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Kai posted an update in the group
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Hey, so I guess I’m looking for advice, I’d love to be all casual and cool coming out to my classmates when it sort-of tangentially comes up in conversation, but I never take the opportunity. Today a classmate was asking me why I didn’t have a boyfriend yet, and I just kind of mumbled and nodded because it felt like my legs were gonna explode. I’m…[Read more]
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I have the same problem. There have been so many opportunities for me to just mention it, but I always clam up. I guess I don’t really have any advice, just commiseration.
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That’s okay! It’s good to know I’m not the only one!
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Oh man, I’ve been there. I went to a Catholic high school (I didn’t even THINK about coming out there) and now I’m at a historically Catholic college within a secular university where a lot of the people are still Catholic or were at least raised that way.
I just have to say that there are some people who are more accepting than you would think,…[Read more]
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some people may not think for a fact that you are straight i know tonss of people who use that question to make sure your really a lesbian and to confirm that the rumors are true you know?
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also i’ve been through the same thing but it helps to just nnot think about what your saying and just blurt out well…im gay and then after that things go one of 2 ways the bad way or the good way which usually means a shit ton of questions :)
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Hey I was having the same problem recently….I kept missing all the obvious cues and was starting to go a bit crazy…in the end I just forced it into the conversation, it was awkward, but its out and I feel better now :) just go for it x
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Michelle posted an update in the group
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Okay, so I shouldn’t be this scared coming out on freaking Autostraddle but I am because…I am bisexual, and I’m sort of concerned I’m going to be on the receiving end of “why are you trying to come out as bi on a LESBIAN website?” biphobia. Anyway, I’ve made some tiny coming out baby steps last year (working it in to relative conversations with…[Read more]
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You should just go to a meeting, even if you don’t have much to say and it’s awkward at first. What’s to lose? Don’t feel out of place or like you don’t belong because you’re bi–I’ve been out as bi for 10 yrs now (I’m 26) and I know that even when I’m with a straight boyfriend, my life and experiences are still different from a straight person’s…[Read more]
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I went to PFLAG meetings at university because I felt I needed gay identity and to know other gay people. They were so friendly, welcoming, and nice. So did you end up going to any meetings?
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I went to the drop-in centre at my school a couple of times. Even though no one knew how I identified (because no one can really ask), it was awkward because people seemed to know each other and I was out of place. I’m hoping to go to queer orientation week next year, which I was too afraid/discouraged by rain to attend this year.
I’ve gotten…[Read more]
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How about meeting girls online for dates or for friendship only? Sometimes I meet lesbian couples for friendship and maybe they can introduce me to their single friends; plus I get to know more queer people. I belonged to several dating sites before I met my wife. I just looked up to see if there were lots of girls who like girls in Toronto or…[Read more]
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cartmel posted an update in the group
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I know that I’m gay, but I’ve been sexually involved with men, and I’m even hetero-married though we have been separated from some time. I am saving up for a divorce, we are on speaking terms and right now $300 to drop on divorce forms at LegalZoom seems so postponable. If there was like, a negative star lesbian rating to give me, I’d get it. I’ve…[Read more]
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Hey, I’d say that you have permission to call yourself a lesbian lesbian if you feel like one. You don’t have to apologize for a heterosexual past. Sexuality is more convoluted than a lot of people think, and there are many people (myself included) who feel that they are no longer comfortable in their assumed sexual identity and need a new “label”…[Read more]
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Wow, thanks for that reply. I like the ‘future intentions’ way of looking at identity. Coolness! Now I can skip off into the sunset! And thanks again!
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Ash posted an update in the group
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Coming out during Christmas advice needed.
Over the summer I in fact came out to my parents, who are incredibly Christian/conservative/butawesome. It went well in the fact that they aren’t treating me differently, it went bad in the way that they aren’t about to acknowledge my queerness anytime soon and think that 23 years of life with only one 9…[Read more]
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I really wish this forum program would recognize spaces, because all of that is actually neatly spaced paragraphs instead of a large blob of text.
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Wow. I don’t know that I have any useful advice. Have you considered talking to your parents beforehand and seeing if they’re cool with it? I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not.
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I feel like you have been considerate of your family for awhile now with not coming out to the rest of the family. Maybe this will be a great opportunity to share the news with everyone else at the same time your cousin is going to tell everyone shes been married for a year secretly. I feel like your situation will balance out the other. Might not…[Read more]
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