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Samantha Wassman posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 10 years, 10 months ago
So, I am 17 years of age, and I have been out a little over a year now. You would think that I would have some knowledge on how to be part of the greater gay community, yet I don’t. I’m trying to create myself, my look, and my life in general. First of all, I want people (specifically other LESBIANS) to look at me and know that I’m gay. I know…[Read more]
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CatD posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 5 months ago
I have an issue. I’m volunteering at this newspaper and there’s a guy who works there part-time. He’s a nice dude, but obvs I’m not into that whole thing. He seems to think we have this connection and he’s constantly flirting with me and telling me he wants to get together at weekends.
The major issue is that he’s from a country where queers…[Read more]-
You could also keep turning him down for weekend get-togethers and it might hit him one day that you’re not interested.
I don’t tell people I’m gay. I let my body language let them know I’m not interested. Usually works.
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Some dudes really can’t take a hint, though, especially those who have been nursing a particular crush for a while. You often need to be direct.
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Well, you could always use the lie straight girls use – ”I have a boyfriend.”(although of course, this has a lot of potential to backfire)
More seriously, though, I would just be direct and tell him you’re not interested. If you’re worried you might reading too much into his behavior (as I was when I was in this situation a few months ago), just…[Read more]
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Well it seems my problem has solved itself. He got a new job. Now I just have to hope that he doesn’t call me every weekend like he said he wanted to.
I don’t mind telling him I’m queer but I just don’t think he’d get it. Ah well. I need not fret any longer.
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Val posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 5 months ago
Hello,
I recently started a GSA/QSU/Coalition at my high school. We had a really good turn out for our first meeting, considering my school is really unspirited about most things. I am trying to think of topics that we could discuss at our next meeting. Any suggestions?-
PS: We already talked about how we feel the our school’s environment concerning the LGBT community, although we had an all girl turn out.
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You can talk about who in the group is out and who’s not! In my GSA we always made sure noone inadvertently outed someone in their other social situations by mentioning what they may have said. We also discouraged talking about personal information from GSA outside of GSA.
You can also discuss whether anyone’s facing any hardships like coming…[Read more]
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Thank you. I will keep them in mind.
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Alissa posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 5 months ago
Hey straddlers so i have a non-straddler question that involves my dad. My dad is quitting smoking and i know this is gonna be crazy hard for him but i was wondering if anyone had any advice to make this easy on him? Like atmosphere wise? If anyone has gone through the process of quitting i could use some advice. I’m so proud of him and thought i…[Read more]
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When my father quit smoking he’d put the money he want to spend on cigarettes and put it in a jar and bought a new stereo with the money. It worked really well, but he didn’t have all that much trouble stopping.
My mother was a different story. She would look for something to fight about, so she could become upset and use it as an excuse to…[Read more]
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 6 months ago
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Rose posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 6 months ago
I am single again, after breaking up with my first bf (I am bi) and I’m wondering if I should start dating so soon or not. I’m still pretty sad, basically what happened is my bf figured out he was gay and it was frustrating because he’s my best friend and I’ve been crushing on him for years and thought he was THE ONE and all that stuff. I feel…[Read more]
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Lindsay posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 7 months ago
I think I’m going to post this question in a few groups to try to maximize advice… Please comment if you have any thoughts!
I’m a queer cis femme college grad who just started seeing a female-bodied genderqueer person who goes by the pronouns they/their/them. I’m doing my best to get used to using these pronouns, which I consistently do when…[Read more]
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honestly, you’ve answered your own question. really, do just go up to your partner and ask. they’re the only one who’ll know the right answer, and it won’t seem like you’re getting ahead of yourself at all.
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thanks for your advice! i know it’s pretty obvious, but i just didn’t want to… you know… seem like i was falling too hard/too fast by suggesting that i’m talking about them ALL THE TIME. but i think i will just go ahead and ask next time we’re together. thanks again!
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don’t worry about it! if anything, they’ll be flattered that you’re 1) willing to talk about them with your friends (seems like a small gesture, but it means a lot) and 2) concerned about being respectful and doing right by them. you really can’t go wrong here, so go for it!
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 8 months ago
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BJ replied to the forum topic Abusive relationship in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 8 months ago
Hi Paige,
Before I address your relationship know this first: don’t EVER consider suicide an option NO MATTER WHAT! Talk to people on AutoStraddle, call the Trevor Hotline, talk to your best friends and family […] -
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Paige started the forum topic Abusive relationship in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 8 months ago
“Numerous studies done between the 1980 and 1994 report that lesbian relationships have higher overall rates of interpersonal aggression (including psychological aggression/emotional abuse) than heterosexual or […]
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Autostraddle has some sweet fashion advice! Have you read any of their articles yet? Also I like to look at Qwear (http://qwear.tumblr.com) for inspiration and advice. Also maybe an alternative-lifestyle haircut? Autostraddle has some cool galleries of haircuts too.
Obviously just wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident and peoples…[Read more]