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Lindsay posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 11 years, 8 months agoI think I’m going to post this question in a few groups to try to maximize advice… Please comment if you have any thoughts!
I’m a queer cis femme college grad who just started seeing a female-bodied genderqueer person who goes by the pronouns they/their/them. I’m doing my best to get used to using these pronouns, which I consistently do when…[Read more]
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Well, as someone who is only out to some people as trans, I ask people when I tell them about me to continue using my old name and pronouns in public. My guess then for you would to be continuing using female pronouns until you’re able to talk with them about it.
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Nikki, thank you for your advice! I thought I had responded but apparently not–sorry! See my response to smartypants below if you’re interested in how things turned out… thanks again for your input.
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I maybe a little late to this party but wanted to lend some support–and also, applaud both your sensitivity and sense of politeness. I’m a big fan of being polite! Perhaps since your original comment was about a month ago, you’d be willing to let us know how it evolved for you?–what did you decide? How did you choose to negotiate this?–hope all is well.
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Hey! Sorry for the slow response… saw this at work last week and didn’t get to reply. I ended up finally talking to the person about the pronoun question a couple weeks ago. They told me that they prefer for me/people to use their pronouns (they/their) in the company of others, since using she/her can create an uncomfortable disconnect on the…[Read more]
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Well done Lindsay for having that conversation with your friend–and if I remember correctly, a romantic friend, n’est ce pas? In which case, I hope it’s going well…..
W/r/t friends who keep blowing it with the pronouns–I think calling on it “in the moment” (no Italics!) is probs the way I would go. Like small children and puppies, training…[Read more]
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any fellow sociologists in here?
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Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 11 years, 9 months agoGee girls, the ‘straddle poll says only 6% of ‘straddlers are over 35. PALEASE do not tell me I’m the grandmother of this site, please!
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No you ARE not the grandma!! I’m so old I can’t even figure out how to put my picture in my profile LOL…I did the whole Gravatar thing…NOW WHAT?!
Hope there are more of us over 40 and just came out gals!
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I feel the same way. I’m so new to this site, I feel like a baby, but since I’m 40 I feel like an outcast.
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I’m 66 and just starting to live as the lesbian that I’ve been denying all these years! I’m the Grandma Lesbian here!!! Now to find the love of my life….big job.
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Us over 40 late bloomers need to stick together. I still haven’t quite decided if I am or not, I’ve questioned my sexuality a few times over the years but, while relationships with men don’t quite feel right, I can’t say I want an intimate relationship with a woman either. So now what?
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Marsha posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 11 years, 9 months agoChrissie, gender identity and assigned birth sex are not always the same and that is quandry to which transgender people find themselves. Most people don’t even think about whetther their bodies properly represent their inner gender, for transpeople it is a daily struggle to attempt to socialize and self identify when we feel alien to our own…[Read more]
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sean posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 11 years, 9 months agoI’ve been thinking a lot about gender lately. What a amazingly mind fucky topic to think about.
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Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 11 years, 9 months agoThis is so funny, just today in a comment i was saying there should be a group for the late bloomers on account of how we’re in much different circumstances than the younger queers are.
I mean even just beside the how to meet women aspect. You know?
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Heather posted an update in the group
Grad School Straddlers 11 years, 9 months ago
i haven’t started grad school but i’ve been working on my apps. i plan to get my mph! i’m terrified. any words of advice/encouragement would be greatly appreciated! :)
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