just remember that your 30s are better than your 20s. You’re still young, and you’ve got your shit a little bit more together than you did when you were in your 20s. :)

You have to ask. Just think – maybe that hot girl over there is actually gay and too shy to approach you. Maybe she’s afraid you’re not gay.
The only thing you have to fear is maybe an awkward laugh – in my experience most straight women have been flattered by my attentions and very kind in rejecting me.
Wear a rainbow bracelet or something. It’s…[Read more]

in gay bars or parties? I assume everyone there is gay even though women will always ask me if I’m straight, it’s annoying but I suppose it solves things for them, I say look for eye contact and short fingernails.

Sounds strange but talk to, flirt, and hit on all ladies (young and old) to practice. I practice with ladies working at malls, grocery stores, etc. Brings a smile to their monotonous day and it’s good practice for confidence building. Then when you meet a girl who likes girls, you will be less nervous. A non offending flattering line might be……[Read more]

Hmmm that’s a really good question. Unfortch, no matter how you approach another lez she might think you are hitting on her. I would try maybe joining an athletic team, speaking to girls in bars/clubs, maybe scouting out a queer bookstore or a cafe in a queer neighborhood. Good luck!

The LGBT organization in my area has groups for various age groups and interests. You might see if you can find anything like that. I recently moved to a new area, and I’ve made several gay friends through that.