Big thank you for the tip and the info!
    Feromoon

Comments are closed.

How Do I Re-Friend-Zone My Friend After the Worst Sex of My Life?

How do you let her down easy when you never planned to for this? Because if the sex wasn't so bad, you'd probably still be hooking up...

Q:

So, there’s a girl in my friend group who I was getting closer to around the time that she and her ex broke up. We kinda started flirting a little bit but like, harmless flirting (we’re both queer and party a lot what are you gonna do). This eventually lead to a hook-up after we were the last people left at the bar after a group hang. We were drunk, it seemed like a fun idea. But actually it was not fun. It was some of the worst sex of my life and I don’t really have any interest in hooking up again. She sexted me the next morning about how hot it was and I agreed just to be nice, but have ...

Join a crew of extraordinary humans who keep Autostraddle here for everyone!  Already a member? Sign In

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

the team

auto has written 715 articles for us.

Will ‘Baby Reindeer’ Welcome a New Era of Complex Television?

When I first started writing about TV professionally in 2018, media criticism was like a checklist. The Bechdel test, named after a queer artist whose work is actually multifaceted and complicated, provided a readily copied guide. Does a movie do right by its characters with marginalized identities? Why sit in the complications of art and life when it’s so much easier to have a yes or no? The “rules” that were established were not random. The desire to see lesbian characters ride off into the sunset instead of dying was born out of the shear number of fictional lesbians whose deaths felt empty and cruel. The desire to only see trans actors in trans roles was born out of the lack of opportunities for trans actors and the social impact of associating trans people with cis people playing dress up. Some of these rules, in my opinion, hold more value than others. (I still think trans roles should predominantly be played by trans actors.) But I look back on my own early pieces of criticism with judgment. One of my earliest reviews was a pan of JT LeRoy that criticized the casting of Kristen Stewart. Now I see little difference between a “cis” dyke like Stewart and a trans person like Savannah Knoop — it’s different than Eddie Redmayne throwing on a dress to get an Oscar nom. The issue with JT LeRoy wasn’t Stewart’s casting but the film’s inability to say or do anything interesting with its interesting story. A few months later, I reviewed Euphoria and had developed enough as a writer to bring in more complexity. But I still felt stuck on the way that show connected interest in a trans girl with bisexuality and sexual shame. Again, that wasn’t the real issue — it wasn’t what was being shown but how it was done. The problem with putting forth these “rules” isn’t just that excellent, complicated art can often be unfairly critiqued. It’s also a matter of how little it accomplishes. Artists who want to reduce the humanity of queer and trans people have continued to do so — even if they’re less likely to kill their poorly written lesbian character or they cast a trans woman to play the one-note projection of cis fascinations. Rules can be obliged while the reasons for the rules are ignored — kind of like a stalker who ruins someone’s life while technically never doing anything illegal. Richard Gadd’s Baby Reindeer, based on his own life, is about one such stalker. Or, rather, it’s about Donny Dunn, a standup comedian whose history of abuse and shame around his bisexuality make him a prime target for a serial stalker’s fixations. The first episode introduces us to Donny (Gadd) and to his stalker Martha (Jessica Gunning), who at first appears sad and unwell but ultimately harmless. The second episode introduces us to Teri (Nava Mau), a trans woman who Donny meets on a dating site. At this point in the series, the show breaks all the rules. While Donny’s narration lends an awareness that he knows his shame around dating a trans woman is wrong, it still frames Teri, a human being separate from Donny’s inner conflict, as a sort of teaching tool. Here is an amazing woman who is confident and without shame! Watch as this man agonizes over his attraction to her because he can’t get over society’s bullshit! When the episode ends with him abandoning Teri on the tube, along with an audiovisual representation of a panic attack, my eyes rolled so far back in my head they could’ve made me choke. But Baby Reindeer is a show that reveals itself little by little. It plays with our expectations, then subverts them, then reaffirms them but with an honesty we don’t expect. Ultimately, Donny is not a stereotypical straight man agonizing over his attraction to a trans woman. He’s a bisexual survivor of ongoing sexual abuse who is struggling to open himself up to any intimacy. Fixating his shame on Teri’s transness is just his way of avoiding the deeper, more personal shame. Society tells Donny that men are supposed to feel grossed out by trans women. Society tells Donny that men aren’t supposed to experience sexual abuse. And so he decides his complicated feelings about Teri are only due to her identity. This doesn’t make it any easier to watch Teri navigate Donny’s feelings about her. She doesn’t know about his trauma and makes the same assumption I did. It’s painful to watch Donny’s PTSD and it’s painful to watch Teri think it’s her fault. Just like it’s painful to watch Martha be violently transphobic toward Teri and also painful to watch someone so unwell receive so little help. Throughout the show, the police range from incompetent to callous. That’s because Martha doesn’t need the police or prison — she needs medical help. Donny and the police are waiting for Martha to break a rule, to cross lines that will allow the police to arrest her. But what if more specific attention was paid to this case? What if Martha and Donny were approached as two individuals with a specific set of circumstances? What did these two individuals need? This is not how our society functions, but it is the society we can aspire to. It’s also what we can aspire to in our media. Eventually, Donny accepts his bisexual identity, something he comes to after being raped by a man and while dating a trans woman. This violates two rules of representation. Media isn’t supposed to show rape as a cause of queerness nor bisexuality as a prerequisite for desiring a trans woman. But the show says neither of these things. Baby Reindeer isn’t about all people. It’s about Donny, it’s about Richard Gadd. Isn’t it better to have hyper-specific stories grounded in real experiences rather than pretending like people never come to their queerness after abuse or that trans people don’t often date bisexuals? As my years of writing criticism add up, I feel more and more adamant that we cannot create from a place of fear. We will never succeed at convincing those who want to hate us not to hate us. We cannot fight any number of stigmas by reducing the complexities of life into rules and checklists. Instead we need more shows like Baby Reindeer — challenging work that leads with empathy and a commitment to the many contradictions of our world.
Baby Reindeer is now streaming on Netflix.
Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Drew Burnett Gregory

Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

Drew Burnett has written 521 articles for us.

1 Comment

  1. Good lord that was a lot. What an expression of how “hurt people hurt people.” The whole writer aspect of it was jarring throughout as well. Just read that he wrote the confession as a show, not a spontaneous breakdown. I’m actually relieved to hear that! At least sharing the story was able to be a decision for him.

    Like this review says, there’s so much that is/could be read as problematic about the show. I hope that doesn’t keep people (who wouldn’t be triggered by the like 500 possible trigger warning situations here!!) from watching it. Wow. Thanks for the nudge to engage with this.

Comments are closed.

Mini Crossword Holds a Grudge


“Sure,” I said. “My door is always open.”

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!
Related:

Darby Ratliff

Darby is a queer crossword constructor and graduate student living in St. Louis.

Darby has written 30 articles for us.

AS Insider #109 April ’24: All the ‘Rejected’ April Fool’s Day Headlines

Letter From Your Editors

Happy Spring to all you April flowers! (And yes, I realize that it’s April showers that bring May flowers, but “Happy Spring to all you April showers!” did not have the same ring to it, so y’all are just gonna have to let me have this one.)

Carmen / Em / Motti / Ashni / DrewGabbie / Kayla / Nic / Nico / Sa'iydaRiese / Stef / Tima / Valerie Anne

Seriously!! Can you believe it’s Spring already? I don’t know why, but it feels like 2024 is just zooming on by. Some of that, I’m sure, comes from the fact that since we’ve last gotten together (for our 15th birthday, awwww!!), my life has been marked by:

The new Beyoncé album! And yes I will always ...

Join a crew of extraordinary humans who keep Autostraddle here for everyone!  Already a member? Sign In

Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today — if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?

Join AF+!

The Editors

The has written 146 articles for us.